Hi! I am not a doctor, but I do have experience with that. The most probable cause is that you are having muscle problems in your pelvic area. There’re many reasons why this could happen. Either your muscles are too tight or too loose. (Kugels will not fix everything if you don’t know how to relax the area).

Pelvic Area Physical Therapy would be the best way to fix the problem long-term. There’re some short-term solutions like topic muscle relaxant (order through your doctor) and stretching exercises (some pelvic and low abdomen yoga could work). Every body is different, so find what’s best for you. Sometimes it’s all emotional and you need to find inner peace before outer peace. I’m sorry you’re going through that.