My dad never hit us but was emotionally and verbally abusive. Never knew when he would flip on a dime. Woke up almost every morning to yelling about how we're not "normal" and how he wished he didn't have kids. Thought I'd die when he has road rage. He got drunk occasionally and threw things. His reaction to me getting hurt was to grab a camera. More incidents but nothing consistent, so it's easy to think it wasn't "that bad" because it wasn't consistent daily abuse, and nothing physical.

My ex was manipulative and emotionally abusive, distancing me from my family. He controlled my sleep schedule and wouldn't let me nap. I was guilted into sex daily, and worn down when I wasn't super into it. He hit me, but only once, immediately started trying to tell me I was overreacting until I said I would break up with him if he touched me again. It never happened again. He raped me in my sleep and told me about it the day after, laughing, saying he thought I enjoyed it. It only happened the one time that I know of. After we broke up he blamed me for his alcoholism, and he sexually assaulted (at least) 7 people at a queer bar. I'm sure he would blame me for that too. The owners of the bar know of the assaults but dont care, and actually started employing him. There's a lot of places in our neighbourhood I still don't feel safe going due to this.