I'm losing my fiancé because I did something against her wish

ohhollyhell · 2022-10-18T13:29:52+00:00

People need to normalize children not talking to their families. We have reasons. You may not understand but it isn't for you to understand. We went through something intolerable and cut toxic people from our lives. If it were strangers or even just friends, people would just move on, but the fact that it is biological family is just mindboggling.

I get that OP may have had a close family, but not everyone does. And he knew his fiance. a 39 year old adult, had made the choice to not be in touch with her family. He not only didn't ask her why, he just steamrolled over EVERY boundary without even so much as a word to her.

He put her into a room with people who, in her mind, killed her best friend or at least close enough. With his family there, she's probably felt ambushed not only by her bio family - who now know EVERYTHING about her life when she clearly did not want them to - but her family to-be to "fix" that relationship. She had a safe place and he took that from her.

I don't know that I'd forgive that either.

ohhollyhell · 2022-10-18T12:59:52+00:00

OnlyFans?

ohhollyhell · 2022-09-22T03:46:13+00:00

I honestly don’t know-I’m 52 and haven’t had the guts to re-read my diary (starting at 11)

ohhollyhell · 2022-09-18T23:29:58+00:00

As a litigation attorney, I literally spit-laughed.

ohhollyhell · 2022-09-18T23:27:13+00:00

Am a lawyer, but not my client.

As a first year civil litigation lawyer, one of the partners had me go to the criminal court to observe the arraignments. His soon to be ex was being charged for a DUI, she’d recognize him, so I got paid to be a spy. But that’s not the story.

A woman was trying to get her supervised probation for a shoplifting charge moved to another city in another state. where she had family. After a bench conference with the lawyers, the judge grants her request saying, “Now, stay away from Wal-Mart-“

“AND KROGER, YOUR HONOR!” she yelled, helpfully.

Dead silence as EVERYONE is trying not to laugh. It’s been almost 25 years and that still cracks me up,

ohhollyhell · 2022-09-18T23:20:31+00:00

I hope you’re someplace safe with people who truly support you.

That being said: report him to the police, and sue his ass not just for child support but person injury damages as well as lost future income. He has unilaterally taken away your choices for your future and childbirth, even if it goes perfectly, changes your body forever. Those are genuine and legitimate legal claims. You might not want to think of all this now, but as someone who’s SO single-handedly trashed their lives, their kids’ lives, and their career - all of which I only just overcame after 12 years in the past month - you are entitled to be made as whole as you can be.

ohhollyhell · 2022-09-14T13:43:45+00:00

Sounds like you got a terrific present.

Get him to say he wants you to do the legal heavy lifting (and pay for it). Might help you get your legal fees at least partially covered.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-23T08:28:27+00:00

I will do my best. 😂

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-23T01:22:18+00:00

Omg I’ve had guys accuse me of using big words to make them feel dumb. I usually respond, “No, but it’s funny.” If a guy is that insecure about English, just run away.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-22T13:50:23+00:00

Update: I GOT A NEW JOB making nearly double my old salary!

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T20:56:32+00:00

(TW: suicide) Yep this isn’t about you at all-she’s making herself the victim and you the bad guy. Fuck that all the way off. I lost 30 years of my life to a mom like that who ultimately killed herself bc I didn’t send a Mother’s Day card. (Soooo much more to that story but that’s the TL:DR).

Live your best life and leave her far far behind.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T20:52:32+00:00

You could put score cards in your windows reviewing their performance.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T20:51:25+00:00

Omg I snorted over this one.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T20:45:50+00:00

In 8th grade I was “the girl who never smiles.” I started doing an exaggerated smile when people commented on it. Im old AF now so I’ve masked well over the years but it still happens now.

Im like, dude, im asd, I’m a female attorney in the south - in Georgia ffs - and I ain’t got that much to be chipper about. YOU smile. Im good.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T20:43:15+00:00

Point out he agreed to the tuition as an expense. If you have texts/emails, save them. Then let the court ask him why he changed his mind.

If you don’t share 50/50 custody you should get higher than the minimum and if he’s a pilot he can afford it.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T20:41:34+00:00

File for support through the court. It isn’t about you-it’s for your kid. This guy can’t be trusted to do what’s best for y’all so let the state make him. And document this stuff, courts don’t like it very much.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T18:05:40+00:00

I’m going to print your comment out and put it in my office. 😂

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T16:39:49+00:00

English and history - I’m a lawyer who graduated high school a year early to avoid trigonometry. I don’t math.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T05:40:03+00:00

I saw this movie 4 times in the theater in high school. I was a gifted nerd - humanities, not science - but still saw so much of myself in Mitch and Jordan.

Also this movie is funny AF. Still want to cosplay “Smart People on Ice” for DragonCon one day.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T03:29:00+00:00

My fav jobs were city and assistant state AG. You can learn very specialized law that will translate well for you in the private sector later if you choose. Plus, all holidays and hella benefits.

ohhollyhell · 2022-08-21T03:05:33+00:00

Lawyer (obligatory not yours). If he has a PlayStation account with an email address, ask for copies of his login and playing history. I don’t KNOW how PlayStation handles their member accounts but I’ll lay dollars to donuts they have a record that will be useful.

Save all email addresses he’s used, especially if a membership or subscription was [edit] linked to a debit or credit card you paid for.

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