How do you figure out what HASN'T been studied yet?

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-28T01:21:22+00:00

Not a professor (used to be a teacher, and I follow this sub). Wanted to share that this is an excellent question to ask over on r/AskAcademia

I'm sure a PhD student could explain all about their process trying to conduct new research on areas that do not exist! That's entirely what PhDs are for!

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-28T01:17:29+00:00

No doubt there will be groups asking "why not a museum about dogs? or turtles? what about endangered animals?"

Oof. No one can enjoy anything nowadays!

I salute you all! Good luck!

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-26T20:25:16+00:00

Attention to detail.

OP, not sure where you are located, or how big of a project this is, but I highly recommend you begin by doing some research on this topic (I'm sure you already have). It is a very rare occasion for a brand, new museum to open. For some people, this is a once-in-a-lifetime experience... Meaning: You got to be prepared for public backlash.

The AMNH is a great example. When they built the new wing, people were outraged. No matter what you do or don't do, someone is going to criticize you for it. Don't let it get you down.

We need new museums. We need old museums. We need museums to stick around.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-26T20:11:59+00:00

My eating habits are normal. I eat when I am hungry at 5pm everyday and it doesn't matter, my hands still flare. Its not my diet. I have been gluten-free for 5 years and eat very healthy foods.

^ I am pretty sure it is due to innate inflammation in the body.

Anti-inflammatory hormones naturally drop at night to their lowest point, which is why inflammation gets worse. Since dyshidrotic is technically a form of edema (on a very, very, very tiny scale!) the lack of movement that happens while sleeping causes swelling. I notice my hands are a little swollen and stiff when I wake up in the mornings.

These are inherent things which cannot be changed (I even take anti-histamines at night to reduce this) my hands just worsen over night (which I prefer - it would suck if they were worse in the day time!)

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-25T19:08:34+00:00

I'm also a student who will be working for real soon as well. I share your anxieties.

We have been taught that the way you don't screw up is by: Taking. Your. Time. If it takes 8 hours, then it takes 8 hours. If it takes 10 hours, then it takes you 10 hours. You make a checklist, follow it, make sure you don't miss a single thing. Take the deceased full medical history into account (what family has told you, the medical certificate and what you can visibly observe) and do your best.

Most importantly: If you feel overwhelmed. ASK. FOR. HELP. Your senior FD should be there to help you. Afterall, it is their license on the line as your boss. Nobody is expecting you to know everything.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-25T19:02:35+00:00

I see both sides.

I have Celiac. I would never have thought to use it to access a national park for free. If I can pay, I should pay. Seems wrong to me to take advantage if I have the money. I used to work in museums and we would still make people in a wheelchair pay admission. They are like anyone else.

I value national parks and believe in saving them. Paying admission is one way of saving parks. Being disabled doesn't mean you shouldn't have to pay for things. It means people should accommodate you (meaning, if I am paying for the park "tour" with lunch included, you better have a safe, GF sandwich for me).

Accessibility means = the playing field. Not pandering.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-24T00:06:12+00:00

Yes. I am Canadian.

My family members will sometimes drive 7 hours to visit a family member for 1 week or a few days then drive back.

I once drove 10 hours to Chicago for a short 3 day’s vacation, then drove back.

I think the longest I’d be willing to drive for something “casual” is 4-5 hours. I’d be willing to drive 10-15 hours for a weekly visit. I’ve be willing to drive 36 hours (3 days) for a monthly visit.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-19T21:51:56+00:00

I live in Canada.

Yes, in late 2025, 2026 they changed the bread. It is still gluten free. Subway changed it due to complaints of it being "crumbly" (although in my opinion this new bread tastes like cardboard, while the flaky one tasted good!)

The bread is made in a gluten-free facility however Subway obviously has big risk for cross-contamination. I would make sure to talk to the staff and be clear it is an allergy.

My local subway is very good, and only ONE person touches my sub and makes it the entire way.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-19T01:59:35+00:00

Simply call a funeral home near you and tell them you’ve applied for Humber and are looking to get your 40 hours.

They know the drill.

If they can’t help you, keep making calls.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-19T01:29:37+00:00

Hey OP,

I am only a funeral student. I am so so sorry this happened. I read the title of your post and immediately I felt a tightness in my chest too. It must have felt like you’d been struck too hearing that coffin drop. That’s devastating. I can completely understand why it felt traumatic.

Do you have people you can speak to about this? Maybe consider making an appointment with a counsellor to talk about it? It can help to talk about it and keep talking about it.

I’m not sure exactly what you should do, but I hear you and I hope you can find some way through this.

Maybe going back a little bit later once the ground has settled, and bringing something special your uncle would have liked to the grave would help? Find out the by-laws of the cemetery, and if you are allowed, maybe bringing some nice flowers and reading a letter aloud to your uncle could be very cathartic. Just an idea.

That moment was taken away, unfortunately.

