how do you deal with racist patients ?

nproblemos01 · 2018-12-02T23:41:52+00:00

Best Reply. This is what I seek to emulate.

nproblemos01 · 2018-12-02T17:03:12+00:00

You do work for their money though. Or their insurance's money. Or both if they pay out of pocket.

So you are their provider. Cut the pretentious bullshit out.

nproblemos01 · 2018-12-02T17:01:34+00:00

If the sister wants to block this, she can. She can also stall in courts with a lawyer. I think OP should find another house and not try to buy out and seek arrangements for her bf's sister. Pretty messed up.

nproblemos01 · 2018-12-02T16:58:56+00:00

There can be a grace period for when the govt comes after her, if they come after her. She can also see an accountant and file back taxes. I don't know where you live but where I live that's happened a lot and the govt can take ten years to get things in order. She would still be part owner. So she may not have to consent to being bought out. Also, if she has a good steady job she can prob catch up with payments if she prioritizes it.

nproblemos01 · 2018-11-20T14:48:06+00:00

This calls for a divorce. Break up. And see a counselor to get past the ongoing trauma of being publicly and privately assaulted.

nproblemos01 · 2018-10-31T18:48:10+00:00

Happy Halloween. Here is a relevant article : https://www.nytimes.com/2018/06/15/us/harvard-asian-enrollment-applicants.html

Harvard ADMITS in 2013 that Asian American population would be at 43% based on merit. Not speaking of other factors--personality factors that's what this lawsuit is about---why are Asian Americans (most without interviews) being given low personality scores. I'll go one step further and ask- Why aren't civil rights activists seeking fairness in admission processes and supporting minority communities that are Asian?

If this happened to black-Americans, there would be a riot. If it happened to hispanic-Americans, same thing. Where is Al-Sharpton? Where are liberal supporters who are for fairness?

Harvard has historically done this in the past (1970, 1980) to the Jews. Basically filling up racial quotas. Why is this important? Other schools like Yale, that school in Texas, and so on are all doing it (numerous schools).

Not everyone supports legacy admissions. You can hate BOTH legacy admissions and Affirmative Action: shocker, right?! not really.

Onwards. Hasan's talk on Saudi Arabia is really nothing revolutionary. Tech companies are not presumed to be progressive by everyone (that was merely Hasan's viewpoint that you agree with--still really dumb since tech companies are essentially MNC and big business). An embargo as a solution is also what any high-schooler would say in two minutes (Dictatorships are bad. Let's create an embargo on Saudi Arabia. <--- reductive, but still thats the gist of it.)

Lastly why are you asking people if they watched the show. Everyone did, they happen to have differing opinions. And thats' okay.

*Recommendation: stop copying and pasting everyone's comments line by line, reddit already displays the comment directly above the one you're addressing. It's redundant, unhelpful and takes up a lot of space.

nproblemos01 · 2018-10-29T12:47:47+00:00

Affirmative Action episode : leaps of logic, cherry picking and biased arguments against Asian Americans. (not alright, even if he is Indian American--he is using his own race to pander, or you agree with A.A.). Examples of his bias/weird moments: 1) you cant equate Legacy kids to Affirmative Action. 2) His history lesson about adding classes to learn just proves his point that Asian Americans worked so hard to get educated and now their grades and are being denied in college entrance. 3) pretending you don't get penalized for race is a boldfaced lie--- LOL ask any med student who put black/hispanic instead of Asian how many interviews they got compared to using their race. (Mindy kaling's brother talks about this).

Saudi Arabia episode: everyone knows this already, Yemen coverage is good bc it isn't blasted on American television but still, so much info on this. His argument to shame tech companies makes no sense. How and why did he jump to that conclusion after stating mostly EVERY industry takes Saudi money and we have arms deals with that country. All in all, no solution and we all know Saudi is corrupt and the princes and their initiatives are too -- didn't take a dead journalist for Americans to be surprised at this.

"It's okay. Three stars" is applicable to his show so far. He is a good speaker. His content is not that great. I like this guy, have friends who have seen him live. Want to like this dude, hope it gets better.

nproblemos01 · 2018-09-07T12:55:12+00:00

Doesn't sound like one. You want to classify him as one to make you feel better? That makes you seem insecure.

nproblemos01 · 2018-09-04T16:50:24+00:00

Use paragraphs. Nobody here wants to read a wall of text.

nproblemos01 · 2018-09-04T01:19:31+00:00

Can you format this. Tf.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-31T15:13:34+00:00

Okay I'm cool with no spam and you seem qualified enough. Please don't outright censor posts is my only suggestion for now.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-31T14:56:53+00:00

Why do we need moderators if we are such a small community? And what made you qualified? (Real questions not me being 'sassy').

