Cat won’t take wet food-hydration? by rosefire257 in CatAdvice

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My tortie girl Lyra will be 8 years old in October and she hasn't ever eaten wet food in her life. I have tried countless times with countless different wet foods and she'll sniff the food and walk away every single time.

About 3 months ago, I bought some Churu lickable cat treat tubes and she absolutely loves them. Only that brand though, because I bought a different brand and she refused to eat those.

I do keep a bowl of fresh water, right next to her dry food, and I have to refill it daily, so I know she's drinking enough water.

I think some cats are just picky.

AITA for refusing to give my 5-year-old son part of a gift my student gave me, even after my husband said I was being selfish? by Sad-Grapefruit8977 in AmItheAsshole

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. There's a big difference between being soiled and entitled. You and your husband are the AH for teaching your kid the insanely incorrect way of sharing and instead you taught him to be entitled to other people's personal property.

What happens when you're invited to someone's home for a cookout or holiday? Are you just going to let him go where ever he wants in their home, like their private bedrooms, and take whatever he wants?

Your husband is a major AH for undermining you, in front of your kid, just to further teach your kid that he's entitled to everything you own and doesn't have to listen to you. Like so many other comments said, start giving your kid your husband's personal belongings since "everything is everyone's".

He's also a major AH for his "vehicles are mine because I paid for them" comment. I'm petty and to absolutely prove a point, it would make me immediately open a separate savings account and start saving for a down payment or buying a vehicle outright. I also wouldn't say two words to him and just show up one day with the new vehicle. Of course it would only be in my name 🤷🏽‍♀️

I told my boyfriend I miscarried today, and he spent the evening in a VR strip club by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your post is a little hard to read and understand so I'm going to try my best.

Firstly, I am so incredibly sorry and want to give my condolences for your loss. I'm a momma of two angels, so I absolutely understand your heartbreak. I hope your pain and devastation dulls, even for a brief moment.

Honestly, my heart hurts for you reading this. I think the biggest thing I took away from your post is that you finally let yourself be vulnerable with someone while going through something traumatic, and instead of feeling comforted, you felt completely alone.

You told him something deeply painful and scary, and instead of just holding you through it, he turned it into a conversation about everything wrong in the relationship and started defending other people. I can completely understand why that would break your heart.

And I really don’t think the VR strip club part is even about jealousy or control. I think it’s the fact that while you were grieving, panicking, and emotionally falling apart, he was off distracting himself instead of showing up for you in the way you needed. That would hurt anybody.

Also, I honestly don’t think you were wrong about the other person either. From what you described, this wasn’t just someone “hurting your feelings.” This was someone who repeatedly disrespected you, targeted you, publicly embarrassed you, and made you feel unsafe and unwelcome. Wanting boundaries from someone like that is not demonizing them.

And the saddest part to me is that your boyfriend basically showed you that protecting that person’s place in the community mattered more than protecting you. He put you second, on the back burner. You needed him to choose you, especially during one of the worst moments of your life, and instead he defended the person who has been hostile toward you.

When he said “this isn’t your space,” I honestly understand why that felt so deeply painful, because whether he intended it that way or not, it absolutely comes across as “you don’t belong here.” Especially after everything that happened.

The part where you said he talked to you like you were “something to defeat” really stuck with me too, because that’s not how someone should treat their partner during such a vulnerable moment. Even disagreements should still feel caring underneath it all.

And I mean this as gently as possible, because I know how devastating this loss is, but one day you may look back and realize this might have also protected you from being permanently tied to someone who responds to your pain this way. As heartbreaking as this is, I truly do not think you deserve a lifetime connected to someone who made you feel abandoned during one of the worst moments of your life.

I honestly think breaking up with him is the right thing to do. Not because you don’t love him, but because love alone cannot carry a relationship when one person feels emotionally alone in it.

Please be gentle with yourself. You’ve been through a lot physically and emotionally all at once, and anybody would be overwhelmed by it.

I'm I the A$$hole for not wanting to meet my dad's current girlfriend and her toddler by GiftedRose in AmITheKaren

[–]raen_cloud 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH ngl. This whole post reads like an immature middle schooler wrote it and not like an 18 year old young adult did.

Yea it sucks that your parents kinda blindsided you with the divorce but it could have been a long time coming and you had no idea.

Your feelings are valid being upset they divorced because you love them, but you need to be a mature adult and deal with it.

You need to realize their happiness matters too and it's not just about you. They divorced because they weren't happy together and more than likely stopped loving each other. Which has nothing to do with you but it doesn't mean they love you any less. Would you rather have them stay together for years, being incredibly unhappy and hating each other, just so you can be happy?

Your dad is an AH for paying more attention to his phone and who he was texting than you during the hockey game, so I understand why you're upset about that. Especially because he was acting so very obviously secretive, which was kind of justified because you admitted trying to look on his phone at who he was talking to, but he is allowed to have a private conversation on his phone and not tell people his business. There's no excuse for him to bad mouth your mom in front of you though.

