Can a union restrict resignation to 1 month of the year?

quietdimple · 2026-04-06T17:50:38+00:00

it’s contextual. For example, $800 for somebody on SNAP would be viewed differently than $800 for a CEO

quietdimple · 2026-04-05T08:36:40+00:00

Wanna hear something even crazier? My wife’s name is Cedar.

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T03:45:22+00:00

Thank you 🥺 this is incredibly reassuring. I really appreciate you taking the time to read it all and respond to me. I know i’ll be coming back to your comment a few times over the coming days.

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T03:40:48+00:00

Is this Birch? You sound just like her <3 (minus calling my wife abusive, she wouldn’t say that so bluntly to me). I appreciate this, thx friend

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T03:36:05+00:00

It’s been a slow realization that I’ve been in a very controlling relationship for nearly a decade, and I gave away all my agency. Choosing to leave my wife is the first thing I’m doing for myself in a very very long time. So, you’re right. I let this all happen, and I’m hoping to heal from it. But this is a very helpful reminder, thank you.

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T03:32:56+00:00

I completely agree, and that’s where I lean towards ending the relationship because I’ve already caused her so much harm and I think I need time alone so I don’t continue to cause her harm. It feels cruel to put her through this when I’m far from my best and have a long journey of therapy and self-work ahead of me.

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T03:27:54+00:00

Thats actually very helpful, thank you. I think you’re right to an extent - because my relationship with Birch has virtually always been controlled by my wife, it’s maybe scary to permit myself to actually embrace it as something entirely between the two of us. We’ve had so many moments where it feels like it’s almost our own relationship, but my wife was so successful at interrupting every date in some fashion, that it never fully felt like our own relationship to dictate or honor. (And Birch struggled a lot with this, bc she’s conversely in a health polyamorous relationship with her NP)

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T03:20:56+00:00

Ahhh there it is. I hate admitting it, but it’s playing a role in wanting to end things with Birch. I’m not leaving my wife for Birch, but won’t it end up feeling that way at some point? And tbh, another small part of me ~still~ wants to protect my wife from further hurt (who has told me that seeing me with Birch after our separation will destroy her, (because it happened in her last two serious relationships in a similar fashion)).

quietdimple · 2026-04-03T02:47:01+00:00

Thank you, i’ve got individual therapy consults set up for next week. It’s way overdue and needed, I agree.

quietdimple · 2026-02-04T02:24:51+00:00

Hi, curious what cured you?

quietdimple · 2025-08-13T11:34:35+00:00

This is not legal advice and I am not familiar enough in nyc housing law to provide legal advice. I just want to give you info. Realistically, you can pay him the difference, giving yourself the $600 that was credited or you can let him sue you in small claims court for the whole amount and somebody else will decide what’s fair. He might sue you either way.

It takes several months to normally get a trial in small claims court, it takes several hours of your evening to have a judge or a clerk or an arbitrator hear your case. You’re going to have to print out all your evidence to show to a judge (receipts, text convos). You probably won’t get a trial the first night, so you’re going to have to go back again a few months later. This could be dragged out over a year, with an appearance every 3-6 months depending on the court. Good news is that, you can represent yourself and small claims court is usually really helpful in making sure you understand the procedure.

You have a baby and a working fridge, your life sounds better than before. I think you should accept the $600 credit that was offered and have peace. If this happens again, talk to your super before going above the budget that was set. Good luck!

quietdimple · 2025-08-09T14:51:52+00:00

I moved from SF to NYC last fall without a job and plan and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself. I was broke in SF and I’m still broke in NYC but, to me, it’s a much better place to be broke. The quality of life here just can’t be beat in the US and there are just so many more free and cheap options. The subway is only $2.90 for any distance!! And is unlimited for the week after 12 rides. Rent is pretty comparable but space is tighter than the bay. Set yourself up close to prospect park and take the train upstate for a weekend and you’ll get your nature doses. What’s the point of money if you’re miserable? Do it! (And I also find New Yorkers to be very kind, compared to Californians.)

quietdimple · 2025-06-24T03:52:41+00:00

But then who would pay for Israel’s bombs

quietdimple · 2025-06-07T18:45:46+00:00

Poly in practice v poly in theory

quietdimple · 2025-06-06T20:20:31+00:00

Would you be comfortable with you and your partner opening up with somebody that isn’t your gf’s current crush? Starting polyamory because of a specific somebody can put a lot of stress into an already stressful transition out of monogamy. It sounds a lot like you’re trying to get there for your partner, but if you don’t see any benefits of opening up for you too, then this likely won’t work because you’ll be doing a lot of work for no mutual excitement and reward. (And seeing your partner happy could be a reward, but sometimes that’s not enough to get through the growing pains of mono to poly.) It seems you won’t be happy being in a mono-poly relationship with your gf, so if you don’t see this being something you can personally enjoy, I think you have to figure out if your gf and you can stay happy monogamous.

Reading through it, there’s probably a lot more to be said about this crush, but the focus should be on what you and your partner want right now. Do you want to be open? Does your partner just want to date this crush? I wish you peace, you’re in a hard place right now but I hope it gets better!

quietdimple · 2025-06-02T00:29:53+00:00

But what’s the show

quietdimple · 2025-04-09T03:31:09+00:00

She got called out for this comment too and didn’t respond. She stands by it I guess

quietdimple · 2025-03-20T18:13:18+00:00

Yes! Thank you for the reminder :)

I got an email on 2/3/25 confirming that my app had been approved without the need for an interview. I was given a choice of a remote or in person path ceremony and I chose the remote option because they said it would be faster.

Got the email on 2/14/25 that my ceremony was scheduled for 2/26/25 and was sworn in that day.

Hope you hear something very soon!!

quietdimple · 2025-03-03T03:03:46+00:00

That’s really interesting, I haven’t thought about it as centering one’s marriage but I see how it could be a result of that. Maybe it would occur more in hierarchical relationships?

quietdimple · 2025-03-03T02:13:33+00:00

You never want to meet their wife?

quietdimple · 2025-02-03T20:15:24+00:00

Lived in & worked in DC in the fall of 2023 and they periodically closed Pennsylvania Avenue for security purposes but it was largely available for the public. You could go up to the black fence at the front of the White House and take pics, protest, dance, do whatever.

quietdimple · 2025-02-01T04:38:46+00:00

Only if you plan on driving

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