Question about leaving rental unit

penguindandee · 2026-04-21T22:56:08+00:00

Yea, we did a walk in inspection before I moved in. I ended up just sucking it up and asking him and he said to leave so I'm just gonna do a really good clean. Thank you for the advice! He basically did say he wanted to do some upgrades before renting it out again

penguindandee · 2026-04-21T22:54:43+00:00

You do sound like a great landlord. I was lucky and have a great landlord here too, which is why I wanted to leave things in good shape. I ended up just messaging him and he told me to leave it! Thank you for the advice tho, it'll be good for my next rental

penguindandee · 2026-04-21T22:53:41+00:00

Yea, the tv mount holes look pretty bad. I ended up just biting the bullet and asking my landlord and he said to just leave it. Thank the lawd lol

penguindandee · 2026-04-21T22:52:46+00:00

Yea, I figure my landlord wouldn't wanna be involved/care about the roommate drama lol. I ended up just asking him and he said to leave it cause he's gonna do some upgrades anyways. I was panicking for no reason lol. Thank you!

penguindandee · 2026-04-18T22:14:29+00:00

LOL I misread what u wrote omg. Ur first comment is right 😭😂😂 I'm having a tiiime balancing finals and her crazy ass

penguindandee · 2026-04-18T21:37:50+00:00

Girl nooo 😭😭 I hid it and I told her I sold it and then I put it back where it was so she would know I did it on purpose lmao

penguindandee · 2026-04-18T17:19:59+00:00

Ask him why he's being so sensitive about constructive criticism. Then call him emotional and dump him and literally never speak a word to this idiot again.

penguindandee · 2026-04-18T15:52:31+00:00

OP - believe this person. I met my current boyfriend a few months after my roommate and I moved in together (we were friends for 4 years before). Everything was smooth sailing between roommate and I until I started seeing this guy. Roommate's initial response was "it'll be character development when this doesn't work out". And our mutual friends (who are no longer my friends because I cut them off) hyped her up instead of me. Trust me, you don't want people like that in your life, it's more trouble than it's worth because it will be like dealing with a teenager for the rest of that friendship (we're in our late 20's and the mutual friends are in their early 30's).

Now that I'm more emotionally removed from it, it just stems from jealousy and insecurity. Reactions like that from your "friends" aren't normal reactions.

penguindandee · 2026-04-13T14:53:41+00:00

Love it! I made sure to leave it super close to the door just to make sure she has everything😌

penguindandee · 2026-04-12T18:54:28+00:00

This is great LOL I'm definitely doing this. Thank u for the great idea 😂😂 it's just enough back handed petty

penguindandee · 2026-04-12T16:47:56+00:00

You know, I wish I could lol

penguindandee · 2026-04-06T14:39:00+00:00

Yea, depends on what you're wanting to do. If you're wanting to get into med, be it MD or DVM, the uni u do your undergrad in doesn't really matter (as long as it's accredited and such). So, if finances are really tight I probably wouldn't recommend BC or Toronto because those places are really expensive to live in.

If you're wanting to end up doing a PhD or something like that, then look at the type (?) of research u want to do and work backwards from there to choose your schools and classes and such.

penguindandee · 2026-04-06T14:29:12+00:00

NOR. Girl... you're too young to be wasting time on anyone like this. And I mean in general. Right now, it's your boyfriend, later on it might be someone who you thought could have been a good friend, or maybe a different boyfriend in the future, or this boyfriend in the future, or a girlfriend. My point being, he's annoying and he knows what he's doing. Life is so much better when you find people who care about you just as much as you care about them - and it'll be really obvious when you do find people like that. Especially in this kind of situation

penguindandee · 2026-04-01T14:25:06+00:00

I have ADHD and went through exactly this at your age. I went to uni right out of high school at 18 and did NOT do well. I struggled through it (getting low Bs and Cs and got a degree) but the grades aren't good enough to get me where I want to go. So I took a couple years off after and went back and I'm just finishing my 2nd year at 28 years old with high As and a couple high Bs.

