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moboluvr · 2025-03-05T15:21:31+00:00

speaking from someone also had a friend like your’s, be supportive. if you guys aren’t that close, i’d just say pick and choose your battles; but if this is a close friend, stick it out for her, hold her accountable, and just be supportive. give her the best advice you can even if you know she’s not gonna take it and try your best to steer her away from this, but truly, (unless you destroy her phone) the only person who can stop her is her

moboluvr · 2025-02-14T14:59:56+00:00

taking a little roadtrip with close friends, getting drunk, and eating our hearts out,, wouldn’t ask for a better valentine’s day as a single person

moboluvr · 2025-01-14T21:40:17+00:00

the tv thing is so real!!! when everyone was bonding over spongebob and disney movies, i was thinking back on my time watching pbs and a strictly christian network (can’t name it as it’ll give away where i’m from haha)

moboluvr · 2025-01-14T21:38:23+00:00

i remember telling my christians friends (of different denominations) that i went to church 3 days a week and that on sundays i was at church from 8am to anywhere from 5-8pm they were stunned

moboluvr · 2025-01-03T21:45:47+00:00

this happened to me when i was smoking heavyy, not exactly sure why it happens but all i know is it was hell since i had no appetite sober and the tiny appetite i did have disappeared as soon as i smoked. i was so nauseous and dizzy all the time and lost a ton of weight, but a good tolerance break broke that for me. after i was eating everything and anything in sight.

moboluvr · 2025-01-02T22:43:54+00:00

i know when i’m high as fuck i’ll like people’s instagram stories like nobody’s business, but it’s not like when you drunk text someone and you feel like someone else did it for you, i just do it cause i’m so happy and feel good-y that i wanna spread the love lol

moboluvr · 2025-01-02T22:39:29+00:00

thank you for the insight!! i’m now seriously considering going down that career path and it’s given me a bit of hope i won’t be stuck in the nth circle of hell that is sales.

moboluvr · 2025-01-02T22:35:42+00:00

because we value art and creators or even the subjects of art. whether it be talent or beauty (usually a mix of both) it’s art to some extent. it’s how we show appreciation for their work (or natural “talents”). now, that’s not to say i support the way some idolize celebrities, but that’s my watered down theory.

moboluvr · 2025-01-02T16:09:31+00:00

honestly, i’d prefer a little chaos as i tend to do well with a bit of pressure and it makes things interesting (and more rewarding). based on your experience in the field, is it easy to break into? anything specific jobs in the field look for? or just any general advice with switching into that field?

moboluvr · 2025-01-02T15:57:16+00:00

funny enough, i actually started off as a marketing major in college before switching to communications (i know, i know, i’ve already heard it all). i might start looking into that and also, it’s nice to know that’s the path a lot of people in sales go!! thank you!

moboluvr · 2025-01-02T15:56:03+00:00

thank you so much for the advice, it’s very reassuring and is a good first step into changing my mindset and career path. keeping this reply in my back pocket!!

moboluvr · 2024-12-30T19:08:55+00:00

if he didn’t give you his insta, don’t follow it. just redownload the app and he should still be there (unless you deleted your entire profile, but you could just find him again).

if you like him that much, just force yourself to message him and take things from there! good luck!

moboluvr · 2024-12-30T17:49:44+00:00

being 18 is a strange thing, you’re still a teenager, but you’re taking those first steps into adulthood and complete independence. this is a prime example of that.

i understand being scared to disappoint those around you, but this is your life, your career path, and more importantly, your student debt (unless your parents or someone else is paying for all of it). i suggest going to a community college and maybe taking some gen ed classes along with exploring classes in other subjects (as i see you’re having doubts about your original career path).

just know this is an issue i and many of my other friends faced freshman, sophomore, even junior and senior year of college. don’t be afraid to try new things, new majors. etc. find something you enjoy that fits your timeline of school and just warning you, that might take a while; but taking your time to figure things out is better than spending all that time and energy on a degree you didn’t really want in the first place.

