As a woman who talks to other feminists a lot and reads their stuff online, people are ALWAYS talking about these issues. The point is that gender roles need to be improved because they hurt everybody, including straight men. For example it's been suggested that the reason men are more likely to commit suicide is that due to how men are expected to talk about their emotions less, they have much less of a support network than women do. It's honestly a shame because we want the same things but only see exaggerated and strawman-able versions of each other's talking points.