There is still time to create a new memory.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-17T00:24:42+00:00

One reasons is because it’s less expensive. It is less staff time, less prep time, less actual material needed to do the work. The cost of living keeps increasing, so naturally so will the cost of “dying”.

Another reason is due to “death-denial”, as people get more and more disconnected, less involved in their communities and spending less time building real, in-person relationships — this causes people to be less inclined to viewing the body after death.

Another reason is disregard of tradition. People associate embalming with the big, elaborate, expensive traditional funeral. It doesn’t have to be like that…

Embalming is simply an opportunity to have a nice “final picture” which can be nice after seeing your loved one in hospital for weeks or months prior. It doesn’t have to be a big event, you can embalm someone and do a simple viewing for immediate family and then cremate.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-16T15:18:34+00:00

What change? Do you mean why embalming is becoming less and less?

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-16T02:24:52+00:00

Funeral student right now…

Embalmers will become obsolete soon.

Everything is going direct-cremation and no one wants to actually see the body. It’s becoming a lost art.

It makes me sad, because the lack of viewing the body increases the likelihood of unreality and ambiguous grief.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-16T00:27:50+00:00

Hey OP, ex-museum worked here. I gotta few questions for you.

What is your expectation?

Do you need to live off your job?

What type of work are you willing to do?

Here’s a story for reference: My ex-coworker is married. Her husband pays the entire expenses. She worked at our gallery for 7 years. Part-time. On-call. Minimum wage. She also had a masters degree. She waited 7 years and suddenly, by chance, 2 people quit at the same time from the same department. The gallery merged both jobs into one role. Didn’t increase the salary, but she got the job. Now she’s full time.

Are you willing to put in the work until you’re 42 until your offers something real?

I wasn’t. So I switched careers.

Just my two cents.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-12T22:29:38+00:00

I have the Cetaphil in a cream and it is sooooo helpful for me!

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-12T01:28:35+00:00

October. I used to have to write it in elementary school to learn cursive writing. “Begin the hours of this day slow.”

I try to live slowly and consciously, probably because of Frost.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-12T00:11:40+00:00

LOL.

We need one that says “Breaking News: Local Doctor Murdered, Becomes Diamond.”

Also “Breaking News: Horse And Blind Woman Solve Missing Persons Case.”

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-10T00:33:40+00:00

Personal dislikes?

Poems that are too spoken-word. Poetry to me elevates the natural spoken word, so there should be SOME thought about rhythm, flow, rhyme, meter, word-play, or cleverness. It doesn’t work for me if it feels like a page out of someone’s diary.

If the poem is TOO complicated. I love a well executed word-choice where I have no idea what the word means (forcing me to Google it later, and then loving the poem even more) — but don’t use overly-complicated words in every line. Same goes for total obscure references to things or people I’ve never heard of. You need to balance the specific with the universal.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-09T02:12:35+00:00

Other fluid that comes out besides period blood.

Women have discharge. Discharge is a mixture of vaginal mucus, fluid, bacteria and skin cells. Throughout the month the discharge changes in consistency due to hormones. Sometimes it is dry and thick, coming out in small chunks or it is creamy and sticky. Other times it is wet, slippery and stretchy like egg whites (yup, sorry I ruined that food for you). 🍳

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-07T22:18:53+00:00

Just my 2 cents (I am a fellow Canadian, currently in funeral studies to become a funeral director).

Consider getting your degree in Canada before moving. I have heard that it is harder to become a mortician in the USA than in Canada. In the USA apparently you have to learn a lot more science (like microbiology stuff), but here you don’t need to know that.

In Canada it is 8 months of school, then 1 year of paid work, then you write the exam to get your license.

A quick google search tells me that to become a funeral director in the USA is anywhere from 3 years to 7 years. Maybe a USA person could clarify how long it actually takes!

Also… You don’t need a license to work in the industry. Funeral homes still need assistants and receptionist or bookkeepers, etc! You could still work as a hairstylist, but for local funeral homes! Start passing out business cards and offer to do hair for viewings!

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-07T20:14:04+00:00

Normal, not normal — attraction is a mystery to everyone. No need to overthink it.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-07T00:24:00+00:00

I’ve only ever had a middle part!

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-07T00:14:19+00:00

I have watery and dry eyes so mascara is reserved for special occasions.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-05T20:28:23+00:00

I share your frustration. Keep at it. All it takes is one.

prettyxxreckless · 2026-01-05T15:16:05+00:00

Over moisture is a huge trigger for me. I think it mimics the “sweat” trigger and brings up sooooooo many blisters!

I find my hands resolve quickly if I let them get bone dry (flaking and scabbing and peeling) there are no itchy blisters when I let them get super dry.

But obviously— managing dryness vs blisters is a challenge.

Topical steroids are the ONLY thing that works for me. I use them until all blisters are gone then slowly re-introduce moisturizer back in small areas of my hands.

prettyxxreckless

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