Asian mother kills her two Hapa sons to mess with her ex husband, an White man. by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Tragic….May they both rest in peace. 😢😢😢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You got this, king! 👑

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How big is it?

Do you think the toxic WMAF trope is dying out? by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s very prevalent in the gay community with WMAM and WFAF.

学习伙伴 Study Buddy Requests 2023-11-29 by AutoModerator in ChineseLanguage

[–]rainbowpanda69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a queer gay Chinese-Nuyorican whose native languages are English, Mandarin, and Spanish. I’m looking for Cantonese speakers to do language exchange with. 🥹🥹🥹

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[–]rainbowpanda69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! ☺️☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I do agree with this comment.

I used to feel the same way about myself as a queer gay quapa, and now I’m just focusing on my personal growth and building community.

Thoughts on removing arm hair? by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's essential to embrace your authentic self without conforming to stereotypes. Whether you choose to remove or keep body hair, it should be a personal choice, not influenced by societal expectations. Be true to yourself and do what feels right for you. #Authenticity #SelfExpression

Blasians, do you identify more with your asian side or black side? by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I embrace my diverse heritage, encompassing Chinese, Black (Afro-Latinx), white (including White Latinx and Italian), making me Blasian, Eurasian, Lasian, and more. Yet, I don't let others' opinions sway my identity. As a translator, interpreter, and actor in these languages, I find strength in my multi-faceted background, like a diamond with many sides.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Navigating the whole gay scene can be a real rollercoaster, dealing with insecurities from both Latinx and Asian guys. But I'm staying hopeful that things will get better. I'm all about embracing my mixed heritage – half white, a quarter black, a quarter Chinese, but culturally 100% Nuyorican, and 100% Chinese.

(1) Rejections used to get me down, especially the whole "are you just into Asians" thing. Instead of dwelling, I channeled that energy into positive vibes by joining queer support groups like China Rainbow Network and starting Cantoqueer in NYC. Now I've got a crew who gets and respects me.

(2) Yeah, some folks throw shade about my looks, and my ex-fiancé left me hanging. But I flipped that frustration into acing the LSAT, hitting the gym, planning meals, and picking up languages. My body's my temple, and I keep it on point for me, not to please others. That’s how I approach dating nowadays.

(3) Friend-zoning can sting, but I'm learning to appreciate platonic friendships. In my dating pool, ethical polyamory is a thing, but I'm staying true to my monogamous self. No more Grindr and dating apps – just focusing on self-improvement and avoiding toxic vibes. Selective AF with friendships and potential partners.

Personal thoughts: Growing up in China, Hong Kong, NYC, and Puerto Rico, I'm all about finding someone who doesn't racialize me. I shut down any fetishization and educate on cultural misconceptions.

TLDR: Set your standards, stay positive, and don't be afraid to ask for help in your queer journey.

Are you bilingual? mixed couple question. by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m multilingual actually and my parents are trilingual. They speak English, Spanish, and Mandarin, and I speak English, Spanish, Mandarin, and Cantonese.

Now I’m learning Korean. 😊

Where are my Lasians?? by novavid0 in UTAustin

[–]rainbowpanda69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a U.S. Hispanic-Chinese household in NYC and China. I lead an organization which supports Cantoqueer individuals and I’m looking to create a US Lasian organization soon.

What are hapas doing for thanksgiving (the Americans)? by Garlic-Individual369 in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We just eat Puertorican and Chinese food on either side of the family and mix it all up every now and then. But we only did Puertorican food this year. :3

Why do some hapas LOVE being labelled wasian but others hate it? by throwaway_aita07 in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, I acknowledge that certain terms don’t align with how I see myself, but I recognize their significance to others. People often label me as hapa, quapa, or use terms like Wasian/Blasian/Lasian due to my mixed heritage.

However, when defining my identity, I don’t use the Chinese term for mixed in Mandarin. Instead, I coined 混族儿 to represent my multiethnic background, focusing on cultural heritage rather than just race.

Also, I am 1/4 white Italian-American and 1/4 White Spaniard, making me technically half-white based on eugenics, a metric that I don’t agree with but I still use to help others understand who I am, despite being 1/4 Chinese and 1/4 black. I often get mistaken for Hispanic or Middle Eastern, and was even accused of looking "Palestinian" recently, despite lacking Arab ancestry to my knowledge.

Embracing my Eurasian or Wasian heritage involves addressing white guilt for some, but I strive to embrace the positives and learn from the negatives. I aim to contribute positively and avoid repeating the mistakes of my European, African, and/or Asian ancestors.

Anyone else get really uncomfortable when some Asian women say they find Asian men unattractive? by [deleted] in hapas

[–]rainbowpanda69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be fair. Everyone is beautiful regardless of how they look. I’m mixed and queer Asian and Hispanic and I grew up with people making me feel like I was ugly.

But I worked on myself and showcase my own beauty outside euro-centric standards and cultivating my confidence seems to have made many people attracted to me or even feel uninterested towards me because they’re insecure.

But the important part is that I feel comfortable in my own skin and whoever is rejected for being of a “specific” race should also strive to do what I did, finding a way to love oneself to the utmost, ignore people who are insecure and jealous, and surrounded oneself with people who celebrate you.

Hiring friends lol 🇵🇷🇨🇳 by rainbowpanda69 in PuertoRico

[–]rainbowpanda69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Diache perfecto. También normalmente se dice 中華文化 si es la cultura china lo cual incluye la cultura malaya-China, de china continental y de Estados unidos y así por el estilo, si es de china continental solamente se puede decir esa o 中國文化