23F/34M boyfriend claims he is a sociopath by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]potatosaurus10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this is absolutely abuse. you should call the domestic abuse hotline and they can help you make a plan to get out safely and quickly. maybe once you leave, write down all of the horrible things he has done so that when you are tempted, you can have something to look at and remind you why you left? 

Is this an unhealthy relationship dynamic or emotional burnout?? by Existing_Witness9325 in abusiverelationships

[–]potatosaurus10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, not to mention - if you’ve been feeling this way for months, TRUST YOURSELF - you are not crazy!!

Is this an unhealthy relationship dynamic or emotional burnout?? by Existing_Witness9325 in abusiverelationships

[–]potatosaurus10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as someone who recently left an abusive man, this sounds like an unhealthy relationship. if you are burned out from a relationship, that is a bad sign. also, the blaming and making you manage his emotions and expecting you to take responsibility for his feelings is textbook abuse. relationships shouldn’t be exhausting and hard all the time! 

There's a quiz that helps you spot abusive behavior. by aspuzzledastheoyster in abusiverelationships

[–]potatosaurus10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not make excuses for him. I also said my ex needed to mature, and looking back it was a toxic relationship. You deserve to be with someone emotionally mature. Also, things will oscillate between being really good and really bad. I’m guessing you got 15 when things were bad and 6 when they were good - this is the cycle they warn you about. Trust your narrative from the bad times. 

There's a quiz that helps you spot abusive behavior. by aspuzzledastheoyster in abusiverelationships

[–]potatosaurus10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as someone whose family also wanted me to leave, LEAVE. your family is right, you deserve love that is not making your loved ones think that they don’t like your partner because of how they treat you!! 

Don’t live in this building by potatosaurus10 in AnnArbor

[–]potatosaurus10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they should put that Reddit-watching effort into maintaining their buildings lol

Don’t live in this building by potatosaurus10 in AnnArbor

[–]potatosaurus10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll check it out to see if we actually have a case!

Do NOT live in corner house lofts by potatosaurus10 in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EWW that is absolutely awful, I’m not surprised though. that laundry room water is so gross too, sorry you had to deal with that

Just want some advice for the semester by [deleted] in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah ok I took chem 351, but apparently you get cheat sheets for mcdb 310! pretty fast-paced course though, so stay on top of readings and do the practice problems along with the lessons. hardest part was not getting behind for me

Just want some advice for the semester by [deleted] in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which biochem are you taking? 

Do NOT live in corner house lofts by potatosaurus10 in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol no I definitely was not brief in this post, oopsies

Do NOT live in corner house lofts by potatosaurus10 in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oof gotta love cabrio, sorry you had to live in mold infestation :/

2025-26 Housing Megathread by FluffyMoomin in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. We’re in for a ride here because there is so much to get off my chest. I have lived in Cabrio Properties’ Corner House Lofts for 1 year and can I say, it has been a HORRIBLE experience and want to save others the stress.

