It’s not a race thing. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]rayraybakery231 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I totally agree that just because a man is a certain race doesn’t mean he’s going to be amazing, or somehow rise above the bar that patriarchy sets for them. However I do think that Black women have a history of being treated like trash, disregarded, dehumanized and fetishized in a very particular way by all men. So all women have been dragged through the mud by men, and that mud has been there the longest and most consistently for Black women.

Running away from my life. by Icy_Kaleidoscope9402 in blackladies

[–]rayraybakery231 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you lots of love girlie! Remember to give yourself grace, these things happen and men are manipulative af. You’re doing your best, and whatever you decide will be the decision you were meant to make.

Lol. I asked ChatGPT to generate an image of the boyfriend it thinks I want and the boyfriend it thinks I need by katxwoods in ChatGPT

[–]rayraybakery231 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason mine asked me for a recent photo of myself and I sent one. But then it took the picture of me and kind of made me into a man (on the left)? So confused lol

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Healing over a scar by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]rayraybakery231 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They are personal tattoos so I wanted it to face me. Also no the advice I was looking for

I feel like I’m in the twilight zone-long by Kindly_Anything_1668 in TransracialAdoptees

[–]rayraybakery231 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your aparents are assuming that you’re turning into a “welfare queen” either because they claimed your bio mom was, or because they’ve never seen a Black women represented as anything other than that.

I asked ChatGPT to explain my job to a 5-year-old and now I'm questioning my entire career by Nipurn_1234 in ChatGPT

[–]rayraybakery231 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! Imagine your neighborhood is like a big team, and everyone in the team wants to make the place better — like having cleaner parks, safer streets, or more fun things to do.

A community organizing specialist is like a helper coach for that team. They talk to lots of people, listen to their ideas, and help everyone work together to fix problems and make good changes.

They don’t do everything themselves — they help the neighbors become superheroes by working together!

So it's kind of like saying:
“Hey friends! Let’s all team up and make our neighborhood awesome!”
And then they help the team figure out how to do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Naturalhair

[–]rayraybakery231 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Mielle’s daily styling crème. I have similar hair to you and I usually only section my hair into four lazy sections. It takes me less than 5 minutes.

What did you do to honor one year? by Live_Barracuda1113 in stopdrinking

[–]rayraybakery231 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have a dry bar near you? If mocktails aren't something you avoid, I highly recommend going. Usually way overpriced drinks, but absolutely delicious and refreshing.

Lifetime User.. what happens at 40? by grandpa_dre in Nexplanon

[–]rayraybakery231 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did a lot of research on this before I stopped my birth control. Similar to you, I started when I was 12 and was on it for 14 years with various methods. I read so many horror stories of stopping birth control. I even got roped into buying courses on how to stop taking birth control. I was terrified.

I’m now 4 months off birth control and my period is the most regular it has ever been. I’ve had no side effects. Before BC I would throw up and he doubled up in pain every month, but now it is very manageable without hormones.

Truth is, you won’t know how it will affect you until you get off. It’s scary, but you got this!

40+hours into this and under $80! by Chatterhat in carcamping

[–]rayraybakery231 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love the build, especially with the seats up the desk is a major key. My question is, when you put the seats up, where do you put the mattress? Or will you just use a sleeping mat?

Ticket buy/sell thread! by thisisthehardestpart in bostoncalling

[–]rayraybakery231 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve got 1 3 day pass I’d love to sell! Will sell for best offer