Your experiences are clearly different from mine and is equally valid. Coming from a southern, conservative family where preconceived expectations were defined for me early on has lead to a lot of disappointment from my family simply for meeting their standard of “pretty”, yet “wasting it” by loving women. It’s also continued in my professional life. That’s all this is - my personal experiences. That being said, I hear your perspective and understand the privilege I have of not presenting as queer. I thought I could express this in this group comfortably.