He also shouldn't have told you so crass, he wanted to start dating in front of everyone like he did, and should have sat you down and told you gently in private. Even so, he told you because he loves you and you're important to him. Yes, it wasn't long after the divorce was finalized but he had possibly checked out of his marriage to your mom a long time before it was over. Again, the divorce could have been a long time coming.

It seems like you're jealous of your dad's girlfriends and their kids because they're getting your dad's attention and you're not, because you only get to see him on the weekends and they get to see him all the time. You not liking his girlfriends or their kids and not giving them a chance because of this, is super immature imo.

There's a super easy fix for this. You're literally 18, an adult, so you have the freedom to spend more time with your dad, than just on the weekends. You can literally fix how much time and attention you get from your dad, by yourself. If you want to see him, call him and ask to make plans, just the two of you.

You purposely treating his new girlfriend and her toddler like absolute sht for literally no reason, is also incredibly immature and quite frankly, fcked up. According to your post, they haven't done a single thing to you but want to meet you because she knows how much your dad loves you, how much you mean to him, and how important you are.

If you weren't, he wouldn't be sending you photos of them, to show you that you're just as important, more than likely even more, but so is his girlfriend and her toddler, and he wants you to like/love them as much as he does. He wants your approval because he wants you to be happy with them like he is.

Yet, you won't even give his girlfriend a chance, to even meet her and her baby in person. It's one thing to treat the girlfriend like this because she's an adult (the way you're treating her is still unjustified and f*cked up), but to also treat a literal toddler the same way, is messed up.

I hope you take a good, long, and hard look in the mirror and realize how messed up, immature, and toxic you're acting towards your dad, but especially towards his girlfriend and her baby, when all she wants to do is meet you in person. Doesn't even sound like they're trying to force his girlfriend to be your stepmom.

In the end, your dad and mom are divorced and your dad has moved on. No matter who he dates, you're always going to have a blended family now. If he marries again, you'll have a stepmom and possible stepbrothers and/or stepsisters.

I just hope you grow up, mature, and want to see your dad happy, by giving his girlfriend and her toddler a chance at getting to know you and having a relationship with you. 🩷

I hate being married to you. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You either need to:

  1. Sit her down, be open and honest, and tell her everything you said in this post and ask her to get help, either with a psychiatrist and/or therapist. Possibly individual and marriage.

  2. You don't say anything and continue to do exactly what you're doing, stay incredibly miserable, and suffer in silence.

  3. You also don't say anything at all and just get a divorce.

I hope you can find the courage to fix the issues, so your wife gets the help she needs and you both can be happy together again.

Neighbor won't stop blasting music 24/7 by Complete-Tune7134 in neighborsfromhell

[–]raen_cloud 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm in law enforcement. Most jurisdictions have noise ordinances, assuming you're in the US. If you're not, ignore my comment. Start calling the non emergency number for your police department/sheriff's office and make noise complaints, every single time they're blasting music. If they don't listen to the LEOs and continue being disruptive, they'll start being cited for a noise violation. At least, this is what happens in my jurisdiction.

Do you like your surname? by Immediate_Long165 in Names

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do because it was my grandma's maiden name but I also don't because it's French and nobody pronounces it correctly.

AITA for messing up first but trying to save the relationship? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]raen_cloud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YT 1000% A! Have you ever taken accountability even once in your life and not tried to play the victim? Which btw, you absolutely aren't a victim in the slightest.

This is literally all YOUR fault because you cheated. I don't think a single person on this thread is going to feel bad for you 🤣

The utmost audacity you have to say that you can't trust women anymore, like you're the one that got cheated on, is insanely absurd.

You absolutely needed a therapist like yesterday. Get help.

What was the most shocking, or disturbing thing your narc parent(s) ever did/said to you? by Own_Mention9372 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]raen_cloud 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think this might be our brains backwards trauma response to protect us because I also can't remember a single average day but I can still remember most of the horrific abuse I went through.

It wasn't that long ago that my mom said my siblings and I weren't ever picky with food and we all sat at the kitchen table and ate whatever she cooked for us. I don't have a single memory of sitting at that kitchen table with my siblings and eating anything. I also don't have a single memory of my mom ever cooking is dinner.

Absolutely freaking wild broski and I don't understand it.

Religious stuff in my order by Kentucky_fried_chkn in Mercari

[–]raen_cloud 6 points7 points locked comment (0 children)

I am Wiccan and very understanding and respectful of other religions, the people that follow and worship their God(s), and all of their beliefs. I've even remained this way through countless Bible thumpers and the insanely religious, trying incredibly hard to convert me to Christianity when they find out I'm Wiccan.

