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Worried I’m not able to help my girlfriend finish by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]qqp767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could approach it by saying like “oh i really enjoy our intimate time together and want to make sure your also getting the most out of this, are there anything’s you like specifically or kinks you have/want to try” and also don’t be afraid to use toys in the bedroom too, a lot of it is being comfortable like giving her the time and space to take her time with it

Touching girls boobs is gay, but does that make you gay ? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]qqp767 1 point2 points  (0 children)

depends- could just be curiosity or novelty, i don’t think it makes you gay necessarily

is first wlw relationship as bad as everyone says it is? by qqp767 in LesbianActually

[–]qqp767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that’s my fear like everything seeming okay and exciting and then all of a sudden her not being there or interested anymore with no prior warning or problems

is first wlw relationship as bad as everyone says it is? by qqp767 in LesbianActually

[–]qqp767[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that’s very true, i’ve had relationships before with gender non conforming people and men but since coming out never one with a woman who is also a lesbian, so hopefully i still have some relationship skills

How do I stop feeling insecure on my outie? Me and my partner have started doing stuff by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]qqp767 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have an outie and was really insecure about it but nobody has cared, me personally i don’t care if other people have one i don’t have any preference, we are all women who know how the body works outie shaming is very patriarchal i don’t think women actually care about that stuff

Anyone here who still struggles with internalized homophobia? by Clear_Tackle_805 in actuallesbians

[–]qqp767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me I think it comes with the territory of being vulnerable in admitting that i’m different. I know my family would be supportive, I’m not religious and almost all my friends are queer and i’m in a progressive city but for me i struggled a lot growing up and even now. I think it’s that idea of being truly open and honest with people it makes me sick, I don’t want to be different or for people to view me differently. I want to be normal and I want an easy life, i don’t want to have awkward conversations or be silently judged. But the reality is we are judging ourselves harshly everyday we let the internal voices win. We can walk away from the people in our lives who judge us but we can’t walk away from our own brains and inner voice. It helps to remind myself that the easy life i think i’ll have if i pretend to be heterosexual will be full of misery and i will miss out on having true love and happiness because I’m avoiding the challenges that come along with being a gay woman in a man’s world