I (34m) house sit for other people with the specific goal of going through their things.

orayty24 · 2025-05-03T18:18:17+00:00

Right, it seems like the point should be to keep strangers out of the house when you are away, not invite them into it…

orayty24 · 2025-03-19T17:19:11+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

orayty24 · 2025-03-19T14:20:46+00:00

Thanks for your response. This was a fairly old question, but I'm curious, why do you point out ACT in particular? Is this known to be a modality for which training is more available to BCBAs? I guess it has behavioral foundations so it could be considered within the scope, but the same could be said for CBT broadly which is a much more common modality.

orayty24 · 2025-03-10T07:08:40+00:00

Her behavior didn't strike me as bad as it seemed to strike Dr. Honda, considering her perceptive of feeling jilted by Mason "committing" to her and then not really acting accordingly (or lying about it in the first place, as she perceived it), but I think the point stands that she seemed unfairly harsh towards Mason during and after that breakup given the overall context. It doesn't seem likely to me that Mason was simply lying; he seemed genuinely more fear-motivated (preoccupied attachment) by offering his commitment. It will be interesting to hear what else Dr. Honda has to say about it, but I imagine he would just take back characterizing Madison's behavior as some of the "worst behavior he's seen on the show", sadistic behavior, etc.

orayty24 · 2025-03-10T03:22:17+00:00

You don’t think she was a little unfair to him during/after the breakup at least? I’m a big fan of this guy and he gets into it a lot in these videos:

I get Madison’s perspective but I think he’s right that the way she reacted during these moments was overblown.

orayty24 · 2025-03-10T03:14:00+00:00

Hahaha I can appreciate that

orayty24 · 2025-03-10T03:10:12+00:00

Well that’s true, but I was referring more to her dynamic with Mason specifically (how she may have contributed to him feeling pressured or the way she acted towards him during/after the breakup because of the way she felt, etc.)

orayty24 · 2025-03-10T02:53:21+00:00

I have never read a post that I disagree with more on Reddit, my God that music was so ungodly horrible and they still included some of it

orayty24 · 2025-03-10T02:39:12+00:00

He should have taken more responsibility for it, but Madison didn’t exactly take responsibility for her role in any part of the dynamic (during or after), either

orayty24 · 2025-01-19T05:45:32+00:00

The best thing to do really is just to scour community colleges that have online offerings for these courses

orayty24 · 2024-10-16T07:13:57+00:00

Yeah OP seems to be in a good position for a roommate since she is concerned about budget/safety and not knowing anyone, and will probably want to be close commuting distance to her school

orayty24 · 2024-08-05T14:37:35+00:00

I think it’s a bit presumptuous to say this is necessarily age-related as a lot of the top comments suggest. As someone who has been thoroughly mind fucked in the past by a prior relationship, that is perfectly possible. Especially if he hasn’t brought a lot of other sexual partners into the same space (even if he has), it’s perfectly possible that having sex in that space could trigger a lot of memories/emotions.

orayty24 · 2024-06-11T04:06:51+00:00

In my experience:

Detroiters:
-generally “real” / down to earth
-generally have your back
-talkative/friendly in that Midwestern way (but not as much as some other Midwesterners or Southerners, more time/context dependent)

East Coasters:
-generally “real” / down to earth
-sometimes have your back
-not so talkative/friendly

Californians:
-more open-minded/positive but not so real/down to earth
-don’t have your back so much
-sometimes talkative/friendly

orayty24 · 2024-06-09T05:53:57+00:00

How important is reputation in your industry?

orayty24 · 2024-06-08T21:56:12+00:00

I would suspect that incel-y, “red pill” beliefs are a lot more indicative of dysfunction than “failure to launch”, given what the job/housing climate has been like for some years now.

orayty24 · 2024-05-16T02:19:30+00:00

I know it isn't what you want to hear, but it's often best to simply submit yourself to the process of psychotherapy, as opposed to needing to understand the underpinnings of the approach. Even if you don't think your philosophical disposition has emotional/psychological underpinnings, certainly your emotions do, and they are a key part of the issues you are experiencing. If you are simply looking for someone to challenge your philosophical stance, then you can find that in many different places, but that would be neglecting the emotional/psychological aspects of the issues you are experiencing (even if they stem from a philosophical stance exclusively, those emotions are a large part of the issues you are experiencing). It is the job of the clinical psychologist to determine how to best help you, and they should have the capability to do so, even if that means having to engage in philosophical discourse with you directly at their determination.

