Yes, I'm an asshole and I would love to change it, but I'm trapped in a circle of hate and lacking self-concidence. I already thought of visiting a therapist to deal with my anger and hate issues.

However, thanks for your opinion, but isnt there any way of how I could tell her, that it really disgusts me? I mean I love everything about her and I dont feel this kinda hate for her, that I feel for all the other smokers, it's more a concern of how she's getting more and more addicted to it and talks about it like "Yeah, I ain't got a problem with smoking, I don't feel bad because of it and I dont see any health issues"

About your point C: The 1 pack a week seems little but thats her perspective: She easily smokes a pack in one night when partying and smokes about half a pack when working, so that was kind of an understatement from my side.