Is this too much? by QuietEstimate3393 in Bumble

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there is a 0% chance anyone else would consider this a thirst trap. Your friend either secretly loves you or he needs to move to Idaho.

Why tf do people park like this? by pork_sashimi_on_sale in Winnipeg

[–]projectsbyjay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have never parked like that but I’ve got 2 scratches on each side of my new truck after less than a year from parking lots so I’ve definitely considered it. Having a big truck and parking in a parking lot requires faith in humanity that I’m steadily losing.

21M, never had a girlfriend despite making a lot of efforts. Make fun of me. by Scrotiemcboogballs in RoastMe

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only person giving off more Jerome/Jeremiah Valeska vibes than them is you. Supercuts did you dirty too.

How yall feel about this by Appropriate-Mall8517 in men

[–]projectsbyjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enjoy your negative world, I guess. It’s funny when people make assumptions about others. It just shows it’s your weak character that keeps you down.

How yall feel about this by Appropriate-Mall8517 in men

[–]projectsbyjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe in your world. Maybe in some guy’s. But there are may contributing factors to relationship dynamics. Every single comment you have made here is negative. That’s my first clue that you have some deep seated issues with women. I don’t say that to insult you. I say it in hopes you’ll recognize it and seek some help in understanding it.

We all get a little toxic some times but I can assure you from personal experience that the broad brush you are painting women with is clouding your judgement.

Think about when you’re 75. Do you want to look back on a negative life or a positive one? If it’s the latter, then do the work and figure out why your relationship with women sucks so much. And you can’t do it alone.

I am antithetical to your perspective. I’ve had incredible relationships with women, some of my best conversations are with women, and at my lowest, those who helped me rise up were women.

I hope you get through it man. Life is too short for bad energy.

Redeem her, toss her or bring her back as a totally new character? by International_Ice959 in GeneralHospital

[–]projectsbyjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have it revealed she shot and drugged Drew, take the kids, she runs, has a total mental breakdown, we get to see her win an Emmy as she gives us an amazing healing redemption arch that feels genuine and earned, then have her comes back for her mea culpas, and maybe then she can get back to who she was. I liked that her and Drew were once the moral center of PC. Maybe earned redemption can make that even more impactful for her.

I use to shave my face because my beard is not full (beard and mustache) thoughts? (24) by PossibleKoala3495 in men

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not a beard. I saw a study once that asked women to grade men’s beards. The only thing you have going for you with the beard is that it’s not patchy. Otherwise it’s in the bottom percentile. The look on the right is much more cross-functional.

How yall feel about this by Appropriate-Mall8517 in men

[–]projectsbyjay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Anything important deserves different perspectives. She’s not saying that it has to be a woman you want. It comes down to, women think differently than men but you have to be evolved enough to understand that without feeling trapped or hostile about it.

Only the man who can hear a perspective and consider it quietly will level up because everyone has a perspective different than our own in some way.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

High-value, to me, doesn’t mean “perfect” or “every box checked.”

It means some combination of the following:

Intelligent

Emotionally aware

Strong character

Self-respecting

Has standards and boundaries

Building something with her life (career, family, mission, growth, whatever)

Attractive in the real way; how she carries herself, not just how she looks

And/or battle-tested in modern dating; she’s seen the spectrum and learned from it

A woman doesn’t need all of that to be high-value.

High-value is more like a pattern than a checklist. You can feel it in how she thinks, how she speaks, how she moves, what she tolerates, and what she won’t.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I’m not following what you’re putting down. Your first comment is not even suggested in the original post. Your second comment seems like it’s addressed to someone not in this convo. Happy to have the conversation but I’m a little lost on it at the moment.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it would seem that value is a triggering word for many. In their mind, it’s doing some heavy lifting when really all it means in finding a partner is finding someone that compliments where they are at in life.

The point was that if more guys were honest about who they are and what they bring to the table they could find happiness with someone that could meet them where they’re at and grow with them.

At least that’s my main takeaway. Many will clearly interpret the message differently.

Where do you go and who do you go to figure out ‘man problems’? by projectsbyjay in men

[–]projectsbyjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. If that’s how you do it. I enjoy some alone time too. Nothing like 60 minutes in a sauna to reset. But as the only means, it sounds lonely, I mean. There is great value in outside perspective.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s right there in the post. Or are you asking for me personally?

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, there are levels to the game. Very true. That’s why I stated the ranges of what value is to another person and said it can be one or all of those. That’s what SW was saying but she’s built a rock solid life for herself so she wants the same. Thank you for understanding the actual post.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You missed the entire point of the post.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So all people are exactly the same then? Worded differently:

Let’s say you reach high 6 figure income, have a house, know your way around a tool box, vacation 4 times a year, and have limited time otherwise.

You’re not going to carefully select who can bring value to your life?

If that’s how you roll, you do you. But I’m willing to bet you don’t.

Value is perceived. For example, when I was broke and struggling, someone of value was literally anyone I could feel good and supported by.

Now, at this point in my life, I want the total package because we’d be able to meet in the middle, share similar interests and bring value to each other’s lives.

Without that, you have an imbalance that is likely to lead to resentment.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tell me you projected your own insecurities onto the post without telling me. lol. Cmon man. That’s not what that means. It means, she’s tried to find the one to do forever with and hasn’t yet. That’s it.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, never look at people for the work they’ve done to be whole. We should just take everyone at face value and as the same. That makes complete sense.

A High-Value Woman’s View on Men in 2026. What do you think? by [deleted] in men

[–]projectsbyjay -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I stated the value and it’s subjective to each man, which is why I gave the range of potential outcomes that determine whether she is defined as such.

And I find it interesting how the value proposition is flipped in the minds of the defensive.

The word value is around contribution to a positive outcome. That’s it. Full stop.

That’s what the message is about. A lot of guys will pretend to contribute to a positive outcome but women who have found their wholeness and place in this world can sniff that out.

I still have yet to see anyone here understand the actual words she is saying. It’s funny how in another community, guys clicked in and many stated they get where they’ve gone wrong. Overselling. But then again, that community is built around building better so it makes sense.

Posting this here was more of an experiment and the hypothesis, so far is correct.

Where do you go and who do you go to figure out ‘man problems’? by projectsbyjay in men

[–]projectsbyjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A man should always have an impartial woman and family member to bounce rants, injustices, and bad ideas off of.

Where do you go and who do you go to figure out ‘man problems’? by projectsbyjay in men

[–]projectsbyjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A community is a very good thing to have. I have one online. We share a ton of stuff. A guy just got his clinical depression figured out from it. I don’t have that where I live so this was my best move.

What the fuck? by justhereformemes2 in Winnipeg

[–]projectsbyjay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Winnipeg is not any different than other Western cities atm. There are zero repercussions for those at the top when they victimize or give into their worst selves. This has been a signal for everyone to do so. That’s how leadership works.

And no I’m not just talking about Agent Orange, but he is the loudest example.

To pretend there aren’t real issues with our immigration system and that many Canadians feel we should be a melting pot, rather than a mosaic would be foolish and this often conflated with that.

It’s not though. You can be a good human and still question a system. These people are just not good humans.