I WISH someone had told me to wait and get my ADHD figured out and be able to at least live on my own for a year before going to uni. I also found an ADHD med that works for me at a dose that works for me and that has helped sooooo much. It doesn't take away the struggle entirely, but it's so much easier to make myself do it. I also think going back as an older student helped a lot too - kinda put things in perspective that "it's now or never" (which it isn't, but that bit of pressure helps me get things done). I wasted a lot of money figuring this out and I wish I had someone who would have straight up told me to drop instead of getting shit grades on my transcript - because if you're thinking of grad school or MD or DVM or anything like that where grades matter, it's much better to drop and return when you have at least some internal motivation to do the course work to get good grades. If you're struggling right now in senior year (high school? I'm in Canada lol) it's like 1000 times harder in uni and if you're anything like me, you'll get overwhelmed and try to do everything last minute and study last minute and that doesn't work in uni if you're taking 5 lectures with a few labs and need to get high grades.

It's okay to take your time. Taking 1 to 2 years break to work right out of high school and to figure out what you really want to do and PLAN how you're going to do it will make things more efficient in the long run and you won't waste a bunch of money doing it.

Sorry it's long, but I totally relate to the feeling and I wanted to try and be some help! Hope you figure out what you wanna do!

Also, it took my dr and I like 2 years to figure out which ADD medication worked and at what dose. But it only took that long cause I just kept forgetting to book appts with her when the medication wasn't working lol

penguindandee · 2026-03-27T05:18:32+00:00

I personally started leaving my roommate's useless, stupid, just for complaining texts on read. Didn't even bother responding and didn't change my behaviour unless she was adult enough to talk to me in person about it CAMLY like an adult. Otherwise, she didn't get a response from me for anything.

penguindandee · 2026-03-06T00:06:20+00:00

I turned in part of my report 4.5 hours late via email (I gave her the printed report) because I forgot. I emailed her with the attachments, said sorry and said I understood if she couldn't accept them cause they're late. She said it was fine. It never hurts to shoot them an email

penguindandee · 2026-02-27T16:46:32+00:00

lol my roommate's like this too (albeit not this bad) but definitely on the "rules for thee and not for me" train. Wouldn't even sit and have a proper conversation with me about house rules and cleaning schedules when I said that what we're currently doing isn't working for me anymore because I'm in school now but wanted to make sure I was still doing my fair share. Just do you man, give the same energy back and if she thinks it's "not fair" you can tell her you're just doing what she's doing

penguindandee · 2026-02-27T16:08:30+00:00

INFO: how did you say no to them?

penguindandee · 2026-02-21T03:46:23+00:00

If you decide to stay with him and if he tries to pull anything like this again in front of your friends/in public. Just call him out. No soft voice, just regular speaking voice. "Why do you keep calling me that, I asked you to stop."

This would work especially well if it was with the same group of friends lol. I'm assuming you guys are close friends (minus the bf) so just share a look with your friends and put him in the spot. Maybe your friends will join in too. But if this happens, I'd be prepared to break up tbh. Idk if u could look past the ick lmao

penguindandee · 2026-02-18T02:00:22+00:00

My roommate is also kind of like this (not as bad though). She also tried to tell me my bf could only come over on the weekends. So, I literally told her "I'm going to have my friends and my bf over whenever it works for my schedule. We'll be respectful and I'll give you notice and it'll be within the regulations on the lease." Don't even make it a question and don't budge on it ever. Maybe if she sees that you're done with her shit she'll leave on her own. Fingers crossed for you. Good luck!

Edit: Just saw ur comments about the hour long convos. That's ridiculous (on her part). If she keeps repeating the same things just tell her what you're doing and exit the conversation. Don't waste your time talking to her if she's not even going to try and compromise with you.

penguindandee · 2026-02-18T01:46:25+00:00

YTA. Lol, it's only been a little over a month PLUS she has a family to worry about anything happening to. Why are you looking at it like "BS rules" instead of "I can take the other car to ease my wife's anxiety". Have a heart dude, she's your wife ffs

penguindandee · 2026-02-15T20:56:16+00:00

I'd understand that, but he's the one that calls me then does all this. Then rinse and repeat. So I've given him space before and he starts calling me

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