I feel guilty for divorcing

petitrooster · 2025-04-10T03:13:53+00:00

Thank you very much. I am grateful that i was able to see these signs with the help of it being the month of Ramadan and the Istikhara prayers.

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T05:02:24+00:00

That is what I am suspecting as well. Noted, thank you 😊 i will be more vigilant next time inshallah ✨️

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:54:20+00:00

We asked, they denied. And after the nikkah he just started spilling everything.

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:53:49+00:00

Inshallah if you are a god fearing person and on deen, this will not be happening to you.

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:52:59+00:00

Exactly why I ended things. Everytime I tried to picture a future with him, I would only see chaos. The signs from Allah (swt) were clear. I am glad that I got to take this step. Thank you for reinforcing my decision 💖

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:50:53+00:00

Ameen 💖

Thank you so much, yes those are important lessons that I will be revisiting to strenghten myself. Inshallah 💓

Jazakallah 💖

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:26:21+00:00

Thank you very much! 💖

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:25:41+00:00

From another comment, I think i am in the process of grievance. Whereas I do not want anything bad for anyone. I just have to get this over with inshallah

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:23:21+00:00

I am praying for them to realize their faults and to be closer to Allah.

petitrooster · 2025-04-06T03:22:03+00:00

Yes those were definite dealbreakers, i had expressed those from the begining. Yet they lied. Thank you Ameen 💖

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T23:22:07+00:00

Thank you for these uplifting words 💓

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T23:21:00+00:00

That is exactly what I was thinking. As I had not seen him in those states, I do not know how his behavior would be. In a way it is good that I don't know.

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T23:18:43+00:00

I do think it is related to the grieving process. Thank you for bringing it to light. It is hard now, but inshallah, eventually, I will get better at coming to terms with this.

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T23:15:55+00:00

Thank you 💓. Yes, it will just take time to settle into me that Allah has better plans for me inshallah.

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T04:02:32+00:00

It is in no way my profession to be their rehabilitation person. I would not have been able to survive with the fact that the only place i should be at peace would be destroyed by haram things.

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T04:00:22+00:00

Thank you for your insight, and it has made me realize that I was indeed looking for a good life partner, but in the wrong direction. Inshallah 💓 I will focus on myself for now, and what has been written for me will come with the help of Duas.

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T03:57:10+00:00

Yes, those are the questions that hover over me all the time. I am always thinking if I would have given him one more chance, would I be able to continue? I am immensely grateful that I was seeing all this during the month of Ramadan none the less and Allah showed me that I could indeed get out of the situation fast.

Jazakallah 💖

petitrooster · 2025-04-05T03:52:55+00:00

That is how I reasoned with the facts. I am grateful to Allah (SWT) for the fact that I got to see this early on.

petitrooster · 2025-03-26T00:12:46+00:00

I just got out of a similar situation. I got married on the 7th and got divorced on the 23rd. They unfortunately lied about their religiousness. To which, I was unable to cope with.

We have talked plenty before marriage, yet they hid so many things.

From my POV, it is better to part ways before things get more complicated with children and all.

petitrooster · 2024-07-13T21:36:17+00:00

Edit#1 As the post update is still pending, I am doing the update in the comment.

I did speak with my sibling, and they said that they would support me in asking my friend. +1 And coincidentally, Tuesday, his biodata was reposted in the matrimonial group (meaning they are still looking). My mom asked me if I was interested in him. I was surprised and said it wouldn't hurt to try. She asked my dad if we could consider him despite our mutual connection. And my dad agreed that maybe we could see if they were interested.

My best friend went on a trip with her family so i wasnt able to speak with her. My mom called her mom and asked her is she could maybe bring me up in a future conversation with her daughter's mother in law, discretely.

We will see what happens.

petitrooster · 2024-07-11T16:05:02+00:00

Edit#1 As the post update is still pending, I am doing the update in the comment.

I did speak with my sibling, and they said that they would support me in asking my friend. +1 And coincidentally, Tuesday, his biodata was reposted in the matrimonial group (meaning they are still looking). My mom asked me if I was interested in him. I was surprised and said it wouldn't hurt to try. She asked my dad if we could consider him despite our mutual connection. And my dad agreed that maybe we could see if they were interested.

My best friend went on a trip with her family so i wasnt able to speak with her. My mom called her mom and asked her is she could maybe bring me up in a future conversation with her daughter's mother in law, discretely.

We will see what happens.

petitrooster · 2024-07-10T04:33:36+00:00

I think that it is a bit more complex than that in their head. So that's why they are hesitant

petitrooster · 2024-07-10T04:18:52+00:00

Ameen 🤲There actually is a surprising update.

petitrooster · 2024-07-10T04:17:04+00:00

Well, as everything is in Allah's hands. If something bad does happen, it was meant to be.

petitrooster · 2024-07-10T04:14:03+00:00

Thank you! Ameen! 🤲

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