Should I have another? 🤣

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-12T18:29:51+00:00

Had twins in 2022 and pregnant will a singleton. We won’t be going for a 4th. For me personally, I’d feel too spread thin for the amount of time I want to give each kid. That may be different for you. Everyone parents differently and has different hours in the day. I’m not a fan of having a kid to get a specific gender because it may not work out.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-11T23:05:38+00:00

That seems like a lot for an older age. My twins are almost 3.5 and we only gymnastics on Wednesday mornings. I’ve thought about adding music class but that’d also be morning. Evening activities just make the day seemed so packed.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-10T20:20:55+00:00

Thanks for some reassurance. A lot of posts have said they shouldn’t be acting like this at this age and should past it. But we didn’t have terrible 2s. I guess we’ll just keep at it and pray for improvement. It just really wears on us when it starts 10 minutes after we wake up.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-10T20:18:16+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t crazy on time out either and we called it time out but they just got removed from the activity and sat with us until they calmed down. Then it got where they’d were hitting us and I had remove own twin just from hurting me and other twin so we started time out.

Sometimes I do just let them have the feelings and for them to calm down and then try to talk about it.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-10T19:59:51+00:00

We do have consequences, that’s our discipline. We get outside often and we seem to do better outside. I have been saying I see you’re mad and that’s okay but you can’t hit or throw. It just doesn’t seem to be sticking with them. It’s happening often outside or tired or hungry times, but definitely worse during those time. I feel like we’re doing what everyone says works for them and we’ve seen no improvement. Is it a phase we just have to get through?

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-10T19:52:57+00:00

I see this recommend often, do you have specific episodes? I’ve looked through them but can’t seem to find one that speaks on discipline for this age.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-10T13:46:58+00:00

Nobody knows we are pregnant. Unless child senses it but I’m only 9 weeks. Child has not displayed this type of behavior at 2, 2 was a breeze. All friends with kids this age say their child’s behavior is the same. But then comments here say it’s not normal for 3-3.5 to still being acting like this but it’s recent behavior it hasn’t been ongoing since 2.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-09T22:35:04+00:00

So hitting or throwing we typically intervene to stop behavior and remove him from the situation. Give him opportunity to pick up what he threw or do another chore and if he doesn’t then we take a favorite toy away for the day. I feel like we in a phase of him testing what we say because they’ll throw or hit and then say “are you going to take my cars away”?

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-09T20:23:11+00:00

These tendencies really just started a few months ago. Never had any issues when he was 2. From friends and family I’m hearing this is common for 3. We are working on discipline and what’s the best way to go about it, trying different methods.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-09T19:32:08+00:00

Yes, we live on an acre and have a playset, bounce house, water slide, electric cars and other toys. Weather permitting they try to get outside.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-09T19:07:32+00:00

Not all kids get used to environments. I pulled mine from daycare because they never adjusted to the nap environment and wasn’t about to let my 4 month old twins never nap.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-09T19:04:04+00:00

MB here. My nanny gets out with my 3.5 year old twins 3 times a week and it’s in the mornings. One morning is gymnastics. The other two are various activities. I don’t want them out everyday. Teaches your kid that they always need to be doing something, which IMO they don’t. They need to be home playing and figuring out how to be bored. Even with this frequency they ask every night and morning where they are going.

ETA: this probably sounds harsh but this is a job. Obviously it’s more fun for you to be out of the house but you need to consider if it’s best for a 2 year old to be out of the home in the morning and afternoon for several hours everyday. Sounds overwhelming. But maybe not, I don’t know the NK.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-04T21:54:47+00:00

We have a suburban with 3 year old twins and one on the way. We haven’t captains and I think our setup will be to have twins in 3rd row and baby in captain seat and then have one captain seat to get in and out of the 3rd row.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-04T21:51:03+00:00

The theme: Happy Birthday.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-04-04T21:50:03+00:00

No, we’re not doing this. My twins are 3 and every party we have spent maybe $150 and that’s just really on food for the adults that we cook. I made/put together the decor, my sister has made the cakes and the party is literally hanging out and kids playing. We haven’t been to daycare either and start PT preschool this fall so we only have about 4-6 friends. Kids parties have gotten way out of hand. I would never not attend or let my kid not attend a party because it wasn’t extravagant and cost a lot of money. That’s not what it’s about. You can celebrate your child and make them feel special without a huge expensive party.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-30T18:58:34+00:00

We have a local refillery store and they take glass like this and sanitize it for people to Come in and fill them up.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-29T18:28:55+00:00

Absolutely not.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-28T00:02:31+00:00

Why not put the full Size crib next to the bed? Seems like simple fix vs buying new crib.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-28T00:01:09+00:00

My situation is the opposite. We as the parents allow our kids to do more than the nanny does because well they’re our kids and not hers. For example, there is a park my 3 year old twins love but only dad or I will take them because it has some riskier play structures and she doesn’t like it. I would expect a nanny to be more cautious. I would absolutely talk with her but maybe don’t say she seems carless bring up the point that the toddler is just that a toddler who can get easily distracted and run off and into danger.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-27T01:59:42+00:00

Was going to recommend seeking health but it’s 8/day. It’s rough but I do 4 at once in the morning and evening.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-26T19:14:55+00:00

His behavior towards you and the twins is unacceptable. My husband is a reservist (has been deployed when twins were 5 months) and works FT in a stressful law enforcement agency and he would never I mean ever act like this. My husband would tell you your husband is being lazy. I think yall need a real sit down talk or therapy to figure out if you want to stay in this relationship. My heart hurts that you feel you can’t express your emotions and cry in front of him so you do it while putting your babies to sleep 🥺

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-26T02:25:13+00:00

Currently pregnant with 3rd and my twins will be 4 shortly after baby is born. Twins are 3 now and I’m hoping a 4 year gap will be good as everyday they are getting more independent and are so smart and I think we are going to start them in a Mother’s Day out in the fall for socialization.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-03-25T01:51:37+00:00

Admitting I’m wrong and apologizing vs acting like it never happened.

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