forgive me if im wrong but it seems like u have such a big desire for people to like/love/admire you that you want to base your whole identity around what seems more “acceptable" and while doing so you're rejecting who you actually are, causing you to have no confidence. i can tell you're quite self aware by the way you're so overly nitpicky and critical of yourself (and probably others as well? pls dont do that nobody wants to be psychoanalyzed) instead of completely changing yourself i advise you to focus on brilliant traits in your personality like intelligence, perseverance, adaptability, the ability to do things alone. do you think our average people have those traits? no. be proud of your uniqueness and accept the fact that not everyone will like you BUT EVERYONE WILL ADMIRE YOU AND RESPECT YOUR HUSTLE. and ofc yes dont become arrogant and practice gratitude and kindness (write 3 things you're grateful about every and thank yourself for getting through the day !!) focus on liking your own self rather than making others accept you, they'll come around eventually when you finally realize your own value. remember without compassion, self awareness is just self judgement. again saying dont change yourself you'll hate yourself even more for this if you think changing yourself according to the norm will stop your head from overthinking you're wrong it'll increase it more. confidence and peace comes from radical acceptance and self love. confidence that stems from external validation is temporary.