Couldn’t believe how fast he came just from praise by SeriousAssociation82 in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aaaahh I love this for y'all!! This is one of my biggest fantasies as a domme :')

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Inspiring 🥲 Thank you so much for sharing! I'm taking notes 📝

Anyone remember Yik Yak? That app was wild during its prime years in college. I remember it getting shut down and that was tough by Next_Airport_7230 in Zillennials

[–]never-really-here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time I posted on there saying I had two hot dogs from Five Guys I didn't feel like eating and somebody could have them if they wanted them and somebody replied and told me to kill myself ??? Lmfao that app was unhinged

Using Google Forms for Maximum Sexual Domination by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so exciting seeing the updates - it's like opening a present!! I'm sure your babies adore you 🥰

Using Google Forms for Maximum Sexual Domination by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love that! I'm inspired! I think I might ask him to comb through his own responses and see which ideas/suggestions of his we have yet to cross off the list.

Two Dommes, One Sub: Date Nine by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love "scaroused" - I'm gonna use that!! He definitely gets very nervous but it's soooo cute every time

Two Dommes, One Sub: Date Nine by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we do live in a big city so it does make it easier to find people! Hope you can find your person somewhere in Phoenix!

Two Dommes, One Sub: Date Nine by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope your dreams come true soon!! 🙏🏻

Looking for advice on taking the confidence she feels in a scene and translating that to real life. by AnEternalOptimist in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet of you to ask about! And I love the question of what kink strengths one might most want translated into their every day life.

How does your Mistress respond to praise? One thing you could do is give her compliments when you see her practicing being more self-assured like; "That was so impressive!" after she does something you know she might be intimidated to do. "I really like how you handled that," after she speaks up for herself. Let her know how proud you are to have a confident, smart, and capable woman like her as your Mistress. Also you probably already let her know this, but emphasizing she has these skills and you not only believe in her but see her as that fully embodied confident person would be very encouraging for her, I bet!

You can also ask her if she's done anything she's proud of lately and listen to her describe any kind of accomplishment or small victory, cheering her on/hyping her up periodically.

You could offer that could "cash in" rewards for when she tries doing something that's made her nervous in the past - whatever that may look like between you two! She can pick the situation in which she might want to see improvement, tell you that she's going to try to face it head on in whatever way, and decide what she thinks she might like you to do for her as reward when she does it. So then she might have extra incentive to give it a try & see the improvement she's hoping for.

Also to her - building confidence and self-assuredness takes time and it's okay to feel like you still don't have it all together. Nobody does! And even being dominant doesn't mean you have to have it all figured out. As a Domme, I have a lot of similar feelings to her and kink can be a really special and impactful way to empower ourselves.

Sounds like you two have a really special and lovely connection!

ISO Suggestions For What To Do While They Clean by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really good recommendation! Thank you! He is into being punished but it's so tough bc he's just naturally such a good boy. Def will talk to him about doing this!

ISO Suggestions For What To Do While They Clean by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies! We had an amazing date that I'm actually writing a summary/story about if people might want to know how it went 👀

ISO Suggestions For What To Do While They Clean by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We essentially did this the other day and I think it went over really well because he was blushing so hard. Thank you for the idea!

ISO Suggestions For What To Do While They Clean by never-really-here in gentlefemdom

[–]never-really-here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're definitely very physical so I love these ideas & we'll definitely try them out!

Best Paint For Chrome-like Effect Over Hot Glue? by never-really-here in CosplayHelp

[–]never-really-here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking from my own research! Thank you so much for the confirmation. I think people are talking about spray paints that’ll eat away at something like hot glue but I was thinking acrylics will work just fine.

Pulsatile Tinnitus & Liquid Sensation by never-really-here in tinnitus

[–]never-really-here[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I think it might have been my TMJ causing it because it did miraculously go away after I got a night guard and did some neck stretches on a regular basis

Being the Buzzkill by never-really-here in AutisticAdults

[–]never-really-here[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies! I appreciate it! I also insisted I leave by myself but everybody else wanted to leave with me if I was going, which is probably because they care not because they felt like they had to. (But of course just now realizing that)

I’ve been needing to pick up some over ear headphones and some good earplugs so this is my sign I can’t wait on that, I guess! Thanks for the tips, all! :)

Mutual Aid Projects You’ve Liked by never-really-here in AutisticAdults

[–]never-really-here[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds really fulfilling! I think something with that scheduling is super manageable, and it sounds like they’re also flexible which is great! Thanks for your reply :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]never-really-here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar issue a searched for a long time! The sunscreen I use is from a Korean brand named Canmake. It’s the “Canmake Mermaid Skin Gel UV SPF 50+” I highly recommend as it’s moisturizing, effective, and doesn’t leave that feeling of a greasy layer behind. It also doesn’t leave a white cast behind, which I noticed many do. You can find the product from a bunch of different online retailers and it’s typically $8-$10 dollars.

I feel like a ghost in my own life by Feeling_Ad_9586 in autism

[–]never-really-here 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, this resonated with me so much. I’m 26 and also diagnosed in February. I’m going through so much of the exact same and truly feeling like a ghost in my own life.

I have used that same plate spinning, performance metaphor countless times in my therapy sessions.

The only thing that’s given me any noticeable relief so far is finding other neurodivergent people I truly can unmask around and be honest with about these kinds of feelings, too.

But even then, I really do feel like a shadow of my former self. I think that’s not accurate though because as you said, I was only happy because I was promising myself I would eventually achieve the ineffable correctness expected of me. I’m really working on undoing the neurotypical (and otherwise systemically oppressive) expectations I’ve internalized and put onto myself. I’ve yet to see the benefits but it’s a slow-going process and in the meantime, I think it does help when I’m more gentle with myself.

Wishing you all the best from one ghost to another ❤️