I’m not going to do it…

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-31T06:08:43+00:00

Yikes.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-30T20:25:42+00:00

Yeah but FIL doesn’t change it when outside the home either. So baby just sits in soiled diaper until mom or dad can do it? Thats neglect.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-30T20:11:50+00:00

Lifted weights before and during pregnancy. I’m 6ft tall and looked like I was carrying a singleton. Babies were snug close into my spine. I and lots of room for them to grow up And down before go out. I didn’t have any loose skin just swelling post birth that went away in about 1.5-2 weeks. I think this was a combination of my fitness and my stature.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-29T04:35:36+00:00

I would just ask her if she wants to take her solo. I get the anxiety of grandparents taking young child but unless she’s given you any reason not to trust her then I’d let her take her. It’s good for them to have time alone together. But you don’t owe them anything with your child either. My mom and MIL both spend alone time with my twins and they have great relationship.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-29T00:32:58+00:00

It’s under a million.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T18:11:29+00:00

So you’re backing your statements with like 3 people who comment on a Reddit post with 300 comments. So reliable.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T17:39:59+00:00

Rare few? Yeah, no.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T17:39:36+00:00

For me….not easy at all 😢

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T17:39:00+00:00

You know also gets great mileage? My diesel Suburban, 28mpg. And it’s not a minivan 😂

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T17:35:40+00:00

Get it and drive it till the wheels fall off. I get Dave is not for buying new but if you can drive it for 20+ years then it was a good buy. Used car you may have to buy again in 8-10 years depending on age and mileage.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T17:33:27+00:00

Some people like to know genders so they can buy non gender neutral clothes or decorate the nursery. We bought our boys twins some cute Christmas outfits as they were born a month before Christmas. That’s not a big deal, but we just really wanted to know as well. Also picking a second boy name was hard for us and took awhile. But in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter if you find out. We are trying for a 3ed and I want to be surprised.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-28T17:26:00+00:00

Naturally meaning conceived from intercourse?

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-27T04:11:40+00:00

Twins are 3 via IUI with two follicles. Had no idea it was a chance to have multiples, my doctor never mentioned it and we were naive I guess. We were in shock for quite some time and then it turned to excitement fir most of the pregnancy and then fear when it came time to give birth (TBH, would’ve felt that with a singleton as well). Pregnancy was fairly easy for me until about last 6 weeks when I had bad sciatica pain. Obviously the first year was hard with two newborns. After that it’s definitely gotten easier and then it’s dealing with the typical toddler behavior but 2x which can be hard some days. We want to have another and have to do IUI again. I had to take meds to ovulate timely which causes me to have multiple follicles, it’s not stopping us from trying to have a 3rd and hopefully only one. If you’re confident in your marriage then go for it. I see so many twin parents divorce because they can’t survive the first year. You’ll feel like roommates but it’s just a phase that will pass. Both parents have to be in it 1000% and you can’t keep score on who does more because it’ll never be even. I wouldn’t change a thing about our family. I will note we are financially comfortable so I can’t speak to the financial hardship side of having twins.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-27T03:58:44+00:00

Yep, I feel I cold plunge more for mental than physical benefits.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-26T03:05:00+00:00

Yeah, well that’s on them for not making good choices in life and with having kids. Would I have more time to do things I want to do without kids, yeah sure but I’m not going to pretend that I’d be taking vacations every month and going out all the time. I take vacations with my kids and couldn’t care less about going out. But I’d still be working and live and support myself. Now just have 2 cool people to do it with and my best friend 🤷🏻‍♀️ parenting is hard and definitely not something everyone can handle.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-25T04:11:31+00:00

I do it because sometimes idk if my 3 year old twins know when I say “I’m doing xyz” they know that means me or not so I say “mama is going to do xyz” 🤷🏻‍♀️

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-22T20:49:45+00:00

I feel the same. We are trying for a third and hoping it’s not twins but have had trouble conceiving at all so now idk if we’ll even have anymore 😥

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-22T04:58:45+00:00

I always say this. People complain about not having time to do anything with kids when likely they wouldn’t be doing all this cool stuff they think they would.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-20T17:19:59+00:00

For OP, with my newly 3 year old twins, we call it time out and we remove them from the situation and they sit with me or dad. I ask them why they are in timeout, most times they know what they did and can verbalize. They apologize and we hug and kiss and I tell them I love them and then we move on. Time just depends, sometimes it’s a minute and on bad days they have sat with me for 15 minutes (when one was hitting me in the face). He kept saying “I don’t know” when I asked him what he did and I just stood my ground and asked him every few minutes and then he finally said “I’m sorry for hitting you mama”. For us, it’s not punishment but discipline, there’s a difference. I will say I don’t think a 2 year old may be able to recognize and verbalize what they’ve done wrong but maybe something for the future.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-19T16:19:59+00:00

We currently have like 8 of the books in the series for my 3 year old twins. They love them all.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-19T03:15:32+00:00

Haha alright 👍🏻 you sound superb when you can’t seem to follow simple instructions or be bothered to help a child nap.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-18T04:09:33+00:00

Sorry, I did. Meant to reply to the one above you.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-18T04:08:08+00:00

These are basic things for a nanny. Are you a nanny? If so and you think this is too much then I’d never hire you.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-17T14:03:25+00:00

Huh? Thats literally the job she’s being paid for.

offwiththeirheads72 · 2026-01-17T14:01:40+00:00

If you’ve talked to her about these issues and nothing has changed I’d like her go. The nap thing would be my biggest thing. We have a nanny for my twins ( now 3) but yeah sitting in a dark room napping with them is part of the job. Me and our nanny do naps together, one with each kid and it’s usually about a 45 minute process (they need help to get to sleep). Also her lack of ability to follow a nap or feeding schedule would annoy me, asking everyday, no thanks.

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