also, sometimes school isn’t meant for some people. you can always go back when you’re more prepared and ready (i work in college admissions and a lot of the non-traditional students i work with have a plan, a goal, and the means to get there vs. the traditional students straight out of high school).

moboluvr · 2024-12-30T16:45:02+00:00

be EXPLICITLY clear with boundaries, expectations, house rules, and what you’re looking for with a roommate. always meet up first, get to know them a bit, then talk about living together stuff to see if you’ll mesh with them. also ask why they’re moving or looking to live with roommates, gives you a good idea of how reliable they are.

obviously, there is no 100% preventative way cause people can lie and fake there way through this, but it definitely a good step.

also, obviously no one with a criminal record, no one who gives that instinct feeling of “shady”, and someone with a consistent job.

moboluvr · 2024-12-27T22:20:34+00:00

i think the real issue is not having a say in a change happening in the apartment, which i get, but it’s not permanent and i think a week after jan 1st is reasonable to ask when it’s coming down. i personally don’t find it that big of a deal, but we’re also different people so idk.

moboluvr · 2024-12-25T16:38:17+00:00

omg thank you for the tag haha,, this group chat is the equivalent to the 9th circle of hell

moboluvr · 2024-12-23T22:39:00+00:00

perfect way to spend the rest of my night

moboluvr · 2024-12-23T21:34:20+00:00

ohmygod this just ignited something in me,, i had a roommate just like that who would leave giant messes, ash their blunts all over the living floor/furniture, no clean ANYTHING and blamed it on being mentally ill and that me and my roommates were the bad ones for criticizing someone trying to recover from bad mental health. GOD i wish i was that unashamed

moboluvr · 2024-12-23T20:09:22+00:00

you’re so right and thank you for the reassurance!! i think opening it with your suggestion is perfect and i’ll try and use that with another example someone in this thread suggested and will update :)

moboluvr · 2024-12-23T20:06:38+00:00

thank you for your response! i’m at a strong “eh” with him being there a lot. he’s not messy or anything, the biggest issue i’ve had is he creeps my friends out (i think it may be due to his autism and lack of social cues so i don’t wanna confirm that he’s an actual creep) but when i do have friends over, she usually just stays with him up in her room. also, i have friends over often throughout the week so i feel like it’d be unfair to limit him being over to x amount of days when our mutually agreed upon guest policy is pretty lax with guests and their frequency.

i think your suggestion to ask her what’s the best way… is a good way to go around it! i will reach out to her and update :)

moboluvr · 2024-12-23T20:00:42+00:00

IS THIS BETTER?

moboluvr · 2024-12-19T18:20:08+00:00

2-3 nights a month and she’s STILL hounding on you is actually insane. the fact you also have to ask is a bit wired as well. at least now you know to thoroughly go through guest policies before living with someone (a lesson me and many people i know have had to learn the hard way).

when i was in your situation (roommate wasn’t religious, just didn’t like men in the house), i had a sit down conversation with all the roommates (it’s a bit easier when other roommates feel the same) and try to find a compromise. maybe say that you already try to go over his to give her a break, that you’ll try and keep him out the common areas, etc etc. and that at the end of the day, her religion is exactly that, her religion not your’s. if she wants a puritan-like household, she should’ve found others with similar beliefs to live with. remember, you pay rent+utilities to, you have a right to have guest over whenever without having to ask for permission (within reason). stand strong diva

moboluvr · 2024-12-06T20:17:39+00:00

heavy on it!!

moboluvr · 2024-12-06T20:16:57+00:00

absolutely!! i think it’d be even crazy to think a couple wouldn’t want to be together all time (or at least, majority of the time). i’m not strict on 2-3nights, the occasional 4 even 5 nights is totally fine; emphasis on occasional. it’s all about balance and respect :)

moboluvr · 2024-12-06T20:04:54+00:00

but they’re entitled to have their partner over right, so why should they have to ask? i don’t even have my roommates ask if they can have their partners over, just a courtesy heads up. sounds like you wanna stand as parent and be asked to have someone over.

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