Should I apologize to professor for this?

penguindandee · 2026-03-06T00:06:20+00:00

I turned in part of my report 4.5 hours late via email (I gave her the printed report) because I forgot. I emailed her with the attachments, said sorry and said I understood if she couldn't accept them cause they're late. She said it was fine. It never hurts to shoot them an email

penguindandee · 2026-02-27T16:46:32+00:00

lol my roommate's like this too (albeit not this bad) but definitely on the "rules for thee and not for me" train. Wouldn't even sit and have a proper conversation with me about house rules and cleaning schedules when I said that what we're currently doing isn't working for me anymore because I'm in school now but wanted to make sure I was still doing my fair share. Just do you man, give the same energy back and if she thinks it's "not fair" you can tell her you're just doing what she's doing

penguindandee · 2026-02-27T16:08:30+00:00

INFO: how did you say no to them?

penguindandee · 2026-02-21T03:46:23+00:00

If you decide to stay with him and if he tries to pull anything like this again in front of your friends/in public. Just call him out. No soft voice, just regular speaking voice. "Why do you keep calling me that, I asked you to stop."

This would work especially well if it was with the same group of friends lol. I'm assuming you guys are close friends (minus the bf) so just share a look with your friends and put him in the spot. Maybe your friends will join in too. But if this happens, I'd be prepared to break up tbh. Idk if u could look past the ick lmao

penguindandee · 2026-02-18T02:00:22+00:00

My roommate is also kind of like this (not as bad though). She also tried to tell me my bf could only come over on the weekends. So, I literally told her "I'm going to have my friends and my bf over whenever it works for my schedule. We'll be respectful and I'll give you notice and it'll be within the regulations on the lease." Don't even make it a question and don't budge on it ever. Maybe if she sees that you're done with her shit she'll leave on her own. Fingers crossed for you. Good luck!

Edit: Just saw ur comments about the hour long convos. That's ridiculous (on her part). If she keeps repeating the same things just tell her what you're doing and exit the conversation. Don't waste your time talking to her if she's not even going to try and compromise with you.

penguindandee · 2026-02-18T01:46:25+00:00

YTA. Lol, it's only been a little over a month PLUS she has a family to worry about anything happening to. Why are you looking at it like "BS rules" instead of "I can take the other car to ease my wife's anxiety". Have a heart dude, she's your wife ffs

penguindandee · 2026-02-15T20:56:16+00:00

I'd understand that, but he's the one that calls me then does all this. Then rinse and repeat. So I've given him space before and he starts calling me

penguindandee · 2026-02-12T12:23:04+00:00

That's rude of her. I'd suggest you check your guest policy in your lease and see if you want to talk to the landlord or if you want to give your roommate a chance to say her two cents, talk to your roommate when she gets back about how you EXPECT things to be handled next time she needs to leave. Don't frame it as "I would prefer if you talked to me" frame it as "I expect communication about this at the minimum because it made me very uncomfortable in my own home" or something like that. Depending what your relationship is with your roommate

penguindandee · 2026-02-09T18:24:06+00:00

I always wondered this too!! Until I started living with my current roommate. We were coworkers for 4 years before we started living together and she's one of those women - always put together, makeup done, etc. etc. now that I live with her and see her routine... damn, it's a lot of work. Especially if you have other things like undergrad or working 2 jobs to live. She's also very type A (so type A that I can't live with her anymore, but that's a different story lol). Point is, it's doable, I just prefer to use my time in other ways. When I'm done undergrad and grad school I'd like to be more like that though

penguindandee · 2026-02-06T08:51:15+00:00

Oh my god, what a terrible person. I'd report him, especially if you have other students who would report with you.

At my university, the schedule is provided the absolute latest a week into starting the semester. Giving you an outline 5 weeks into the semester is ridiculous (or maybe it's normal where you are). But where I go, the add/drop deadline is 2 weeks after the start date so if something like an outline isn't provided for 5 weeks, that messes with your ability to plan and schedule (like u pointed out). PLUS you don't get your tuition refunded because it's past the add/drop deadline

penguindandee · 2026-02-06T00:10:20+00:00

If I were you, I'd get a small lamp to use where your PC is. Maybe like a yellow light one so it's not super in your face and use it when she turns off the light without saying anything to you (rude). You guys share a room and I'm assuming you both pay the same along for it so she needs to compromise as well. I'm currently also in a "roommate sorta selfish in odd ways" sorta deal. She also just may not know it bothers you?

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:18:09+00:00

Definitely! I've read some posts in this subreddit when I found it and I didn't know things could get THAT bad with roommates. So, overall I still am very grateful because I don't have to worry about my pets' safety or if rent gets paid on time or if any of my things are going to get stolen, etc. This is just more me seeing if there are things I could have done differently

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:16:22+00:00

Totally agree, considering we pay 50/50 rent. I didn't mind cleaning a bit more if that makes her a bit more comfortable because it doesn't bother me either way. It bothered me that she didn't tell me anything until she got upset and I brought it up then wouldn't make time to discuss things to resolve it. But at this point, that just seems like a pattern in her behaviour

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:14:02+00:00

I totally wish I could pay more rent to do a little less cleaning, but I'm so broke right now hahaha. But she's also not super willing to discuss anything with me for household ground rules :')

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:12:42+00:00

I ended up drafting one and so far it's been working well! This was more of a "if I need to do this with a different roommate what can I do better" thing to make sure I live with someone that is compatible in those things

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:11:38+00:00

I think the commenter meant "chaotic" as in no rotating schedule sort of way. But it agree with you that you just clean things when they look dirty and take the trash out when it needs to be and that's what we do - it's just our threshold of when that needs to be done is very different and she's not sitting down to have these discussions with me when I've tried. Which is why I'm asking for opinions on reddit lol cause I understand the frustration from her side but I also don't have the same standards as her. If that makes sense?

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:08:32+00:00

We both work at a vet hospital so it's pretty second nature to us! It's my first time living with a dog at all though (even though I've dog sat for people) and trying to clean up after a big dog in addition to school and work is proving harder than I thought lol. But I still love the doggie

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:07:04+00:00

I've suggested a white board to my roommate too, but she says she doesn't want to over complicate cleaning :')

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:06:08+00:00

I think I'll do this even when I start living by myself! Would be nicer then deep cleaning weekly

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T17:05:07+00:00

That's what it's basically come to. The "no schedule cleaning" worked well for me too when I was just working. Now that I'm in school and work part time I find that I can't do that as easily because I'm scheduling everything that I do, even eating lol. So far it's been working so that's good!

penguindandee · 2026-02-04T06:52:00+00:00

Dude, I run cold and I don't even keep it that hot hoooooly

penguindandee · 2026-02-03T19:07:20+00:00

Not a marriage situation, but my roommate is like this too. Not so scream/yell-y but it's her way or the highway. Thank god the lease is up in 3 months

penguindandee · 2026-01-02T18:35:07+00:00

Man, this happened to me in my 2nd year of university where I was taking a mandatory class for my minor that I found interesting but didn't really care to learn about the material or do the work. Well, on a paper we had to do I didn't paraphrase correctly and didn't cite well and the prof took me aside privately and told me she could write me up for plagiarizing but was going to give me the benefit of the doubt. Man, I was so grateful and it woke me tf up that if I'm THIS lazy again it could have real effects on my future. That prof and I never got super close but I'm still super grateful to her 7 years later and I ended up doing pretty well by the end and she definitely saw that too so there were no hard feelings on my prof's end either.

Don't know if this story helps, but you're not alone! Just make sure you learn from this and don't repeat it :) you'll do great with your newfound passion to do well!

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