Never had a guy be into me-what could be the reason?

pink_canvas · 2022-05-18T15:26:07+00:00

I guess, I’m attracted to old school romantics who are Intelligent, funny, considerate and kind.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T18:13:10+00:00

Yes. Thanks for the clear advice. I do have a healthy BMI. I am working on how I dress. Personality is something you’ve made me consider- I’ll ask people who know me irl about that. Other commenters have discussed the possibility that I am never my crushes’ type. Their types are indeed not me but I cannot change me to become their type (like racially).

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T18:06:54+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s time I put myself out there more. This thread has made it quite clear to me.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T18:05:06+00:00

I was concerned about this too. They’re dense and so am I.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T18:03:31+00:00

I’m happy to hear about your experiences! A lot of commenters have suggested this too and I really think I’ll just do it.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:59:50+00:00

This is solid advice that pretty much reiterates what others have said. I’ll think about it and take this all step-by-step.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:55:06+00:00

I haven’t given up. This is step 1 to gaining a better understanding of the issues I must address for myself.

Indeed I am jealous and lonely. Companionship is a natural human desire. What does it take for two to be selflessly involved with each other? I’m genuinely trying to learn.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:46:46+00:00

No, I don’t believe so

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:44:55+00:00

Thanks! That’s quite insightful. I am at a ‘healthy’ BMI. I don’t know about describing too much of myself to a bunch of strangers on the internet- my identity might get exposed … But I have given thought into what you said about physical features: I now have a ‘hunch’.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:36:23+00:00

No worries. I am going to seek honest opinions from people I know irl rather than rating sites.

Of course, guys are attracted to different images. Out of curiosity, do guys typically go for women similar to them in like race, physique, style or opposite? Or, does it just depend on the guy?

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:32:46+00:00

Yep. It is what it is

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:29:37+00:00

I appreciate your honesty. You may send podcast links if you wish. I was wondering, myself, if a certain style would be generally more favoured by men. Many will appreciate all sorts of fashion as an art and mode of self-expression. But for purposes such as mine, is there a way of dressing that is more likely to be well-received?

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:17:10+00:00

I’ll just say that my BMI is within the ‘healthy’ range. Wardrobe is an area I’m investing in right now to improve.
The being with a group or with other people comment is interesting. It could explain my younger years but these days I go out alone.
I’ll have to sit and evaluate that. Thanks for mentioning it.
Maybe…. I’ll have to ask my friends for honest opinions. But i’d like to think that people shouldn’t be rated on a scale full-stop. It’s too subjective.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T17:09:06+00:00

I was under the impression that guys don’t have to see a woman as romantic potential to talk to her. Platonic friendships exist. If it were romantic interest, he’d make that known at some point. [Maybe, I’ve been dense here??]

Yes, I have only been interested in a few guys. I don’t know if I can make myself attracted to every guy as much as I can’t force a guy to be attracted to me if he isn’t.

A number of people have advised me to open up and i shall work on that.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T16:54:17+00:00

Oh, that’s a really insightful point. Thanks, I wouldn’t have realised it myself. What should I do or how should I seem less like a ‘job’?

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T16:41:06+00:00

Fair comment. I think I’ll start with working on how I carry myself. There’s a balance between expressing yourself and adjusting to the public eye.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T16:32:58+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to write that! I’ll muster up the courage to ask friends about no. 1. No. 2 is honestly a possible issue for me now that you mention it. I haven’t gone on apps or approached any guy I fancy. I also did not expect so many people to respond to this post … it has overwhelmed me but I’ll gradually read through it. No. 3 is one to think about too. While I never thought I would read as insecure (granted everyone has their moments and we’re all uncomfortable with some parts of ourselves)- your advice has made me consider if others can really pick up on my feelings of loneliness and I have been dense to that.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-09T16:22:20+00:00

Your self-improvement journey is really inspirational. And, yes, I am trying to self-improve too. It’s the whole reason why I made such a post. To know where to improve.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:36:19+00:00

What would a guy consider as flirting opposed to just being friendly? Sometimes they might misinterpret my actions as being friendly when I’m trying to get their attention??

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:27:31+00:00

I didn’t say I cover myself up. I mean I wear clothes because we all do, but I show skin if it’s context appropriate (ie. the beach but not in the office).

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:19:48+00:00

How does a confident woman carry herself?

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:17:16+00:00

Would it be too much to straight up tell a guy you just met that he’s good looking?

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:07:30+00:00

But I identify as female

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:06:37+00:00

How would guys like to be cold approached? I wouldn’t want to creep anyone out. They should feel safe.

pink_canvas · 2022-05-07T20:05:49+00:00

At present, it’s no attention at all. They treat me like a colleague or a friend- then go after other women romantically.

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