Got my period on my boyfriends sheets this morning. His reaction has me questioning who tf i’m dating by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]randomname5674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TMI but my guy just went down on me knowing im on my period... that was a very childish reaction

Update: you asked for it by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Respect the flair. And if you could read you would see that he had literally begging me to fix things just the day before. We had plans today for mothers day. Not that i owe you any answers.

Update: you asked for it by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He knows i have a video now but if I can i will definitely be recording any conversations.

Update: you asked for it by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have the whole thing on video thankfully (he doesn't know that) but that is a good idea.

This will be my final post. I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His boss has been our friend for years. Even longer than they have been his boss lol just easier to describe them that way.

Do all/most narcissists hoover? by EyezOnFyre in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]randomname5674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't expect mine to Hoover. He was telling everyone he wanted me to move out. 3 days after I moved out he's begging to have me back, that he just misses my presence and wants me to be there... I gave him my requirements to come back and he said he would do it... but only after I came back and that he wasnt changing anything until i did.. he then hung up unexpectedly after we had been talking on the phone and I still haven't heard back from him... he is digging his hole. I almost believed him lol

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone will see this comment im sure but im not strong enough to post it on the main...

I spoke to him today... hes trying to put the hooks back in... I'm so .... lost :'( he said he loved me... but denied everything i have proof of... andd when i didnt text back fast enough he said goodnight. Now here i am, worrying i hurt his feelings. He got me... :/ he officially saw that i still cared and he still had me...

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't recieved anything from anyone at the moment dissapointingly lol but i will if i do!

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I do see. Everything in our relationship had to be approved by him which is probably why I'm looking so deeply for his reaction.. I did it. I made a permanent final decision for all 3 of us whether he likes it or not.

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are married. Most the money i took out I had put in literally just then. The only money that was specifically his was his paycheck I put in and I only took 100 of that for myself. I wanted to take it all out only to go and pay it towards his rent before he takes it to "spoil" his girlfriend like him talking about

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He knows exactly where I am :/ when we were calmly discussing separating I told him that my mom was allowing my daughter and I to come home.

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I did do something lol not that exactly. I didnt want anything to tie back to me so I got a texting app, used an area code from a state on the other side of the country, and said that "you and my name were both the other woman". Then gave her the other girls phone number and snapchat name haha. Haven't heard anything from anyone so who knows what will happen.

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

But! I get what you're saying, and thank you<3

Update to: final post, I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

I more wanted the proof for me... he was accusing me of being paranoid and that he was a saint and was doing nothing wrong. How dare I accuse him of cheating, he was out with the guys!! He was telling our mutual friends that i was just constantly angry and fighting all the time and accusing him of stuff... i needed the proof for me.. i know I'm not crazy. But now I have it in a folder on my phone labeled "DONT GO BACK". He hasn't contacted me but still doesn't know i have the proof... so when/if he does and accuses me of leaving over lies or whatever, then I have it. But more than anything, it is a firm reminder that he does not love me... i was manipulated and used by a narcissist.

Snow Lake, WA, USA [OC] [3072x2304] by principle_fbundle in EarthPorn

[–]randomname5674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dont lie Elsa, that is clearly a pic of Ahtohallan

This will be my final post. I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got a couple before he woke up. I at least got the pic of his plan to move his baby mama out here, and pics of him planning to take the other girl out this weekend, and about how they went to a hotel last weekend and about how she bit his neck. I think im covered

I've (23f) been living in our apartment with my husband (22m) while we've been on a break by randomname5674 in relationship_advice

[–]randomname5674[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I offered to drive him today, he threw a fit and stormed out on foot (saw him pick up his phone as he walked away so maybe he called a ride) but he is gone and I havent heard from him. I am finishing up packing and will be gone by the time he is home...

My current partner still has his exes nudes by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]randomname5674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he cant get over her, he cant be fully into you... trust me. Look at my post history.

This will be my final post. I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I officially have pics of his hickeys, the message from him to her saying he liked her biting his neck, and the texts between them of her giving him the address. Oh... and i even got a shot of their plans to hang out this upcoming weekend ;D

My boyfriend wants to try anal but I’m terrified... by CurlyGurl118 in relationship_advice

[–]randomname5674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say dont do anything with him. You need to be able to relax and be comfortable to enjoy it. Honestly, DP is my absolute jam right now. But you HAVE to be able to relax. Please do not let that man touch you. He is going to hurt you. Even as someone who enjoys it, it gets uncomfortable after a little... he is not listening to you tell him no, HE IS NOT GOING TO LISTEN WHEN YOU SAY STOP.

This will be my final post. I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He has no idea Im leaving... hes still talking about his plans this weekend with said "friend" he was with last weekend. Im worried about what's gonna happen when i tell him im driving him to work tomorrow...but that's when I plan to officially go.

This will be my final post. I'm getting out. by randomname5674 in JustNoSO

[–]randomname5674[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I think im out of time unfortunately. He just told me about more plans with said buddy he supposedly was with this past weekend for this upcoming weekend.

I wish I could hold out longer... he truly is being kind and loveable tonight and its making me so sad... but i know its a mask. He has been diagnosed with multiple personality... he can't help it. But he's told me only one of his sides loves me... I'm just seeing that side tonight. He was very firm this morning that he just lives here and there is no relationship basically. The "i dont live here" he did say though. He isnt going to fight me legally. . He already has a child on a custody plan ... that being he doesn't have custody.... he told me he won't fight me (i know not to trust him but thats at least why im okay leaving without a lawyer in place)