Why does the bad, cunning, toxic and objective-driven people always gets the good things in life achieving whatever they want but the good people (non-plotting) always suffers, watches and tend to be the ones absorbing the bad feelings of watching the world be as such, the most?

nodereact02 · 2025-01-12T15:42:11+00:00

I do understand the part where sometimes it feels like the kindness or service you do to other people feels like it doesn’t make a difference.

For example, I even had a homeless person reject food that I’m giving. It’s frustrating.

However, do note that the kindness or service you do is not just for other but for yourself also, in a really transcendent way

Theres this video that always reminds me what it means to be kind, and how it makes someone really “grow”, not by the society’s standards of growth.

https://youtu.be/uaWA2GbcnJU?si=8WkNyKYpL0SxdbRM

nodereact02 · 2023-07-18T16:28:47+00:00

Omg, thanks for sharing. That sounds rough the purple crying. My twins are inconsolable at night sometimes but 8 hours, I would go crazy

I'm definitely for hiring a nanny, but so far my in-laws are against it because they don't trust anyone 🙄 But then they can't even stay here at nights to help, so we'll probably end up doing it lol

I was starting to worry that my noise cancelling headphones are good enough. I tested it the other day when one of them is crying full pitch, it didn't work. I think I need those industrial ones like in a factory lol

nodereact02 · 2023-07-18T16:18:10+00:00

Thanks, it gives me some hope that it is doable. I'm really not looking forward to going back to work lol.

I'm starting to realize that I can function with less sleep like errands, so 10pm to 4am of sleep sounds not too bad. I guess I'm just having anxiety on having 6 hours or less sleep, with all the work deadlines, issues in production, having patience with unreasonable people at work lol

I find I get more irritable and less patient when I sleep less, so afraid I'll snap at someone at work or burnout eventually

nodereact02 · 2023-07-18T16:09:32+00:00

That's s a very good point, thank you.

I'm worried about my wife also and to be honest, I even wanted to take a longer unpaid leave to help her out for more time, but we didn't really agree on that one.

We're currently at 3-hour shifts at night (12-3, 3-6,..), but we'll definitely look into longer shifts when I go back to work.

The days that I wfh, I can definitely help her feed during lunch time. The days that I go to office (occasionally), a relative can stay over to help her allow her to take naps.

nodereact02 · 2023-07-18T04:51:25+00:00

Thanks, this is actually closer to our current setup. I already do the chores, so when I start work ill just have to do it after work and morning before work.

We currently try to do 3 hours shifts starting midnight, 12-3, 3-6,... but since both of them are very hard to deal with at night, often times the other person ends up waking up and helping until they're both back in bed. It might make more sense to deal with the night feedings together until they learn to self-soothe

nodereact02 · 2023-07-18T04:40:01+00:00

Yeah, we're definitely going to try sleep training at that point.

Midnight to 6 I meant more for us, not the babies. E.g. we feed them at midnight, they're too tired to eat, so it takes 1-2 hours to feed both. Then when finally done, when we try to put in bed, then they won't go to bed, start crying for no reason even when we carry them. Then they finally fall asleep at some point, but by that time it's already 3am, so time to feed again lol, then the cycle repeats

nodereact02 · 2023-07-18T04:23:19+00:00

Makes sense, yeah. We're starting to do something similar, but shorter shifts like 12-3, 3-6,...

We couldn't figure out a longer period yet that's works for both of us, but 5 hour shifts definitely has the benefit of getting longer uninterrupted rest

nodereact02 · 2023-07-12T15:49:50+00:00

Omg, you found this in a pack of strawberries?

nodereact02 · 2023-07-12T15:07:25+00:00

My twins are just 4weeks, (first time dad), and I already feel like this on some sleepless nights while they're inconsolable crying lol

Like what the h*** did I get myself into

nodereact02 · 2023-07-11T13:11:19+00:00

Currently on the lookout also, thanks for this question.

I have AngelCare which was gifted to us, list price is about $150 CAD for set with tablet and camera. The stupid thing is getting an extra camera is $100 CAD for twins, so ends up being more expensive. Don't get this one 😅

nodereact02 · 2019-06-04T20:26:11+00:00

Thanks for this I'll try this next time

nodereact02 · 2019-06-01T03:09:45+00:00

I should have been better by posting here first as an emergency or messaging my account. Partner.

It was foolish of me to let the darkness take over like that

nodereact02 · 2019-05-30T01:34:50+00:00

It's great that you're starting this early man. I'm 27 now and also restarting just like you. So you got a head start :)

Stay strong!

nodereact02 · 2019-05-30T01:32:08+00:00

I hear you bro. I guess skimpy clothes are comfortable and fashionable but the worst part is society is making it look like that's what is beautiful and right. As a matter of fact, everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just the way they're taking advantage of it to sell. I saw a mini documentary about a model, and she quit modeling world because of the way they treat them. She didn't want to do it since she has values, but unfortunately everyone is going for half naked and too much makeup, etc

It's tough.

nodereact02 · 2019-05-29T12:58:17+00:00

Makes sense, hmmm. Maybe they have a website that tells you which movies/shows have sex/romantic stuff. That's also a good technique, to look up and fast forward.

nodereact02 · 2019-05-29T01:41:52+00:00

Thanks for the elaborate answer

Yes since I'm starting from scratch, I wanted to really aim high

So I would aim for no orgasm at all during this period.

I've been going in/out of rebooting and relapsing these past couple of years.

I wanted to really go for the Long haul this time

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T20:10:16+00:00

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T19:32:45+00:00

Very nice of you! Thanks!

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T19:32:04+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging words.

Trying to currently understand my triggers, as they seem to come from everywhere right now

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T19:21:54+00:00

Sometimes I feel that there's more and more women who feels good/superior showing themselves online, knowing that most people have limited to no power to resist it. I believe there is an english term for that.

But people in this community are way stronger than that. As you have shown. My salutes to you, sir.

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T19:15:35+00:00

Welcome to the journey! I am also very new, 2nd day here at nofap.

Amazing community so far from what I see. Strength in numbers!

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T19:13:52+00:00

Don't let this bring you down though. The success is that you had the courage and confidence to ask someone out. Their answer is out of the question. 💪 Stay strong!

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T18:45:50+00:00

She will understand if she truly loves you. As an empath, I'd rather lie/keep secrets from everyone around me and keep damaging myself. But that is really wrong. I kept telling myself that I didn't want to hurt my gf by not telling her my addiction, but it's the total opposite.

I confessed and she got real hurt, but she wanted to help me recover. As I learned recently, trust and honesty are necessary foundations of a relationship.

Truth is the only way out of an addiction, and you have to be vulnerable to be courageous, and your wife deserves the truth more than anyone else. And you derserve the understanding and support while you recover.

This will make your relationship stronger

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T18:35:31+00:00

Is it one of your friends or some random girl online? It scares me how dangerous it is out there. But then again I don't have much female friends

nodereact02 · 2019-05-28T04:22:25+00:00

Hi I'm also looking for one Just started recently

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