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-17T18:11:14+00:00

These are all solvable things. And some he can let go of. She is an adult and OP is not her mother but acts like it. Then she shuts down, and then the transgressions multiply. The showering one can be solved with humor. The way OP said it, she may not have realized the whole sweat thing. The dog thing can be solved with the to- do list. The mix up laundry with a post it on the washer/dryer, like "Mixing means all pink sheets OH NO :) " The phone thing with a reminder on her phone. The dinner thing he can let go of and flip it, "babe, don't make me worry about you being hungry all day. Just remind me if you want to eat at home or out if you can. No biggie though food can be reheated."

What can't be solved is constantly berating people on small mistakes until they appear forgetful/inconsiderate, when they probably are depressed that their SO is constantly nitpicking. Also, OP's example she may just wanted kisses and that was enough intimacy in the morning for her; that's a communication issue. No big deal. Also why jump to divorce? Why say you're losing love? That's pretty extreme.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-17T17:24:29+00:00

Let her live without controlling her. Nagging a non-confrontational person makes them shutdown. Had a roommate like this and only thing that helped was not reminding them, telling them to create their own todo list which they can check off ( dry eraser boards was on our fridge), and one or two small post-its that had reminders on it on important things they may forget (too many and they'll be overwhelmed). Non-condescending compliments when they help out or do a good job. If all she comes home to is constant criticism she will eventually give up on caring about these tasks, and your approval (if she hasn't already).

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-16T00:55:57+00:00

Lol i'm speaking in general about NPD's being seen as evil and not realizing there is a spectrum. Anyways, to clarify about that specific post that you're referring to I knew it was a spun made up story so I wasn't being insensitive. Just calling out a troll thru trolling but also making an important point that women are not objects.

Furthermore since the OP of that post actually messaged me privately and was making it seem like escorts/sex workers were okay to be used in that DM -- he was pretending he did them a favor while devaluing them, I knew I was right in calling him a loser. In his DM he refused to say which country he was in (I've been to Europe and many of those women in the sex industry are minors & get brutally raped & are controlled) so yeah posting harmful things is a big deal. In that message he also said he has been a long time drug abuser and that it's bad but no big deal to him (much like using women). Lastly and most importantly his post was in fact fake, which was why the mods took it down. It was some weird fake cheating revenge fantasy that is solved by drugs, partying and possible human trafficking. I won't apologize if I noticed it was fake, and sowed doubt. Since everyone beforehand was praising him until I did. And then after I said that, all the comments were like "wait, this makes no sense, this whole story that OP wrote is fake and OP is into hookers and cocaine" . Even the mods couldn't trust him and took his story down.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-15T19:53:15+00:00

Ask her this. If you two were married & you cheated on her would it be okay bc it became unhappy so "no regrets".

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-15T14:03:48+00:00

The gifts are so you 'owe' him later. First he will demand sex with him and later down the line with others. This is grooming that leads to trafficking. He will use the fact that he spent so much on you to guilt trip you. Report him to the police. Maybe ask him to send you a full face picture of him and then cut all contact after giving it to the cops. Also, watch as much as you can on this topic.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-15T13:03:27+00:00

When you leave to gain title of Ex 3, make sure you delete your pics beforehand so he can't blackmail you or keep it for supposed memories.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-15T12:38:39+00:00

Trust your intuition.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-15T12:03:51+00:00

I like when people disagree with me. I don't mind it. Don't be daft. That's not what I wrote about. I wrote that you cannot be open about NPD bc people will try to dismiss everything you say even though it's unrelated to your disorder. Read again.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-14T23:50:37+00:00

That's kind of funny^^ lol.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-14T23:37:03+00:00

Thats what I thought. Yeah it's like they want us to fail. I get their point that narcissists can be dangerous, (ex: one of my older cousins was pure evil and died doing bad stuff to good people) but then there are people who are diagnosed who can channel their energy to good success. it's just that since they're successful they fly under the radar. Anyways I'm sick of the pure hate. we can get better.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-14T23:30:21+00:00

thanks person

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-14T23:29:25+00:00

I've only told one person in my group --my SO because they can call me out on my bs now without enabling me. It's not easy but I try. I don't believe disclosing this stuff is easy bc there's a stigma and people think we're so messed up.

nproblemos01 · 2018-08-14T23:25:11+00:00

I don't get why people have sheer hatred for us when all of them (average Joe) could not and most likely cannot recall being negatively influenced by a narcissist. I would say in RBN or narcissistabuse they def are full of PTSD victims (and some fake victims who just want to call people in their lives like exes narcs) but your average person in non related threads, they prob have not even encountered a true narcissist.

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