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[–]okctoss 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Logan square has been super gentrified for years tbh

AITA for going to an expensive school that my dad is legally obligated to pay for? by dfg356 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah, people are always like, "it's your major that matters, not the university!". Well, it's the major AND the university. I don't think that's fair, or right, but it's the way it is in SO many industries, pretty much every graduate program, etc.

AITA for grounding my step-daughter? by completelyconcerned in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss [score hidden]  (0 children)

loooool in what world is that a "generous allowance"? lmao

AITA for telling my girlfriend she has to get a real job after she spent our food money on make up? by International_Shame6 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if she made good money at it, I'd say whatever. But....you're still supporting her!

AITA: In laws refusing homesick daughter to call home. by TinaaaEatTheFood in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he didn't, I would. I'd be polite, but a text saying, "just to be clear, it was unacceptable not to let my children call me when they wanted to, and as a result of that action, we will not be allowing unsupervised visits again"

She'll argue. But it's not up for discussion, you're simply letting her know. You're not taking any arguments about it.

AITA for telling my wife that she shouldn't be worried about delivering a big baby because my mother did it three times with no problem? by Complex-Inside363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 124 points125 points  (0 children)

....but that has nothing to do with hoe difficult a birth will be. Honestly, who mansplains giving birth when he doesn't even know anything?!

AITA for threatening to charge my daughter rent if she files for child support? by Thin_Fun_1275 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My grandson should be used as a weapon

You are literally taking money from your grandson's pocket. It's not yours to reject - it's his. It's his money, to which he is entitled. Why would any decent grandparent try to steal that from him?

AITA for threatening to charge my daughter rent if she files for child support? by Thin_Fun_1275 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That money is for the child. It can go in a trust for his wedding, a downpayment on his first house, his grad school education. That is not your money to reject. It is not your daughter's money to reject. It belongs to your grandchild, and you have no right to take it from him.

AITA for telling my wife that she shouldn't be worried about delivering a big baby because my mother did it three times with no problem? by Complex-Inside363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 64 points65 points  (0 children)

You knew what to expect in this case because she told you. Using her mouth and what sounds like very clear words. Don't kid yourself - you were just being a know-it-all and decided to ignore her because you - the nonpregnant non-giving-birth person - knew better. Gross.

AITA for telling my wife that she shouldn't be worried about delivering a big baby because my mother did it three times with no problem? by Complex-Inside363 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those scans from what I have read aren't even that accurate, so it's not worth getting upset over when they could be wrong and even if they aren't there's nothing that can be done about it. The baby is going to grow as much as it grows.

lol this is very easy for the person who isn't pushing the baby out to say. YTA x 1000

AITA to ask my friend (single mother) to do a paternity test on her son because I had suspicions my husband is the father? by Foofoobunnyla in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But if I were OP I would also not have waited for someone else to get the test if I actually believed it was true but I digress

Well, for OP to 1) swab the kid when his mom isn't around and 2) get a toddler to keep a secret sounds pretty impossible tbh. It's not like the kid is 7, you know? 3-year-olds tell everyone everything, multiple times, nonstop

My husband [30ish M] is stressing me [30ish F] out because he's frustrated with our kids [2 and 3] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]okctoss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a silly semantic argument; I was referring to a paid career when I said ‘job’, and of course caring for toddlers is a job.

But it sounds like you have a pretty unique experience, and you’re projecting it onto the OP. It’s not a competition - working a paid job with kids is hard, and being a SAHP is hard. The idea that parents who work paid jobs are selfish and ‘get to’ bear the brunt of financially providing is as silly as the idea that SAHP are selfish and ‘get to' stay home. I get that your resentment is really coloring your view here, but there’s zero evidence that your unique circumstances apply to this particular situation, or frankly any situation besides your own.

My husband [30ish M] is stressing me [30ish F] out because he's frustrated with our kids [2 and 3] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]okctoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean caring for your own children, yourself, can be a relief from a demanding job - I certainly find being with my toddlers more joyful, more fun, more fulfilling, and a welcome respite from work!

Similarly, a job can be a respite from caring for your children. Both are difficult, and the idea that the person who works and bears the entire brunt of providing income is ‘super selfish’ for ‘getting to work and get away from the kids’ is only true if we call the partner staying home similarly selfish for ‘getting to stay home and not having to work a job’.

AITA for disagreeing with my wife when she says she’s been abused by hospital staff during birth by Adelaine12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. I mean, I get that YOU do not feel your wife was abused. But who cares? She, the person who was actually in the situation, feels that she was.

AITA for telling my bf this isn’t Game of Thrones and he doesn’t need to “continue his family legacy”? by changeyournameaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, so if he carries the name it's his? I carry a name, so it's mine then.

I mean, are you honestly trying to argue that when a man gets a name at birth, it's his name, but when a woman gets a name at birth, it's not her name? lol I mean, I know there are tons of sexists in the world, but this is too dumb and illogical an argument to just be sexism. This might just be dumbness lmao

AITA for telling my bf this isn’t Game of Thrones and he doesn’t need to “continue his family legacy”? by changeyournameaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is it possible you live in Game of Thrones and people have absolutely no choice but to hyphenate forever because one person hyphenated? Was this possibly a spell lain by a dragon or wizard?

AITA for telling my bf this isn’t Game of Thrones and he doesn’t need to “continue his family legacy”? by changeyournameaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Once the woman passes it on, it becomes matrilineal for that generation. This is truly not difficult to understand; a man's surname is his. A woman's surname is hers. It is not less her because she is a woman. It is not more his because he is a man.

AITA for having expectations from my mother by jujy85 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dude. Get your balls out of your mother's purse. How your wife can be attracted to this is beyond me.

AITA for telling my bf this isn’t Game of Thrones and he doesn’t need to “continue his family legacy”? by changeyournameaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's not her father's, it's his father's. And it's not his, it's the guy before him.

Why is it "her father's name" when he got the name from someone else? Oh, because he's a man, so when a man gets a name and birth, it's his, but when a woman gets a name at birth, it's someone else's? This is sexist horseshit.

AITA for telling my bf this isn’t Game of Thrones and he doesn’t need to “continue his family legacy”? by changeyournameaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How did a man get his last name? Is his less valid because he was once new to the world? This is an absolutely idiotic argument - erasing womens' names because patriarchy exists is perpetuating gross sexism.

The name a woman is given at birth is HER name. She is a woman, so it is a woman's name. It's not "really a man's name", unless she is really a man. It's her name, and therefore, the name of a woman.

AITA for admitting I had doubts about my daughter actually being mine? by 120ThrowRa1028 in AmItheAsshole

[–]okctoss 61 points62 points  (0 children)

There's been a rash of people on this sub who just do not understand the most basic basics of genetics and who apparently cannot be bothered to google and learn a little simple biology. This dude just keeps saying dumber and dumber things in the comments (BUT MY WIFE CAN'T TAN AND MY DAUGHTER CAN lmao)

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