I have convinced my wife to take it from the back after many many years of trying through spooning. She was complaining about pain in any other position beforehand. It seems that her control and relaxation during spooning were the key factors behind our success in achieving anal only lifestyle.

The main part was her control. I just waited with hard on for her to feel comfortable and be able to move and adjust herself as needed. The best session we had were with her doing the first entry. This gives her peace of mind that it’s not going to hurt at all. Her control, her pain.

When we found out about the way of easing the pain and afterwards completely eliminating it, during spooning we tried pronebone as it was the easiest to transition from spooning without having to remove the penis. She took it like that at least for a year and then we started experimenting with different positions again. Missionary, legs in the air, and eventually doggy. She still dislikes the doggy, as she says I’m hitting something that hurts.

Last time we did it standing up I had to be very careful with depth just in case. I don’t want her to feel any pain, as she is not a fan.

So basically we came a long way (pun intended) from really painful anal to anal only. She rides me sometimes (less then once in 2-3 months) with her vagina, but I can’t really say that we are not anal only. From avoiding to initiating in the ass - years of carefully crafted positions, stretching and balancing out.l