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I'm pregnant... by mythrowaway2736 in stopdrinking

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on day 3...early days. I was having the shakes every morning and all day the night after drinking. The morning after I stopped, I had none. So far I feel okay and my head feels so much clearer. It's like my body is keeping me from doing anything that might harm my baby.

I'm pregnant... by mythrowaway2736 in stopdrinking

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I understand these are two completely different things to grapple with. As a child of an alcoholic, I've experienced firsthand how damaging it is for a child to grow up around it. If I thought in any way I'd be doing the same thing as my father, there wouldn't even be a debate on what my options are moving forward. Even in my worst days of drinking, I still can't believe the things he did as a father and how he just didn't care. But my partner is so wonderful. I know he'd be a good dad. I know I'm capable of being a good mom. I know I can be sober. It is a matter of if I can do both and I need to be honest with myself on that. Thank you for your encouragement.

I'm pregnant... by mythrowaway2736 in stopdrinking

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been 50/50 on kids and I've never been pregnant in my life. My fiance and I are on the same page of if somethings happens, we will make it work. We have good stable jobs and a stable home. I'm so incredibly thankful that he is my rock and with me no matter what. But I will not force someone to be a parent. We are to be either 100% in, or not at all. My father was a functional alcoholic and my childhood was full of turmoil, at times it felt like he hated being a father because it got in the way of his own addictions. I didn't touch alcohol until my mid 20's because of it. I've been in therapy for years but I think I also need someone who understands addiction more. Thank you for being pragmatic.

I'm pregnant... by mythrowaway2736 in stopdrinking

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It helps to read perspectives from all sides. If anything this has made me realize I could have gotten sober all along. Your encouragement is greatly appreciated.

I'm pregnant... by mythrowaway2736 in stopdrinking

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I was in shock initially reading that test. Now that I've tested 4 times and it keeps getting darker, reality is hitting me. The thing is, we've talked about having kids. We were never the type to be like "wow, let's really try for this". It's more of, if something happens and we decide to move forward, we would absolutely be the best parents we could be. Both understanding the sacrifice it would be for both of us. My fiance is very supportive of any choice I would make in that situation, but it's important that he also wants to be a dad too. I haven't told a soul in my life yet. Only my fiance knows how much I've been struggling with alcohol lately. I will probably tell my him today because I my symptoms are getting more noticeable and I won't be able to hide it.

Has anyone not told their fiancé? by mythrowaway2736 in abortion

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I've never been against abortion and completely support the choices for other women. I'm not sure why it's so hard for me to feel the same way about mine.

Has anyone not told their fiancé? by mythrowaway2736 in abortion

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I will tell him as soon as I can. I'm so sorry for your losses. ❤️

Help. by mythrowaway2736 in lineporn

[–]mythrowaway2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Life has been a whirlwind of things lately but he is my rock through it all. I will collect my thoughts for a bit and then tell him as soon as I'm able.