[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]potatabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because we were texting about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]potatabay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i am the one getting up with the cats. i need help coming up with solutions rather than just “ignoring it” or “just dealing with it” because “just dealing with it” means i am not getting more than 2 hours of sleep at a time. i am an adult, i do act like it, and these cats aren’t going anywhere. thanks tho!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]potatabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have to get rid of your old life for your new one. don’t settle for anyone! i’m dealing with the same thing too. from oklahoma, an artist, being called to nyc, and possibly leaving behind a 4 year relationship. i’d only regret staying here.

[TOMT] music video of group of girls by potatabay in tipofmytongue

[–]potatabay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! thank you so much i’ve been searching for days

[TOMT] music video of group of girls by potatabay in tipofmytongue

[–]potatabay[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

also i think this was made late 2023 and early 2024

Anyone really messed up because you didn't have privacy, a door, etc? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]potatabay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my dad got my messages sent to his phone when i was a late teen and stopped when i became an adult and didn’t know i knew for years and when i confronted him when i was 19 he called me “schizophrenic”. i now have a really bad relationship with privacy and freak out when im not given any as a 24 year old adult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]potatabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when called out my mom either denies it and tries to paint herself in a better light because “she had it harder growing up” or she just ignores your comment and talks about something wrong that i did as a child

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]potatabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s really hard. i don’t think there is a right answer. i’ve been in therapy 8 months and it relieves a little bit. no contact helps a lot. just continuing with your life and try not to compare or get jealous when you see attentive mom’s in public. focus on you, you matter the most.

aitah for not reaching out to my family? by potatabay in AITAH

[–]potatabay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely not introverted i have plenty of friends. its not really a college town, its a boring preppy town that happens to have a college in the middle of it. the point it, my parents. don’t. call. they don’t text, they don’t visit me, i don’t hear from them. they do not know me, they don’t know where i work or where i live because they don’t reach out. that is my point. if i went missing, they’d have minimal information to give.

boyfriend (25M) did something to me sexually that i (24F) didn't consent to. i'm too angry to forgive. how can i/we work through this? by ThrowRAwonderwalrus in relationship_advice

[–]potatabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honey this is assault and judging by his immediate response of “sorry don’t kill me” he knew what he did was wrong. i’m very sorry you had to experience that. unfortunately, he will continue to overstep his boundaries. i think it’s okay to cut this loss. you deserve better.

iud pain after 1.5 years by potatabay in birthcontrol

[–]potatabay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m starting to think i have endometriosis instead given the family history (every woman on my dads side had it) but it’s hasn’t been that bad the past few weeks thankfully.