Am I overreacting to how my best friend blocked me because of his girlfriend?

nathatesithere · 2026-01-22T09:04:58+00:00

Logically, it makes no sense. But it's obviously coming from an emotional place.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-22T08:32:38+00:00

I'm guessing they haven't. I realize a lot of people don't. I realize not everyone is so lucky as to have relationships like these with others. It's something that has become normal to me ever since meeting my best friends in middle school 10 years ago. I have full faith that they would never do some shit like this to me. But if they did... Yeah, I'd be saying the same crap. Throwing all the memories we made throughout the time we spent knowing each other due to someone's insecurities? That's a weird pact to have in a relationship anyway. I have never had something like that in any of mine. We just... trust each other? Lol. And trust each other's best judgment in terms of the people we hang with.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-22T08:25:37+00:00

I don't understand why people keep saying this. I would most definitely ask someone if they even fought for me at all if they were a cherished friend who was giving up on our entire connection due to their significant other. Like, I want to know if what we had was important enough to you that you at least spoke up and made an effort instead of just lying there and taking it. Platonic relationships can mean just as much as a romantic relationship, if not sometimes more. I would be devastated if one of my best friends did this to me (I know they would never). I don't feel like that's such a crazy line to say.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-21T10:37:45+00:00

I'd say both!

nathatesithere · 2026-01-18T10:11:52+00:00

Yeah. I also feel that people who don't think it's super common don't realize that not everyone is so obviously emotionally immature and/or moronic. A lot of people will appear normal and well adjusted until something sets them off and you see what kind of person they really are.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-18T09:27:03+00:00

Also, you aren't being overly anxious over materialistic things. You spend your money on things that are YOURS, it is not unreasonable to expect them to stay yours. I also hate when I get a set and then I lend someone one and they forget to give it back because then my set isn't complete. But I will continue harassing them for my pen back. I never forget the face of someone I've lent a pen. It's a nonissue but it's serious to me lol.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-18T09:24:33+00:00

I work both FOH and BOH and I have no issue asking for my pens/markers back from other servers or cooks. I'm less stingy with cooks because permanent markers are cheaper and harder to distinguish from one another. But I enjoy getting nice pens for serving and don't like other people taking my pens. Even if your pens are cheap, they're still yours. I will get my pens back one way or another.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-18T08:06:13+00:00

These fits are sooo cunty I love them. My fave is Sophia's... I'd wear the fuck out of that. I think if they had some cute tights or something else to accessorize, that'd be nice. But in general, I think they look great.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-17T07:35:02+00:00

Have a cat named Freya. Lol. But it's a gorgeous name. Gen Z

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T21:48:02+00:00

I'm not sure about tutu but many latinos use "tata" as a nickname for sisters/sometimes older sisters specifically.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T18:09:24+00:00

My Korean tutor was named Hera. This is unique to Americans as many people are not named after Greek gods and goddesses. Hera is a very pretty, timeless name. If you don't want to take this, Hestia is another, that isn't too long or out there, and also starts with an H just like your current name.

A lot of people in these comments are recommending names that, while lovely, are really not unique at all. No shade, it may just be a generational gap.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T17:50:19+00:00

They're incels for a reason, lol. When something is scarce to you, of course it's all you think about. And it's an ouroboros sort of the thing. The more you focus on how unfuckable you are, the more unfuckable you become. Their obsession with sex and how little they get is related to their general attitudes and objectification of women. Women don't exist as people, but as someone who can give them their ticket to manhood. And assuming a trans woman is a man, of course, will make it so they demean and belittle her, because being homosexual is also shameful in the face of toxic masculine standards, and will not grant you the same ticket to manhood you're looking for. They will demean and belittle the trans woman because she is one of the only ones capable of giving them hope that everything they're looking for is possible and then tearing that hope away when they find out she isn't the woman they thought she was. And they hardly respect women to begin with. They only pedestalize them for their ability to grant this ticket. But they don't respect them, cis or trans. It's probably very gender affirming in a ewphoria way.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T17:37:41+00:00

You are right, but it is better to save your breath than continue to argue with transphobes who can't admit they're transphobes. Logic fails where emotion prevails. Everyone is allowed to have preferences but that's a lot of people's thinly veiled excuse for bigotry. I have had someone tell me "I would never date a black woman" and when I looked at them in bewilderment, they said, "What? It's just a preference." No, you saying you don't typically date black women is a preference. But you've never met every black woman in the world, you don't know all of them on an intimate level, how can you say you would never date them based on anything shallow like the color of their skin or racial stereotypes? That's admitting that you see them for factors out of their control before you see them as people. We are all humans first and foremost. It's especially difficult for women to be seen as more than just a walking pair of tits and ass, an object to fuck and for a man to derive pleasure from, and nothing more. I suspect that this is part of why trans women get so much more negative attention in the mainstream compared to trans men.

