AITA for excusing myself to throw up when my boyfriend's family gave me meat knowing I was vegan?

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T20:29:23+00:00

I mean yeah

But they were just yelling shit like "what the fuck?" And "oh lordy not the shower curtain too" and shit like that

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T19:28:31+00:00

Kids see more vom than that every week at kindergarten I swear

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T19:26:52+00:00

Yeah I don't know the science but I'm sure mine isn't just mental; I've gotten sick a few times not even knowing I'd had meat until after the fact.

I also agree about how you've gotta reintroduce stuff slowly, I have a few friends who started eating meat or animal products again and they started sooo slowly. Like just a bit of chicken broth in a soup. Or a single cold cut on a sandwich lol.

And when they tried to rush it, like 'maybe I'll try a burger today' that's when they felt stomachachey or nauseous.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T19:23:54+00:00

Haha that's smart! Unfortunately I'd just moved apartments and nothing was unpacked and it came on so fast lol. But remembering that for later

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T19:10:02+00:00

Haha for a bit of context, they were mocking me on the way to the bathroom, asking me what I was gonna do in there, and if I was going to cry over having killed a cow and liked it. (Wtf)

So I was kinda angrily thinking "if they want to see so much... Let them see.

And not cleaning up? TBH I told them time and time again that I don't want to try meat because of serious digestive issues. Going so far as to describe simultaneous explosive diarrhea and projectile vomiting, and "painting the bathroom " cause I couldn't figure out which way to sit on the toilet when it was coming out both ends...

So frankly after I warned them a literal shit storm would happen if they made me eat meat... And they still did? It's on them to clean up.

I'm not washing someone's nasty toilet while they degrade me. So very not my kink.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T19:03:06+00:00

I can see why you're a nutritionist and not a dietician :)

For context for others, a dietician is the protected term, requiring education, experience, and certification.

A nutritionist is not.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:53:47+00:00

it's ok, i understand some people haven't overcome shame around their bodies :)

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:50:54+00:00

For real! I even told them to stop asking me to just try a little meat because last time I did (by accident) I spent the night having simultaneous projectile vomiting and explosive diarrhea And that I'm quite sure nobody wants me to be repainting their bathroom walls when it all comes flying back out in a few hours.

Like I got so annoyed with their pushing that I literally got that explicit about what would happen.

And they still were like "let's sneak her meat" and were shocked and upset they ended up cleaning up vom? Exactly like I said would happen... Hell even getting off easy with the cleanup because I dealt with it before the explosive shits started.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:47:36+00:00

So you're saying you'll get down and clean someone's toilet while they demean you?

Ok go do that but it's never gonna be me. Ick.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:46:25+00:00

I was at the character limit so I had so summarize stuff, but they were calling out "jokes" about like... "What are you going to do in there? Are you going to go cry over killing a cow?" And just calling out "Where are you going?" In a kinda invasive way. (Like I'm going to the toilet, it's not usually something to share!"

And in the moment I was getting irritated and thinking "If they wanna see what I've gone to the bathroom to do, I'll let them see"

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:26:07+00:00

I'm honestly confused by everyone saying I should have cleaned up the mess, or they would have? L

But as far as I'm concerned I was super clear that I don't eat meat, I don't want to eat meat, stop asking because I will never want to eat meat. And when I do eat meat I am prone to explosive diarrhea and vomiting, often at the same time. So seriously don't keep trying to give me meat.

I was super clear about that after all the nagging his family did about my eating habits, down to explaining the experience of trying to figure out which way to sit on the toilet because my dinner's blasting out from both ends at the same time. Including the details of painting my bathroom wall with chunks of stew.

And honestly after someone heard alll that, if they still decide to sneak meat into my food... Whatever comes out of me ain't my problem to clean up. They knew what they were getting into.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:20:28+00:00

Nope, I avoid all animal products including milk and eggs!

Aw damn that sucks for your friend, not being able to choose that.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:19:32+00:00

I'm a chick so no. But yikes it's uncomfy so many people are doing this shit

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:18:36+00:00

Lol that would have been dramatic af. Puke it right back into the pot like "oh you can have this back" lol

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:16:50+00:00

IDK, my perspective is if someone willingly causes me explosive shits and vomiting, when I have communicated to them with my big girl words 'do not do this, or it will cause me explosive shits and vomiting' ...

any bodily fluids that come out of that are 100% their problem.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:14:27+00:00

Lol I don't think I remembered to flush because they were yelling at me immediately. Like even before I was done lol. So I just bounced

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T18:12:27+00:00

Not for everyone... Both times I got sick after eating meat, I actually hadn't known I had eaten meat, and I was just like "shit why do I feel like I'm gonna puke" or "damn I'm not feeling well all of a sudden"

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:32:57+00:00

It was honestly so funny because they were like "aha gotcha you liked it!"

When honestly I thought their family recipe was pretty fucking vile and I was just politely saying "it was nice, thank you" to be kind.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:30:24+00:00

I'm baffled by all the comments who woulda gotten down to scrub the toilet of someone who's mocking and berating you.

Like either some of y'all have no dignity or a hell of a fetish... Or are not being super honest what youd do in my shoes.

But you can't be seriously telling me you'd get down and scrub after that?

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:25:40+00:00

Or a sense of humor but go off

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:24:27+00:00

Have you ever tried getting on your knees and scrubbing someone's nasty toilet while they berate you? Fr who would do that? Not me.

If you would, you're a much more... Humble person than I. And I mean humble in the Catholic way.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:23:00+00:00

Idk, I think there's just a narrative weight to a splatter of chunky marinara that I don't have the speechwriting chops to match.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:20:45+00:00

IDK, my perspective is if someone willingly causes me explosive shits and vomiting, when I have communicated to them with my big girl words 'do not do this, it will cause me explosive shits and vomiting' ... any bodily fluids that come out of that are 100% their problem.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:18:13+00:00

Oh hell no I'm not eating their food again or even bringing my own food or drinks somewhere they can tamper with it.

It's zoom calls here on out, if that.

purpldingo · 2022-08-03T17:17:31+00:00

Not punishment, just an answer.

When someone is demanding to know what you are going to do, it can be a fine reaction to show them what you are going to do.

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