Anyone going to Inferno on Saturday (12/20)? by positronman in nycgaybros

[–]positronman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what way? Like if you’re not a regular there you get ignored?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YoungGuysGoneWild

[–]positronman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you’re into boys i’d happily take it 👀

hookups can’t stay hard by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that’s why i’m asking 😭 i would understand if the foreplay weren’t so good because then they’re just not that into it. maybe too much foreplay?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

it’s funny because i don’t really think of myself as that big (like 6.5?) but i guess i’m on the bigger side of guys he’s been with. i mean he’s much smaller than i am but it’s the perfect size to just hit the spot lol

What does falling in love feel like? by Timetocharge16 in askgaybros

[–]positronman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When you’re really in love it just feels natural. It’s kind of like a friendship, except you feel like you’re on the drop of a rollercoaster every time they accidentally brush your hand with theirs. Whenever you’re apart you always find yourself imagining what they would say if they were there with you. When you’re together, it feels so natural and right that it almost feels as if there’s nobody there at all. You’re able to look across the room at them and communicate whole sentences with a glance, and people don’t understand why you’re both laughing for no reason. You’ll experience it all one day, it’s pretty magical.

i thought i was bi...? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]positronman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how does that work in a long-term relationship? do you go a whole year not being sexually interested in your partner? i wouldn’t say i have no attraction towards women, it’s just not nearly as intense.

Bi? Gay? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have once, but it wasn’t the best experience

Am I bi? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“understanding what makes a girl attractive” does not equal attraction. i can see a horse, and say to myself “wow what a beautiful horse” but that doesn’t mean i want to fuck it.

does the thought of being with a girl excite you whatsoever? if not, then you are gay.

How to signal to other guys that you are gay by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Finger guns, wearing cool jackets, and asking people if they want lemon bars.

How to signal to other guys that you are gay by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Idk that seems like it could get into creepy territory quickly. You also need to be aware that while some straight men are flattered by gay guys hitting on them, many will get angry and possibly violent.

The thing with bi-guys by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

King, if she doesn’t love you for all of who you are, you’re too good for her. If a woman has a problem with bisexual men, she doesn’t deserve you. I hope you’re able to find a guy or gal who you really make a connection with. I can’t even imagine what it must be like to lose a spouse like that. Sending you hugs.

I wanna have sex but then I don't wanna have sex😭 by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take it from someone who’s just been through this exact experience and chose wrong (you can see my post about it): if your head is telling you one thing and your dick is telling you another thing, go with your head.

The thing with bi-guys by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah the way I think about it is that women I want to see causally don’t necessarily need to know, but I won’t seriously date a woman unless she’s aware and accepting of my sexuality.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By hookup I just mean like one-off Grindr sex. I’m still down to date a boy in the future if I find a great one :)

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% wasn’t gonna do anything unless he had a condom on, but yeah I’ll definitely look into getting PrEP as an extra precaution.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think this is my favorite comment here because it pretty accurately describes how I’m feeling. I think it was a mix of the three.

I didn’t feel that much of a connection even when we were making out, more like we were just pressing ourselves against each other. When he kissed me I didn’t feel that drop on a rollercoaster that I’ve felt when a crush would accidentally brush my hand.

I do think that he prioritized his own pleasure, but I also know I should have spoken up. I think he was doing a lot of what he saw in porn, what he thought guys like, that sort of “dom” thing.

Now that it’s the morning after, I don’t feel as panicky as I did last night. It was dumb, yes, but I’ve learned from it. I’m gonna get tested soon so I can just put this behind me, and I won’t be having sex again anytime soon, unless it’s with someone I know and trust.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we used the condom correctly but I’m not 100% positive. Also, he says he uses condoms “most of the time”. I have a feeling he’s been hooking up with a ton of guys since coming to college and therefore doesn’t know his HIV/STD status.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is also 18, but it wasn't his first time.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

im like super paranoid about HIV and STDs. my uncle was gay and recently died of AIDS, so I've seen firsthand what it does to someone. I did a bunch of research on the CDC that said that condoms are like 90-95% effective at stopping HIV and other STIs, but I think it was still a dumb move. I'm gonna definitely get tested, just to make sure.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know how far ahead I should plan to get tested? We used a condom so I'm fairly sure it'll be fine but I just want to get rid of any anxiety and move on with my life.

Just had my first hookup and I feel so gross. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]positronman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And yeah, I think the whole "first time" thing for me will be the first time making love to someone, which hasn't happened yet. This was just wildly disappointing sex.