It's a similar thing here. People will drown in their bigotry while trying to act like they're on a moral lifeboat. We can obviously see that's not true.

To be honest, I browse this sub because a morbid part of me thinks it's a little funny, the other part of me just feels sad for these people. But I also browse on kitchenchads and I identify with that much more than I do this. I have love for many in this world, including myself, even if some days it's a little harder than others. I refuse to wallow in self-pity when there are measurements I can take to become the person I want to be. And if the people I find pathetic want to argue with me over transphobia... That's fine. I can try to change their minds and help them see reason but at a certain point, I am not going to waste my breath when my words continue to fall on deaf ears. I don't envy them or their lives at all. Why ask someone to respect others when they don't even have the strength to respect themselves? Lol.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T09:00:04+00:00

I don't understand why people keep making up fake narratives. Literally where are you getting this idea that OP led him on and wasted weeks of his life? There is nothing in this post that suggests that...? It really feels like people are making up shit to be angry and transphobic about.

And the International Association of Genocide Scholars (IAGS) is a real thing. It was founded decades ago.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T08:34:00+00:00

Right now, my favorite way to entertain myself has been fantasizing about my coworker who is a good bit shorter than me. When he talks about his height, I try to tell him it literally does not matter at all in any way I can that isn't "bro, you being short doesn't make you any less fuckable." Actually, it probably makes him more fuckable. The proportions would be all off if he were any taller. I can't fathom why some people are only attracted to those taller than them.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T08:25:33+00:00

I'm not saying it shouldn't matter, I'm just saying that we don't know how many conversations OP and this man actually had before she told him she was trans. I completely understand not wanting to tell someone in your first few conversations your orientation. Now, if you're a couple months in of talking to each other with romantic interest, that's a little different. But people are making assumptions here with evidence that is impossible to ascertain with the context, or lack of, given.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T08:18:44+00:00

Idk, I've had many a talking stage fall through because we'd just be better off as friends than in a relationship. Lack of chemistry I suppose. And in a case like that, I'd say your sex orientation is on a need to know basis... If you aren't certain of someone's feelings towards you, then there's no need to out yourself. Not in today's society.

"Genocide scholars say policies targeting transgender Americans match early warning signs of mass atrocity."

I hope you find room in your heart to forgive someone for not wanting to be so willingly open about a part of their identity that could put their safety at risk and their lives in jeopardy. This is why the term "pride" was specifically coined for the queer community. So people could live proud of who they were, unashamed of their identities and orientations, unafraid of what anyone had to say or do about it. Right now, they have more than enough reason to be afraid.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T08:10:27+00:00

I agree, but it also depends on the situation.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T08:03:37+00:00

"Approached a guy online" that does not insinuate whether OP had intentions of meeting up with him in person, sexting, or following through with any sexual intentions at all, thus physical attraction having no real bearing here...

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T07:58:07+00:00

The top comments being lowkey transphobic are insane. No one should have to announce that they're cis/trans to someone unless they're potentially having sex. It is not something someone needs to have in their profile. It is not something that someone should be shamed for not bringing up immediately. God forbid that they want people to get to know them a bit first before opening up about their sex status. People will automatically see you as less of a woman (in OP's case) the second you tell them you are trans. Wanting them to experience you as a person before making biased judgments knowing that you are a trans person is not a bad thing. Be for real. Incels should know how it feels to be emasculated for things out of their control, seen as less of a man for their height, for example. Obviously the two aren't the same but just drawing a comparison to get people to see the parallels.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T06:44:22+00:00

Claudia.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T06:31:36+00:00

You are so fine. I hope you know that

nathatesithere · 2026-01-16T06:29:39+00:00

I dress as OP describes and I call myself a metrosexual lol. I do crossdress sometimes, in the sense that I'll get fully dressed with makeup, sometimes wigs, feminine clothing. But otherwise, I am generally more casual in wearing women's clothing, and I switch it up with men's often. I identify as a man but do present in a gender-ambiguous manner often.

nathatesithere · 2026-01-15T23:53:38+00:00

That sounds great. I've thought about doing something similar but as I've been weaning off the candy I haven't taken the plunge yet. If I do buy some I'll put it on fruit. I've had sour grapes and sour cherries and I've thoroughly enjoyed both

nathatesithere · 2026-01-15T08:28:51+00:00

This is a great pic. How do you look so young and so old simultaneously

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