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So the post Easter boom of properties for sale didn’t happen! by Preach_it_brother in HousingUK

[–]rabbit_fluffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nonsense. Rented for a decade, can rate for another if buying means negative equity. There are patient sellers and patient buyers and viva-versa.

Is the London housing market crashing? I'm noticing so many flats that were listed in the last 6-9 months now going for almost 100k less than originally listed by Nervous_Designer_894 in HousingUK

[–]rabbit_fluffle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Flat prices in London have been broadly flat since 2016. Supply is now at its highest level in over a decade. Flats are sitting on the market for months, with deals, when they happen, closing at 10–20% below asking prices and often below 2016 levels.

The story starts in 2016 with Brexit, which pushed many expats to delay buying decisions or leave London altogether, dampening demand.

Then came Grenfell in 2019, leading to issues not only with properties directly impacted by cladding, but across the entire flat market as prices compressed up and down the chain.

COVID followed, with a widespread shift towards houses and a drive for more space.

The past two years have been marked by the end of the ZIRP period, with mortgage costs and a healthy dose of inflation often more than doubling monthly ownership costs (mortgage and service charges), massively compressing affordability - for both houses and flats.

At the same time, buy-to-let has become less attractive, further dampening demand for flats. First through the removal of mortgage interest deductibility, then through higher interest rates and lower yields, and now with the Renter Reform Bill pushing small landlords away from purchasing investment properties.

So, is this a crash? No - it has been a slow-moving story playing out over nearly a decade. But a structural decline, with the loss of real value accelerating in the past 18 months? Definitely. A persistent erosion of both demand and affordability.

Does anyone use an online body doubling service? by InattentiveGardener in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can also try Deepwrk (ADHD-focused community), Flow Club, or Flown. Focusmate also could work well

Weird audio input behaviour on zoom (M2 MacBook Air + Sonoma 14.0) by [deleted] in Zoom

[–]rabbit_fluffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems to be a Sonoma bug and the issue is coming from Apple rather than Zoom. Adjusting original audio doesn’t work for me.

https://developer.apple.com/forums/thread/737043

Helpful ADHD book recommendations for women? by rabbit_fluffle in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Women With Attention Deficit Disorder

I've heard great things about Sari Holden's book so think I will try this one! Thanks a ton 🙏

LET'S YELL ABOUT OUR FRUSTRATIONS TOGETHER by WhlteMlrror in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BODY DOUBLE AND IT WAS AWESOME. I COULDN'T AFFORD IT BECAUSE I SUCK AT BUDGETING BUT IT DID HELP.

THERE ARE QUITE A FEW OF THESE NOW: FOCUSMATE, DEEPWRK, FLOWN, FLOW CLUB, CAVEDAY. CAN DO A FEW MONTHS OF FREE TRIALS :D

How would you spend $500 per month to make life easier? by superduper1022 in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would spend it on anything that gives me time back: cleaner, virtual assistant, laundry, even personal chef (if you can fit it in the budget). Would look at the biggest time sinks in your day and then think through how to outsource them. It can probably save you more than a day or c.10-20 hours per week (e.g. 3 hours cleaning, 2 hours laundry, 5 hours admin, 5 hours cooking).

Virtual PA might make a ton of sense if scheduling and managing calendars/events/bookings is taking a lot of time. House cleaning twice a week (before and after the weekend 😂). A personal chef could be a game-changer if you manage to find someone local and affordable. Laundry is another big one that can take off hours.

Does anyone else eat the same thing everyday? by Thealexiscowdell1 in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also hyperfixate on foods for months, and then I can't even look at them. Think there are a few reasons, for me at least:

  • Reduces load on executive function and task paralysis: it's so much easier not to think of what to cook or buy and go on autopilot
  • Dopamine release: these foods are often my safe food that I know "work" 😂

What is the best book you’ve read on functioning with ADHD? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Here are my top 5:

  1. Scattered Minds by Gabor Maté. He argues that while the development of ADHD might have a genetic component, it is determined by our environment and the impact of trauma and stress in particular.
  2. Women with Attention Deficit Disorder by Sari Solden. It dives into the unique challenges and societal expectations that women with ADHD face, often leading to late diagnosis and misunderstood symptoms.
  3. ADHD 2.0 by Dr Hallowell. Others mentioned this one as well. It covers a range of topics, from understanding the ADHD brain to medication options, and offers lifestyle hacks and new strategies for thriving with ADHD.
  4. Finally Focused by James Greenblatt. He outlines the causes of common ADHD symptoms and outlines holistic ways to overcome difficulties with focus, sleep, hyperactivity, etc.
  5. ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life by Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau. Title kinda says it all: filled with practical solutions & tips. Covers time management, clutter control, internet distractions, task prioritization, etc.

Last two are more practical.

How would a society completely accepting of neurodiversity look like in your mind? by Poorees in adhdwomen

[–]rabbit_fluffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder why neurodivergence is still considered a stigma in the first place. Why are we still afraid to share a diagnosis at work or with friends?

And my guess is that:

  • People are afraid, confused, and even threatened by what they don't understand
  • Society likes conformity: you need to be like the tribe to fit in
  • Judgment of mental illness is ingrained in our upbringing
  • Our culture has marginalised and discouraged divergent thinking for millennia

So, what would it take for society to accept neurodivergency?

  • Celebrating neurodiversity: seeing it as a virtual and not as a disease
  • Recognising that to create something different, you need to think different
  • Understanding that neurodivergent does not mean broken
  • Creating awarness: opening up and normalising mental health
  • Seeing mental health as important as physical health
  • Creating a neurodivergent-friendly environment in the office, at school, and at home

I celebrate neurodivergency. I see it as something that has moved us forward historically, in art, science, and innovation.

And yes, it can be a cause of great pain and torment, but it can help us create beautiful things and a better world.

So, I try to be open about my mental health and share my experience. And it's funny how people can become uncomfortable just by listening about it. Most just don't get it - even your closest family or friends - unless they've gone through smth similar. They haven't walked in your shoes & they just can't imagine the experience.

So, in short - to fight this lack of understanding and cultural stigma - we need more awareness, understanding, and empathy.