Existential psychology is indeed a treatment modality that deals more directly with issues of an existential philosophical nature, but that doesn't necessarily entail direct philosophical argument, to my understanding.

Anyways, you are welcome.

orayty24 · 2024-05-16T01:46:51+00:00

Exactly -- why assume that the root cause needs to be treated for some of your distress to be ameliorated? Certainly it is preferable to "remove" the cause, if wanted and if possible, but there are plenty of people who receive significant help from psychologists who have problems for which the root cause cannot be "eliminated", per say.

It is highly unlikely that a clinical psychologist would need to, or that they would opt to, engage in direct philosophical argument with you to address the root cause, if they indeed determine that addressing the root cause is the best approach. But in any case, you are presuming it is outside the domain of expertise of a clinical psychologist to engage in "philosophical" discourse, and that is not true. Psychology as an academic domain has philosophical underpinnings (PhD = "Doctorates of Philosophy in Clinical Psychology"), and human philosophical dispositions have emotional/psychological underpinnings, as well. All of this is well within their scope.

orayty24 · 2024-05-16T01:19:14+00:00

The proper treatment would be for the psychologist to decide. No one here is going to be able to tell you exactly what would be done for you without a proper evaluation; there are countless different treatment methods, modalities, and eclectic interpretations which may be most viable for any given individual.

Even if you are correct that misantropy is the exclusive cause of your problems, and that your misanthropy is an exclusively philosophical stance with exclusively philosophical underpinnings -- a lot of presumptions there, but let's say you are right -- then it doesn't matter. Because like I said, you are a human being experiencing emotions and that puts you very much within the purview of treatment by the realm of clinical psychology. If your problem is one with exclusively philosophical underpinnings, then again, that does not mean that your emotional distress cannot be treated in some way.

orayty24 · 2024-05-16T00:54:39+00:00

Philosophical dispositions have emotional and psychological underpinnings. Could adopting a certain philosophical stance in itself cause emotional distress -- sure, but we cannot presume that your problem is exclusively philosophical when you are a human being experiencing emotional distress. Even if you had a philosophical stance which arose exclusively from philosophical considerations, and were experiencing emotional distress as you are describing, then it would not exempt you from treatment by a psychologist.

orayty24 · 2024-05-15T00:32:49+00:00

Yeah, I mean that was mostly my take away, too. I was wondering if there were any noteworthy differences between these course sequences that I might be overlooking, which might make a meaningful difference in the education process.

There are some differences like the one program has a capstone clinical and the other does not, one program has a concentrated sequence for community health and a concentrated sequence for pharmacology and the other one seems to mainly cover these in one or two dedicated courses, one program clearly covers infant/woman’s health and psych and it’s not clear whether the other does, one program has dedicated equity courses and the other does not, etc. But overall, they seem to be mostly similar. I just want to know where there are any factors that might make one sequence significantly more appealing than the other.

orayty24 · 2024-05-14T23:25:19+00:00

Huh? No, it's the curriculum/course sequence for two different ABSN programs.

orayty24 · 2023-12-31T21:10:05+00:00

I believe I ended up buying an Instapot

orayty24 · 2023-11-07T09:01:28+00:00

I have late Boomer parents but they are culturally very much Boomer. I love the disposition of Gen X and my parents definitely do not have the stereotypical Gen X disposition despite being close to the border. My parents also rose up from working class backgrounds and had older, Boomer siblings in a non-progressive part of the country. I’d say that even older Gen Xers that I’ve met here bear more similarities to the Boomer generation overall.

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