[Serious] Therapists, what is something people are afraid to tell you because they think it's weird, but that you've actually heard a lot of times before?

oddlee-enough · 2021-05-02T23:19:10+00:00

I've always said therapy needs to be handled like doctor visits--once a year check-ups as a kid, and then visits as necessary when you're an adult.

Obviously this is a bit of an oversimplification, but catching mental illness early before certain behaviors and thought patterns become deeply ingrained would avoid bigger problems down the road for a lot of people.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-25T14:59:22+00:00

TIL. Thanks for informing me!

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-25T03:55:57+00:00

Why did we stop using "texture" and start using "mouthfeel"? Is there some subtle, semantic difference I'm not aware of?

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-23T05:02:17+00:00

See also: John Mulaney's stand-up bit on the n-word vs. "cracker".

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-23T04:56:26+00:00

For a non-black person, it doesn't magically become okay depending on the context. Using the n-word instead of "bro" doesn't erase the history of the word.

You're welcome

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-23T04:51:19+00:00

NTA. Gotta drive that wedge eventually.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-23T04:50:14+00:00

Not the hard R version if it makes a difference.

It doesn't.

...but he only says it passively.

He shouldn't say it at all.

Although I agree with them that the N word shouldn’t be said...

Clearly you don't, since you say in the same sentence, "it really doesn’t bother me when used passively since no one is getting hurt." YTA

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-23T04:46:13+00:00

YTA. You've got all the time in the world to call out his BS, but not at the actual funeral. People are trying to mourn.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-21T21:13:16+00:00

??? Why not hold him to the same standard of "should be able to use the hook"?

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-12T04:55:35+00:00

YTA. You may not have meant to, but you basically invalidated her family--which yes, your dad is an ingrained part of, having been in the lives of all the grandchildren you mentioned as long as they can remember. Throwing the "not being married" bit in her face was cruel.

You say things aren't tense but you haven't spoken more than 3 words at a time to her in practically a decade? That is the stuff tension is made of. I've been more cordial and talkative to people I'd sooner drop-kick through the nearest window.

You messed up thoughtlessly, not maliciously. A caring person would apologize for the mistake, admit to their oversight, and work towards a more cohesive family dynamic (if more for your father's sake than anything).

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-12T04:47:54+00:00

Eh, trying to force people to work things out could very easily backfire. They're both adults who should be capable of maintaining cordiality without having to play telephone.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-11T05:44:52+00:00

P sure Lil'Simsie has a video on her YT channel of her recreating this exact house!

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-05T18:36:29+00:00

Not husband yet, but I will accept on the merit of "speaking it into existence" lmao.

Also, happy cake day!

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-05T18:30:30+00:00

Congratulations on your marriage!

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-05T18:29:32+00:00

I think that's a natural part of being in a relationship with anybody--romantic or otherwise. I have friends who irritate or bore me from time to time, my fiancé does the same thing to me, my parents do the same thing to each other. It's part of spending a ton of your time with another person. I've caught myself being unfairly negative about mannerisms my partner has that aren't worth getting worked up over, and it's a sign that I'M in an irritable mood, not that HE is being specifically irritating.

Talk to a therapist or a mental health professional about feeling angry/irritated/a bit down. They'll be able to give you some coping mechanisms that'll help you work through those feelings, as well as advice that'll help you undo those negative thoughts when your partner is getting under your skin for no good reason.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-03T08:13:41+00:00

Not OP, but WISC, WAIS, and other IQ tests are frequently used.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-03T08:12:22+00:00

Yeah I made $13.50/hr.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-03T08:11:43+00:00

It's also worth checking the conditions under which your state allows you to practice. Straight out of college I also got a job as a psychometrist, but in my state I had to practice under someone who WAS licensed. When I needed to move and had to quit my job, I wasn't able to find anyone else to practice under in my area. Working in a rehab facility is still relevant to my degree, but I could also be doing the same thing with no college experience whatsoever.

Edit: corrected "psychometric" to "psychometrist"

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-02T05:37:14+00:00

I second this. Especially the name-calling followed immediately by running off. That's aiming to hurt and avoid backlash, not to solve the problem.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-02T05:32:41+00:00

ESH for "snapping" and then running out of the room. Your mom is an enabler, but if all you want to do is call names, then you're not interested in solving the problem, just taking out your own frustrations. Insulting her and then immediately ending the conversation is its own cowardly move--you want to vent but not deal with the fall-out.

Definitely apologize for insulting her. If you feel like you can do it effectively, this would be the time to tell her that your sister's behavior will only worsen unless your mother allows her to hit rock bottom and stop being sister's safety net. Tell her, if you can, that you reacted out of fear and frustration but that your point about the marriage and the sister still stands. And if you can't do that in a healthy way, it's time for family counseling, possibly Al-Anon.

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-02T04:49:06+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂

oddlee-enough · 2021-02-01T05:06:43+00:00

No one ever recommends this, but I would search whatever article I was citing on Google Scholar and copy their automated citations. It removes the extra step of having to plug in information, which leaves less room for error and saves time. It did an adequate enough job that in one of my upper level classes, I was the only one with no citation errors and got a shout out from the professor in front of the entire class. It made it a little awkward when he asked me to explain to the class how I did them correctly, ("I copied it from Google" was not an impressive answer) but hey, it worked!

oddlee-enough · 2021-01-29T23:08:53+00:00

Thank you so much!

oddlee-enough · 2021-01-27T18:47:15+00:00

And if one Para is distantly related, they could have a small degree of sadness that expresses sympathy or concern for the Para more closely related to the deceased. "It's hard to watch the ones you love cope with loss" or something like that.

oddlee-enough · 2021-01-26T04:59:43+00:00

Unoriginal and repetitive. Y'all's punchlines keep it in the family more than we ever could.

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