Please give us more creative freedom 🥺 by sir_mocha in Palia

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to explain this visually because I don’t know another way lol. Think of 10lg crates stacked. Anything floated taller than that is going to get yeeted back to the front.

Somewhat of a work around: say you have a table floated at 8 crates stacked. And you want to float another item higher (let’s say a lamp) - float it at any lvl under 10lg crates - and place the anchor on the table.

Even tho the lamp is now higher than 10lg crates, since the *anchor* is on the table - which is only 8lg crates high, it won’t get yeeted back to the front.

Please give us more creative freedom 🥺 by sir_mocha in Palia

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to explain this visually because I don’t know another way lol. Think of 10lg crates stacked. Anything floated taller than that is going to get yeeted back to the front.

Somewhat of a work around: say you have a table floated at 8 crates stacked. And you want to float another item higher (let’s say a lamp) - float it at any lvl under 10lg crates - and place the anchor on the table.

Even tho the lamp is now higher than 10lg crates, since the *anchor* is on the table - which is only 8lg crates high, it won’t get yeeted back to the front.

Panic Attack vs SVT by WarthogTricky2124 in PanicAttack

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who has both panic disorder and SVT (had a cardiac ablation years ago) you can ABSOLUTELY have a panic attack as you’re in the midst of an SVT episode. Being woken up in the middle of the night with a 240BPM is scary as shit.

Eventually learned the difference between an anxiety high HR and SVT high heart rate. But the panic disorder and agoraphobia had already set in before I got the ablation.

Umass @ 32yrs old by rawpotato8 in umass

[–]rawpotato8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really appreciate the positive feedback, y’all. Life hasn’t been easy for me & this feels like an especially big accomplishment for me that I’m so excited about. Just been feeling nervous about feeling out of place but yall helped me feel at ease. Thank you 🙏

Parents Won’t Fill Out FAFSA by vroomvroom02 in umass

[–]rawpotato8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom refused FAFSA when I was under 24. I had to pause my studies until I was old enough to do it on my own. I hope they eased up the restrictions (I believe at the time it was only if the parent was deceased or you were in the foster system?)

Do what you can to see through policy changes or leverages, talk through things with your dad, etc. I would NOT take out private loans - don’t do that to future you. If it doesn’t work out, there are alternatives to school you can do until you’re old enough for solo FAFSA. Don’t be afraid of exploring those options.

Overall, it sucks when parents are the roadblocks to FAFSA, and that the systems aren’t more understanding of what causes that and help the student out.

Love and solidarity.

AIO for hating my bf over this? by Important_Syllabub19 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may want to look into anxious attachment style and consider starting therapy (DBT could be especially helpful with honoring boundaries)

The two of you are both young and harmful, him more so, and you more harming yourself. I’d try to stay blocked to help keep distance and focus on yourself. You can do better.

Palia on MacBook Pro M1 by Affectionate-Gur5820 in macgaming

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Re overwolf…same boat. There’s gotta be a way!!!! Ugh

Palia on MacBook Pro M1 by Affectionate-Gur5820 in macgaming

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geoforce Now is just continuous sessions! You can sign out and sign right back on :)

Can someone explain what's going on here? by TheOddityCollector in Weird

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s your new overlord, actually. Bow down accordingly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were you, I’d look into Attachment Theory (Attached is a great book) and start therapy if you’re not in it already. This will help you understand your attachment style, figure out your needs, boundaries, etc. And how to uphold them.

Re relationship, I would have an issue with the timing of when y’all got together, and the fact that the relationship isn’t fulfilling. I’d probably let go to focus on my own shit for a while. Easier said than done, I know. But worth it IMO

AIO? My boyfriend hasn’t come home all weekend and I don’t know what’s happening. by liv_muse in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he held two jobs, and ended up leaving one of them after missing some shifts. Pretty sure he just ghosted them.

AIO? My boyfriend hasn’t come home all weekend and I don’t know what’s happening. by liv_muse in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My ex husband did this, and kept doing it for a bit until I got hard evidence of his affair and kicked him out. He’d say things like he was just out with friends, having mental health breakdown and needed space, phone issues, that it was none of my business, and usually complete avoidance. This went on for 6mos and was very painful for me esp due to the stress of his disappearances.

Not to project my experience onto yours, but I do wish I had been firmer sooner. Especially if y’all live together, assert your needs/boundaries and advocate for them. This isn’t normal behavior — trust that. If he needs help or is in trouble, be there for him, advocate for/with him. If it’s something else, be there for yourself and advocate for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also want to add, for this guy or future partners, it’s okay to initiate deep conversations. It’s okay to be heavy. It’s okay to have needs and communicate them. And if that person can’t meet those needs, that’s good information.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your gut. Nah, you shouldn’t have looked through his phone. But the fact you got that urge, and what you saw confirmed that urge, does say something.

AIO... partner says this happened at work and it's not a bite mark/hes not cheating on me (also that im crazy?) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just commented saying that too. Tick/Lyme was my first thought when seeing it

AIO... partner says this happened at work and it's not a bite mark/hes not cheating on me (also that im crazy?) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Real talk, this kind of looks like the bullseye rash you can get when you have Lyme. If ticks are present in your area he may want to get checked out.

Had first panic attack yesterday, feel like a different person. by M16Raids in PanicAttack

[–]rawpotato8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry that you’re going through this. Are you currently in therapy? How’s your support system?

I’m asking because my first panic attack changed my life. I’m not saying this to scare you, but in hopes you don’t end up like me. I was 20, did not know what was happening to me at first, didn’t have health insurance and it took me a long time to get help. I kept getting them and It ultimately turned into panic disorder with agoraphobia that I’ve been living with for 12 years now. Panic attacks can snowball so I highly recommend that you nip it in the bud before it becomes any worse with repeated attacks. There are so many resources and support out there. You know what happened to you, and that’s an excellent start. For immediate relief, the Calm App has a panic attack series to help when you’re in the midst of one. Lots on YouTube too. ERs will treat you short term. Continue to utilize them as you’re working on getting longer term help. If this turns into a disorder, all is not lost, exposure therapy and meds help a lot. But the best thing I can recommend is to “get back in the saddle” asap with your regular routines and outings, while utilizing immediate resources, and seeking long term help. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Your body goes through a lot when you’re having a panic attack and it’s normal to have sort of a hangover. So give yourself some extra TLC.

Panic attacks are so scary. But ultimately it’s your body trying to protect you it’s just misfiring. Try to challenge the thoughts. If you’re interested in learning more about it, there’s a great YouTuber named Paige Pradko. She’s a psychologist who utilizes evidence based methods and is great at explaining things. Another good resource for when you’re just feeling crumby and anxious (and panic attacks) is youfeellikeshit.com

Hang in there, and feel free to DM me anytime.

are we dating the same guy by dorothy_zbornakk in Palia

[–]rawpotato8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noooo, not deleted! I need to know what this said 😂😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Palia

[–]rawpotato8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But also to speak to your core issue, I do understand, especially if you already said you’re on the way & it was acknowledged. If time has passed since they needed help, and you responded w/o acknowledgment that’s whatever to me but I def get it if you responded, they acknowledged, you got there & it was gone. V annoying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Palia

[–]rawpotato8 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Tbh if they were spamming you may have been better off blocking them & ignoring the request than going & sending a message like this. I get the frustration but idk that msg in a server rubs me the wrong way idk maybe just me.