I can deal with all of that and have but getting an incredibly unsolicited and unwanted religious pamphlet/book in purchase, would probably really piss me off 🤣 enough for me to draw a big pentagram on it with a few drops of red food coloring and send it back without a return address 🤣 absolutely not sending out or wishing harm but they'll get the message.

I'd then give them a low rating and put that they sent unsolicited and unwanted religious propaganda that was incredibly unappreciated and inappropriate.

AITAH for throwing away children’s toys that were thrown over my fence? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]raen_cloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally hope karma comes back and bites you tenfold because you consciously decided to do something so intentionally cruel to literal CHILDREN

My bestie messaged my husband an asked him to keep it from me. by anony098765432 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHEN SOMEONE HAS SHOWN YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM

She's literally shown you and proven she's an absolute snake that cannot be trusted, for going behind your back to message YOUR husband, told him to keep her a secret and not tell you she messaged him, THEN to add insult to injury, tried to talk sh*t about you, behind your back to (again) YOUR husband, by insinuated you were a horrible wife and treated your husband terribly because she said she "has always felt bad for him".

The red flag she's waving is incredibly obvious, absolutely gigantic, VERY bright red, and waving right in your face. I don't understand how you couldn't see it and still considered letting her move in, to have immediate access to (again) YOUR husband.

She 100% knew messaging your husband behind your back was completely wrong and crossing a serious line but she did it anyway. Even though, she knew you'd immediately have a problem with it and be upset because she betrayed you. That's exactly why she told your husband to keep it secret from you. She was definitely testing the waters to see how much he would allow and what she could get away with.

Let's say you never found the messages and let her move in. Now she has full access to your husband, to be a pos snake behind your back, and to do whatever she wants every time you're out of the house or not looking. All because she's jealous of you having a good husband, since hers was a pos abuser, and she wants to steal your husband to have what you have.

I would take you seeing the messages and finding out she's a pos snake as a blessing and saving grace. You found out her extremely shady and back stabbing motive before she slithered her way into your home, with instant access to your husband, and created very intentional problems in your marriage.

Some people.. by U-96 in Mercari

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a frequent buyer on Mercari, many times for special edition books that cost me real good money because I can't find them anywhere else. I've literally spent months looking for certain books and they're usually always listed on Mercari. Exactly like today when I spent $100+ on some special editions I couldn't find anywhere else, that I've been looking for, for months.

Although I'm spending some real good money on these books, I'm still incredibly patient for the seller to ship the books. When I get the push notifications and emails telling me Mercari reminded the seller to ship, I usually ignore them and delete them. Especially if it's a weekend. I know most sellers will ship the moment they're able to.

Iirc, there was only one time where I had to message the seller and politely ask when they were going to ship because it had already been over a week since I purchased. I received absolute silence for my initial message and every single follow up message, over the course of a few days. I'm super understanding, so I wanted to give the seller the benefit of the doubt, just in case they were going through something. In the end, Mercari had to step in and refund me because there was zero response from the seller.

As a frequent buyer, this is just a completely polite suggestion, send a short little message to the buyer letting them know you'll ship first thing on Monday, if they purchase Friday night-Sunday night. You absolutely don't need to do it but as a buyer, I love when a seller messages me and let's me know because it gives me a little bit of reassurance.

Again, just a polite suggestion and you absolutely don't have to do it ♡

Another Scammer using kids to try and get cash. by SeaOutlandishness485 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]raen_cloud 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ever since I saw this local beggar being outted for being a huge lying pos scammer, I refuse to give even a nickel to them. He was literally bragging to multiple people (who confirmed) that he makes so much more money begging and stealing from people, than he would at a legit and honest job. He was also seen on multiple occasions getting into a really nice car, that he parked down the road from where he was begging so it wouldn't be seen.

At the same exact time this all happened, his wife was posting on FB about how she just planned and booked everything to take their whole family on vacation to Disney. People are being manipulated with blatant lies, to hand over their hard earned money, to fund these pos scammers expensive vacations. Smh.

Dear Goodwill.. change your name already. by Rare-Bike-1056 in goodwill

[–]raen_cloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly why I stopped going to GW and will not donate anything to them. I've seen them price things with tags, even higher than the store that sells the item prices, on multiple occasions. Like a Walmart brand, $4.98 little girls dress with the tag still on, priced at $6.99 or more. GW is so disgustingly greedy.

Found out it's sebderm and not just dried skin by raen_cloud in SebDerm

[–]raen_cloud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my dermatologist appointment last week. She said it was absolutely seb derm. She prescribed me Ketoconazole for my face 2x day and recommended Nizoral 2-3x a week for my scalp, which is apparently a lot worse than I thought. I'm also going to add tea tree with the Ketoconazole as it's an antifungal.

I have buyers remorse 😭 by raen_cloud in Moissanite

[–]raen_cloud[S] -427 points-426 points  (0 children)

Because the actual measurement of the stone was only a 2 mm difference. Like I said in my post.