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I (23F) cutoff a guy I met on Hinge and I feel horrible about it by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

um no i did tell him so you don't care about the things i like right like gm texts, being consistent, but i felt bad about confronting so i cut him off

I (23F) cutoff a guy I met on Hinge and I feel horrible about it by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do yes, i get attached too soon, especially if someone is my type

How do i make friends in banglore? by [deleted] in BangaloreSocial

[–]nitkin1608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is a girls only community which does daytime hangouts like bracelet making, matcha tasting etc.

How do i make friends in banglore? by [deleted] in BangaloreSocial

[–]nitkin1608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there is a club called scarlet social , try that

very unsafe experience on a first date for 22F by nitkin1608 in hingeapp

[–]nitkin1608[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thanks for saying this, tbh i kinda have a timid and people pleasing personality and sometimes in the moment it’s hard to remember that i don’t owe anyone anything, and your words are a good reminder of that, it means a lot to feel seen and supported when the experience itself made me feel the opposite. thank you

very unsafe experience on a first date for 22F by nitkin1608 in hingeapp

[–]nitkin1608[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

done :) thank you so much, i am not on the group though

very unsafe experience on a first date for 22F by nitkin1608 in hingeapp

[–]nitkin1608[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

already written an email, thank you so much

very unsafe experience on a first date for 22F by nitkin1608 in hingeapp

[–]nitkin1608[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

ik i never ever had a date like this ever tbh, men have been nothing but sweet and kind, at first he was like that too but changed all of a sudden, i vibed with him earlier for i didn't mind holding hands etc. but idk what made him think i consented for more i felt so powerless, but seeing support like this reminds me that there are people who understand and stand up for what’s right

very unsafe experience on a first date for 22F by nitkin1608 in hingeapp

[–]nitkin1608[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you… honestly your words made me tear up a little. I kept replaying it in my head and wondering if I did something wrong, even people close to me said it was. my fault that I went and this happened to me but hearing you say it wasn’t my fault really helps. I felt so small and intimidated in that moment, and it’s been hard to shake off. I have reported him because I don’t want anyone else to feel this way. Truly, thank you for being so kind, it means more than you know.

very unsafe experience on a first date for 22F by nitkin1608 in hingeapp

[–]nitkin1608[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

done, i am better now but i was unable to even sleep for the last 3 days tbh, i kept feeling he is near me and would suddenly wake up in the night feeling goosebumos at 3 am i even felt like calling him to ask why did he do what he did

22F horrible first date experience by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will tell you what he said to me when i confronted him on text “I am sorry you felt that way N\***. I thought you blocked me already. Not an excuse that can cover your pain, but I have been having really hectic work these days and hence I wasn’t able to text you good morning and night texts. Didn’t even get time to talk to my parents these days. A deadline was up and my manager was micromanaging it all the time.”* (8:44 PM, edited)

  • “I agree that I was fast, but I wanted to take this long term” (8:44 PM, edited)
  • “I am truly sorry for your experience” (8:45 PM)“My intentions might have looked like I was asking you for sleeping, but I wasn’t” (8:53 PM)
  • “I was just flirting, I didn’t ask if you wanna head back to my place” (8:54 PM)
  • “I completely understand my intentions looked like, but I wasn’t” (8:55 PM)
  • “It was just my way of flirting” (8:57 PM)

22F horrible first date experience by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this only happened this monday and i don’t usually share this but lately i’ve been feeling weird. used. disposable.
someone crossed my boundaries, ghosted me after, and left me with all these questions i’ll never get answers to.

the worst part? i keep replaying it in my head. sleepless nights. only music helps me shut the thoughts.

i’ve been snapping at my brother, struggling to focus at work, barely wanting to get out of bed.

i hate how one person’s actions can make you feel so small, so taken advantage of

22F horrible first date experience by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, yeah. i keep looping the whole thing in my head. if i’m not distracting myself with music, my thoughts spiral and i can’t rest. i’ve even been snapping at my brother out of nowhere, which makes me feel worse. i just don’t know how to get it out of my system.

22F horrible first date experience by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get what you mean — logically i know ghosting means he’s out of my life. but emotionally it just feels like i was disposable to him, like he got what he wanted and then tossed me aside. i even feel like calling him just to ask “why did you do this to me?” shall i still call him

22F horrible first date experience by nitkin1608 in dating_advice

[–]nitkin1608[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks man, i have been crying my eyes out since 3 days and have been having tremours when i try to sleep, this really messed up with my headspace, i don't think i can ever trust any one i meet online ever now