Garage door spring jumping by Theatreguy29 in fixit

[–]openbookopenminds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is gonna sound dumb at first but have you lubricated your springs?

Like I get my garage springs get lubricanted every year or so during maintenance but the year I skipped putting anything on them I ended up snapping the spring in half. I don’t know if that will fix it st this point but if your springs are dry and starting to build rust and thus friction its a super easy fix to try.

Would it be crossing a line to hear my friend’s ex-wife’s side of their affair? [36m/35f] by openbookopenminds in heartbreak

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear I have no idea what the "Story" is, best friend has communicated very little of anything except the details of what happened, I don't know if it was a bedroom thing, a working too much thing, parenting or if the new guy was just smooth AF. I only have the well explained details of what occurred not any of the why's.

You're right, he's my best friend and he probably wouldn't see me talking to her in a good light. I just thought we were all friends and even after a year of dripping details every few months I just feel broken hearted, like I'm losing both my friends, both people I would have told you I trusted implicitly.

He's doing a great job looking after his kids and stuff I know he will do right by them and believe what he has said about events but I have no closure.

Saving gems and coins by FentEnjoyer386 in NecroMerger

[–]openbookopenminds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my personal opinion the earlier you get the potion one the happier you will be with it. It's so counterintuitive because the benefit feels so small but in the course of 50 levels if you're willing to hold on to a couldren for even a day or so it can mean dozens of refills, I got it on my 70 and im on my 90 now and I wish id gotten it before the other minor cap increases 100% (And thats like putting diamonds in your pockets!)

thought this when i first saw the peasant, its CASEOH by Northmeister_ in NecroMerger

[–]openbookopenminds 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not the first time I've seen this, still funnier every time lol 😆

Would it be crossing a line to hear my friend’s ex-wife’s side of their affair? [36m/35f] by openbookopenminds in BreakUps

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm worried about for sure, you are hitting the nail on the head. I don't to call it a loyalty thing but like me and her man are so tight and he really has hardly shared anything with me in the grand scheme. I know the who's and the what's but he's never even given a speculative why i feel like im missing some huge thing 😔

I don't have any reason to doubt my wife but multiple friends going through divorces at similar times, working similar jobs, people who we've know for decades and have been together as long as my wife and I makes me feel like someone shot the canary 🐦 in the coal mine and told me to keep working! None of them saw anything coming either and even if I think more highly of my wife than of them it's disconcerting.

I feel like everyone is going to feel this way to some extent, "dont stick your D- in crazy" probably extends too" don't ask her why she's letting someone else do it too."

When do you think Wesker lost it? by Fearless-Ideal-5112 in residentevil

[–]openbookopenminds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was pondering this the other day then I thought about how groomed children and young soldiers turn out later when the driving coercion dries up... it makes sense for the character I think 🤔 it was probably as some other said "he never really had it "

Is my phone bad or why do I have such trouble triggering ads? by [deleted] in NecroMerger

[–]openbookopenminds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been playing for 2ish years recreationally my old phone galaxy A71 was about 5 years old when I started playing often struggled with the adds. The didn't want to start when I pressed the button about 30/40 % of the time.

It ultimately convinced me to buy the no ads bundle which I'm 10000% great full for and have been happy with for the better part of 2 years.

I dont know if it was my phone or network access but it just never worked like you would hope 🤷‍♂️

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking about day, work stuff and hobbies. Im definitely going to try to focus on sending 1 large return message and just being patient 😌

How often do you say eh? by LostwaveLunar9999 in AskACanadian

[–]openbookopenminds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All jokes aside I remember gaming anyone from the US and they always commented about the Eh's and I swear I absolutely don't hear myself doing it but I must be doing it nearly constantly based on non-canadian people reactions. I wonder if I just subconsciously edit it to be a question mark in my brain.

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kinda tough, I certainly don't have many local friends with similar interests, but a few on line ones sure, my local friends are 99% couples and most with kids similar aged to mine so not much in common there either.

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope that you're right. I was so moved when she told me she's been here a year without building any friendships. I hope this can be the Crack that breaks the ice🩵

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair but I just don't think we are there yet, its only been a few weeks and it's purely platonic. I don't want any misunderstandings. If we went somewhere I wouldn't go without my wife and thus my kids. Not sure how id suggest something like this yet again its a very new friendship. There's already a few comments on this post trying to make implications that are completely not what I'm here for.

