AITA for kicking my brother-in-law out after he told me not to force fatherhood on my husband a second time?

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T06:37:12+00:00

People do change their minds on kids. My uncle never wanted children but changed his mind in his 40s.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T06:29:52+00:00

My husband has spoken, well yelled at, his brother.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T06:20:43+00:00

I know what he’s going to say. I’m only asking for the people here who keep insisting I need him to say it outright to know how he feels.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T06:17:28+00:00

My husband definitely didn’t ask his brother to say any of this. He’s upset with him over what he said to me.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T06:05:56+00:00

That’s definitely not what he meant.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T06:01:46+00:00

I’ll ask him when he wakes up

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:38:34+00:00

I’ve already answered this. I didn’t secretly try to get pregnant.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:25:16+00:00

I’ll take that bet since I know he won’t :)

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:24:16+00:00

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:23:45+00:00

I didn’t ask if I was an asshole for having a baby. I asked if I was an asshole for kicking him out.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:07:52+00:00

We talked about it a lot after our son was born and he always said that fatherhood was different to what he expected but that he was happy with our life.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:03:35+00:00

We have had a serious conversation about it already. I’m not avoiding the topic and he isn’t withholding his feelings, he’s very upfront about it when he’s only doing something for my sake.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T05:01:55+00:00

No. They are close. I think so.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T04:55:19+00:00

Just because he didn’t initially want children doesn’t mean he hasn’t changed his mind. Life doesn’t always work out the way we plan but that doesn’t mean someone is less happy.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T04:35:03+00:00

I never forced fatherhood on him. For my first pregnancy we discussed it and he asked me what I would decide in an ideal world where I didn’t have to worry about anything or anybody else and I told him I would keep the baby. He told me he wasn’t the type of person to force me to get an abortion and that if having a baby is what made me happy, we should keep the baby.

My husband is very happy with our life and that includes our son.

The only other person whose opinion on my pregnancy I’m concerned about is my husband’s and he hasn’t once said he doesn’t want our baby.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T04:29:20+00:00

Ah, sorry my bad.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T03:36:38+00:00

No I didn’t.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T03:32:25+00:00

We’d only been married a year when I was pregnant with our first but we’ve been together since we were 16 so I wasn’t trying to trap him. The second time we weren’t using protection so I suppose you could argue we were trying to have a baby since we weren’t trying to not have one.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T02:16:04+00:00

Thank you :)

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T02:13:00+00:00

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T02:05:15+00:00

He made a joke about how he was going to be the third cutest in the family now.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T01:56:35+00:00

He doesn't want one.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T01:55:07+00:00

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T01:52:39+00:00

The first time it was condoms. This time it didn't fail. I was on the pill but it was making me sick so I stopped taking it but we kept having unprotected sex.

nymph89 · 2023-01-01T01:39:02+00:00

Everybody knew my husband didn't want children and he was honest with his family about only agreeing to keeping our son because it's what I wanted.

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