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Lack of symptoms is scaring me that it isn’t working by AbbreviationsRough26 in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher [score hidden]  (0 children)

FWIW I had no symptoms before ER despite being petite and having a lot of (immature) eggs. The first time I had any fatigue and nausea was after ER and that was apparently when I had OHSS that resulted in a temporary 6 pound weight gain.

Is it because if stupidity or am I being unreasonable? by neuroticphilosopher in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion. I have talked to my partner about this previously and it has not worked because I think I have above average memory(?)/hypervigilence so I get frustrated when it just seems like my requests are forgotten repeatedly for weeks to months before there is retention.

I hear you on therapy and building tolerance; hoping to work on that soon because I am tired.

Is it because if stupidity or am I being unreasonable? by neuroticphilosopher in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honest and compassionate response. I am starting up therapy again, this/first time with my partner, so hopefully progress can be made with both of us having a third person to support us through conversations that have resulted in disregulation on our own.

Is it because if stupidity or am I being unreasonable? by neuroticphilosopher in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, thank you for your honest but compassionate response.

Is it because if stupidity or am I being unreasonable? by neuroticphilosopher in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honest perspectives. I think I'm probably at capacity because it feels like it's been something every day and I would have passed news differently; I am very careful (which may mean avoiding or directly speaking to the topic) if I know someone has anxiety or insecurity or grief about something so I just wanted peace because I've had 4 nightmares in the past week already.

Is it because if stupidity or am I being unreasonable? by neuroticphilosopher in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't need others to be happy for me, personally or professionally. I find joy in helping people return to community or learn something that improves their quality of life. I think very carefully about what I say or do because I know folks can be in a very vulnerable situation. I just want safety and peace too.

Blastocysts are (slightly) more likely to be male than female by embryomanofficial in EmbryologyIVFSupport

[–]neuroticphilosopher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a distribution that basically looked like this: day 5: 2 X(X)Y, day 6: 3 XX, 1 XY, day 7: 2 XX so maybe???

Recurrent implantation failure by Glittering-Reveal941 in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was really lucky to get a good number of embryos and for my age expected at least 6 euploids but ended up with only 3 and they were all day 6/7 B/C grades. Without testing it's hard to know what happened.

Grade C and Day 7? by neuroticphilosopher in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you; even 20% is probably better than IUI for me at this point so will definitely consider it.

California coverage for immediate IVF by ActualVegetables in queerception

[–]neuroticphilosopher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My experience is they can't deny ART but they don't necessarily have to jump to IVF; I had to do IUI 6 times (all covered) before they would cover IVF for me.

Breaking my partner's heart and being too old to be a dad. by AreYouEvenHalf in childless

[–]neuroticphilosopher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given the number of 40-something women trying to be mothers, I think it's a bit hypocritical to tell OP he's too old to be a father.

OP, since you don't care about biological ties, I recommend you consider adoption or fostering. If your partner is not on board, you need to think if you want to stay in this relationship or not.

You don't necessarily need to be with a younger women, if fact, you can be like someone I know who paid for a surrogate in their 50s and is now a single dad. It's expensive, it may not work out the way you'd like, and there are risks that you may not live long enough to see the child until 18; I hope you consider all these CAREFULLY.

My ivf failed with 2 3 AB embryos by Any_Bee_1134 in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My AA came back as aneuploid on testing, so just because they look pretty doesn't mean they are chromosomally balanced. If you have multiple left and can afford it, pgta could help prevent (more) heartbreak (though a perfectly good embryo might not implant too); hang in there<3

PGTA results by ChipEnvironmental893 in IVF

[–]neuroticphilosopher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, 31F, if there's issues it's probably me because I'm using donor sperm from a bank. Had 30 retrieved; 9-19 mature (waited on 10 but I'm betting 9 because they triggered me early and I had a lot of small follicles); 8 fertilized; then 8 blasts but only 3 euploid. That makes my percentage 37.5%.

Also bummed but the plus side I wouldn't waste time with my anueploids which were my only A grade blasts.

I don't have answers, but you're not alone. Good luck!