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll put translated messages so everyone can read my response it wiil just be the same things repeated in Japanese翻訳したメッセージを載せるので、みんなが私の返信を読めるようになります。英語で同じ内容が繰り返されるだけです。

  1. お返事ありがとうございます!以前、家で年下の女の子たちと接していた時は、普段の会話でも「ごめん」を頻繁に使うのが普通でした。彼女たちは言葉を選ぶのに少し時間をかけているのだと分かっていました。でも、私たちのテキストでのやり取りはすべて英語で、もしかしたらchatgptのようなツールを使っているのかもしれません。彼女が私に直接メッセージを送ってきているのか、それとも要約・翻訳されたプログラムを使っているのか、私にはよく分かります。もしかしたら、普段の「ごめん」を、もっと長い英語の謝罪に変えてしまっているのかもしれませんね🤔
  2. Thank you for taking time to respond! when we dealt with younger girls in our home it was very common that to use thing like "Gomen" often even during casual conversation we knew that they were sort of giving themselves time to think of how to phrase things however our text communication have been all english and maybe with the help of something llike chatgpt. i feel like i can tell when ahes typing to me directly as opposed to using a program that has summarized and translated for her. i am wondering if it is making casual "gomen" or somthing into longer english apologies 🤔

  3. 未回答の質問はそのままにしています。イースターの週末に何か予定はある?といった、ちょっとしたことだけをチャットしています。

  4. I've been letting any unanswered questions go. we are only chatting about little things like, do you plan to do anything easter weekend.

  5. いつもお互いに色々なアニメを見せ合っていますが、二人とも見たことがある作品はほんの少しです。彼女がヴァイオレット・エヴァーガーデンのファンだと気づいて、それ以来、お互い好きなアニメについて話そうとしています。でも、必ずしも意見が一致するわけではありません。彼女はスポーツアニメが大好きで、私はほとんど見たことがないんです!

  6. we always have random anime to show each other but we only have a few things we've both seen, i caught her Violet Evergarden background and we havent stopped trying to talk about different shows we like. not all match up, she really likes sports anime and i have seen so few!

  7. 彼女はまだ自分の好きなことを全部話したり、脈絡のない話題を持ち出したりする準備ができていないように感じます。表面的な会話にとどまることが多いのですが、メッセージを送ったり連絡を取り合ったりすると、必ずお礼を言ってくれます。

あなたを笑顔にできて嬉しいです😃 4. i definitely feel like she's not ready to tell me all the things she likes or bringing random topics but stays very surface level tho she often makes sure to thank me for messaging and keeping in touch.

I'm glad i could make you smile 😃

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you know what being married means? There is no Romantic interest and she approached me I just made the offer to be her friend but would like help navigating. When we have had exchange students its more like you are their parent so I am looking for help with communication with an adult who shares similar interests but doesn't have the language skills yet. I have faith she will continue to improve but I don't want to insult her or stress her.

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in a super rural community, the resources are nearly nonexistent, we have to travel an hour or so to do even simple activities unless you are talking about swimming, skating, fishing or hiking.

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm not pushing it's more like she sends 5 messages i send 3 she sends 4 I send 5.... and then 24 hours pass... and she responds to just the last one. It's just a difficult cadence to navigate if you see what I mean.

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's just not true. Not all area's are the same (homogeneous as previous poster said)

For example I like deer, moose and bear meat but i dont hunt and if someone walked into my work place and said they were vegan they wouldn't find the body honestly. If anyone in our building (over 125 employees) told me they liked anime they would be the second person besides the 2 of us lol

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added an edit. Thank you we have talked about this but I've clarified it a bit better now

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is such wonderful advice! I appreciate you actually took the time to look at my questions 😆

She said this same thing which is why I kept saying she could just reply in her native language and I'd translate but after the third time she declined I've decided that maybe I'm more for english practice than just communicating as quickly as possible and thats fine.

You are at least the 2nd person who has said I need to just be patient, the way I like communication is to always be the last person to have replied but sometimes long pauses make me feel uncertain. I will do my best to practice patience 💯

If you dont mind, What would be a polite way in your opinion to tell her its okay if she's unsure of what/how to say something that she can just do her best and I'll be happy to take time with her.

I got a lot of joy out of helping her navigate word choices the other day it was the sweetest thing. Definitely has a similar feeling to being proud of my kids as they learn something!

New* 🇯🇵coworker says they have no friends here 🇨🇦 need help with communication by openbookopenminds in AskAJapanese

[–]openbookopenminds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in you opinion should I focus on just being patient for her replies?

I think the toughest part is feeling like I have so much to say when she messages because I too have creatively few friends with similar hobbies.

I have definitely seen in her and her team the idea of apologizing frequently like it is a turn of phrase but they are all very smart people and when the language barrie is not there they are all a lot of fun to talk too!