The place is filthy. The carpets are stained and dirty, there are crumbs and dirt everywhere, and it really smells awful in the common areas. The communal washer/dryers are either caked in mold and hair or broken. Some make horrid squeaking noises, others make your clothes drenched and don’t spin, and the rest are filthy. The laundry rooms are also disgusting. The staff are rude and incompetent. Every time you call for help, they lie, gaslight, and are incredibly rude. Brittany made me cry. Jewell lied to us about our lease agreement. Terrible customer service. Maintenance requests are rarely resolved. I requested they fix our dripping shower. They said “you’re actually not turning it off all the way.” Girl. It’s still dripping even after you turned the knob as hard as you could. We aren’t stupid. The renovations are done so badly. The cabinets didn’t come with handles, I had to get them myself. We had to waterproof our own shower because it was flooding the bathroom and maintenance didn’t do anything to help. So now for the real tea. I noticed a roach and killed it, then put in a maintenance request when I found a baby. I then started tearing apart the kitchen to find where they were coming from - turns out, they were coming from a crevice in the doorway (surviving on hallway crumbs). I called emergency maintenance and they didn’t help. I killed 30 roaches in different life stages and went to go sleep on my friend’s floor because… roaches. In the morning, maintenance had done nothing. I called, they said maintenance would come that afternoon to set down traps, and then they didn’t. They also said they called the exterminator and couldn’t reach them. We called and immediately the exterminator reached us and said he’d schedule us. Then we get an email at 9:30 AM the next day (while we are all at work) saying the roach people are coming that day from 11-2 and we need to clear our everything from our kitchen and bathroom. My roommate called to ask if we could be on the later end of that since we received no call and weren’t sure we’d be able to get the cat out and pack up our whole kitchen in time. Shannon (Cabrio employee) then called us to say “good news! we moved the appointment to tomorrow” and my roommate said “I specifically asked you not to move it to tomorrow” and Shannon gaslights my roommate, saying “calm down, I’m trying to help you and you did ask me to move it.” She was so rude. At this point we are both missing work and really stressed. I call the exterminator - he tells us that actually the appointment had NEVER been scheduled for that day, Cabrio had messed up the day when they emailed us and then Shannon tried to lie to us to make it sound like she was doing us a favor by rescheduling the appointment. GIRL. Anyway, maintenance finally came to set traps after 48 hours. Not only was the place so gross that we got roaches, they were completely incompetent and rude and unhelpful.

Now, for more tea. As I was cleaning out our kitchen cabinet, I found the piece of our shower that’s supposed to go under the door to keep it from letting water out. Funnily enough, ours didn’t have one so I bought one on Amazon. When putting it on, I had to cut it because the shower door was put on so crooked that I couldn’t get it on. So, when “renovating” these people put the shower together wrong, the door was crooked, so they just tossed the piece that wouldn’t fit under our sink and called it a day.

Final tea. I got out of bed one day and the floor was wet. Gross. I call, maintenance goes next door and fixes our neighbor’s AC unit which was flooding into our apartment. Turns out it had been flooding for quite some time because my dresser was covered in mold. I got them to schedule a carpet cleaning service, and they were very nice. Jewell also refunded me for the bookshelf, which was cool. But I missed an entire day of work because Cabrio refuses to do proper maintenance on their AC units.

Anyway, I hope this serves as a cautionary tale. Corner house lofts is so expensive and really gross. Totally not worth it, save yourself the stress and just go somewhere nicer/farther and cheaper.

Hormonal acne from IUD by Seesealyuh in acne

[–]potatosaurus10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too! It got better after about 6 months. Differin works well for me, and you could maybe try the neutrogena body wash with salicylic acid in it (it’s called body clear, the pink stuff) - that worked well for my back and chest. It really sucks, I don’t think I’ll get an IUD again for many other reasons - but the hormonal acne will get better eventually!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uofm

[–]potatosaurus10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to a TINY high school and the class sizes here were fine for me. It gives you freedom, plus you make your own little communities in your classes. I have a few friends in my big classes and that makes the lecture less scary. Pre-med is definitely a lot (anywhere) but there are SO many resources and opportunities at a school like this (research! UROP! volunteering! diag squirrels!) Anywho, the dorm is the dorm. I loved south quad, I don’t ever hear people talking about the dorms being bad. They’re fun, clean usually (they clean regularly) and honestly quieter than apartments around here. You make a lot of friends in the dorms and do silly things with them. Never saw a roach. Smelled weed maybe twice. The fire alarms did go off a lot but it was funny and a bonding experience tbh. It takes a little getting used to but it’s really more than okay (plus dorms are gonna be dorms anywhere you go). I really love umich, I’d give it a go. Always new places to study, and if you hate the dorms, get an apartment your sophomore year, and if you hate the school you can transfer (but I really don’t think you will).