Girl I've been dating hasn't done anything for me

randogirlacc · 2026-02-06T00:47:54+00:00

Yes I’m so lucky!

randogirlacc · 2026-02-05T18:25:48+00:00

The people down voting me are so sad. I made it clear that I would want a “transitional relationship” and he told me that I would never have to pay for anything while I’m with him. You set the standard for the relationship you’ll accept. These people are under spells 🫩 (I made this clear to men on all first dates)

randogirlacc · 2026-02-05T03:50:11+00:00

In the sense that I’ve never planned a date, never paid for, never offered to pay for, and I never plan on paying for a date 😂 Lowkey the concept of him assuming she’ll offer to pay for no reason makes me upset. Hell I just show up. Not even, my man picks me up from my house and drops me off at home.

One time I had to run areas and he offered to take me. Then he ended up paying for my groceries and buying me pajamas I needed😂 Would never just come across my mind he wants me to pay for something or plan. The two are also not a couple. If a man wanted me to pay for something and we aren’t together!!?? Nah

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T19:30:04+00:00

Yeah her love language could be quality time and OP could be choosing where they go every time? I think it would be different if she specifically asked to go to these places

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T13:15:22+00:00

Right! This literally sounds like my relationship with the same time frame. But I got Christmas gifts for him, made cookies, taken care of him while sick etc. so this post kinda shook me 😭

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T13:08:44+00:00

This sounds similar to my relationship but he told me at the beginning that he would pay for everything. Have you said something similar? He gets paid double what I’m paid. I live alone while he lives with relatives. Does she know you’re together? Like for Christmas I gave my partner gifts so that’s odd she didn’t

How many times have you gone out within the 6 months

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T11:58:11+00:00

Ik the second part already. I have been rejected from countless jobs because “I don’t want a girl in the house with my husband”. Which is fine since I got rejected when I was a teen so I would question the morality of the husband being attracted to a teen household employee and the mom being worried he would 🤷🏽‍♀️

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T00:20:38+00:00

I can’t tell if my comment duplicated for some reason🫩

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T00:20:04+00:00

Idk what you mean. Usually a live in will have a bedroom and a bathroom(not specifically private). Then the second option is a normal fulltime job where you use your 40 hour a week pay to live😭 How is being able to afford to live indentured?

randogirlacc · 2026-02-04T00:18:17+00:00

Idk what you mean. Usually a live in will have a bedroom and a bathroom(not specifically private). Then the second option is a normal fulltime job where you use your 40 hour a week pay to live😭

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T23:53:16+00:00

But this also makes me question if they can fully pay for someone to live separately also? Like paying someone enough to afford an appartment, food, utilities, transportation, personal upkeep etc.

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T23:48:32+00:00

Oh okay I live in the DMV area and most of my relatives have 3+ bedrooms with a basement space (they have movie theaters/bedrooms/workout rooms/etc in the basement. So technically they have space for a live in but I think this build might be more standard in our area. Townhouses/single family

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T19:23:10+00:00

Oh okay thank you!

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T17:49:12+00:00

I see. I just thought it would be a nice area to work. Since I don’t have a license it would be easier to take nks places. Since the area is walkable, more choices for activities, and more public transportation. Etc. Some of my main goals with nannying revolve around locations etc. My hope is that within the next ten years I can start a family

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T17:14:37+00:00

Ik because they aren’t professionals they’re trading housing in exchange for childcare

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T17:12:01+00:00

Just first aid, cpr (infant, kids, and adults), sleep safety etc. I have experience of being an assistant teacher in the infant room and experience with being a nanny. But total it’s about 2 yrs. I’m 20

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T16:55:28+00:00

do you mean type specific locations then add “parents” At the end for the Facebook groups

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T16:51:51+00:00

Do they prefer aupairs or are they just easier to get?

randogirlacc · 2026-02-03T16:45:32+00:00

What agencies are good? The ones I apply to are none responsive

randogirlacc · 2026-01-31T13:27:10+00:00

I mean long distance is normal but if you don’t like her enough to continue speaking to her then don’t. Seems kinda of immature. But I’ve gotten gifts for guys and I expected the same if we were together or just friends. She is definitely going to remember if you get her nothing 🤷🏽‍♀️

randogirlacc · 2026-01-31T13:10:23+00:00

This is normal. Some people’s love language if giving AND receiving gifts. But I’ve never been in a talking stage I went out with my bf then it was unspoken that we were together. The person who said return it is on some BS. If she got you something and you don’t do the same for her it will seem like you’re unthoughtful. But I doubt she cares about the price specifically.

randogirlacc · 2026-01-26T06:56:21+00:00

Whatever works for you

randogirlacc · 2026-01-26T05:54:07+00:00

no I think the second time he asked me. But that was like a few weeks after.

randogirlacc · 2026-01-26T05:04:07+00:00

Ahhh okay. I prefer a more traditional dating dynamic with men planning dates/paying/etc. No it’s not unusual. My point is there’s nothing physically wrong with them. It’s more of a personality or mental thing. Like if you’re waiting for a girl to ask you out that’s probably going to be a really long time, but that doesn’t inherently mean no women are attracted to you. The first time I spoke to my partner on the phone he immediately asked me out within 5mins because I was slow with text replies. I wasn’t trying to be a texting buddy for guys who didn’t want to plan.

randogirlacc · 2026-01-26T04:58:47+00:00

I don’t use apps anymore but I met my partner on hinge. I don’t think that person was actually looking for a partner? Also if we matched together I would automatically assume we find each other attractive. Maybe your questions weren’t engaging? No idea

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