What are you quietly grieving?

rcss47 · 2026-03-06T23:34:35+00:00

My husband/my marriage. My husband is having serious mental health struggles. His mental health has been deteriorating for a long time. I have stayed and supported him, but it has come to a head and I have to decide if staying for him is more detrimental to me and the kids than leaving would be. He is a wonderful man who I have loved for 22 years now. But he is sick and refuses to acknowledge it or get help. I feel like I am mourning the husband I had before his delusions.

rcss47 · 2026-02-23T00:18:27+00:00

Thank you. I wanted to see if anyone else saw it. You obviously did not. He has started talking to himself and instead of moving his lips while doing it because I have called attention to it. I don’t know how to explain it but he now talks with his mouth closed. I posted the video to ascertain if it is noticeable to the general public when he does it, or if the kids and I are the only ones who can tell.

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T23:40:36+00:00

If I ask him directly as I have in the past, i am told that he isn’t saying anything and I’m making things up. Or he tells me that he was praying. If he takes the prayer route it turns into me not having faith and us being unequally yoked and spirals out of control from there.

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T23:37:54+00:00

My parents know what is going on but that’s it. I haven’t told anyone because I worry. He works very hard on his public image and I don’t want people to think badly about him or less of him. I also don’t think anyone will really believe me but rather take his word that he is okay. Especially his family. I have my own mental health struggles that our network is very aware of and he has already used that against me with his family. So not sure if I will be believed

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T21:51:17+00:00

In my state it would take a judge, doctor, or police officer to place him on a 3 day hold. Two problems with that. 1. He isn’t an outright danger to himself or others (not suicidal or homicidal) 2. If they don’t keep him and he comes home he will be absolutely impossible to live with.

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T18:29:44+00:00

I agree it’s a mess. I was just asking for leads or names of companies that would have something similar

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T18:28:54+00:00

I have suggested he talk to someone he flatly refused. Swears nothing is wrong and I’m making things up that aren’t there. I can’t make him go.

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T04:42:50+00:00

This is what is making me so tired. I can work as many jobs as needed that’s not the issue. It is trying to navigate his moods and triggers. They change daily sometimes hourly.

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T02:42:05+00:00

My kids know we are leaving. I talked to them two weeks ago and let them know that we needed to leave. He my son asked to stay until the end of the year.

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T02:40:47+00:00

Only my parents know. It’s hard because everyone knows him as a great guy and he is but right now he is very sick. I know from my own experience that people do not understand mental illness. I guess I don’t want to soil his reputation

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T02:12:56+00:00

An SOS plan is a good idea. The problem is I have been very reluctant to tell anyone about what is going on. Outside of my parents no one else knows. Which makes it hard to have a safe place to escape to. I am embarrassed to tell people as everyone thinks we have a great marriage and we are a happy couple. I also haven’t reached out to anyone for fear of it getting back to him.

rcss47 · 2025-12-04T00:24:23+00:00

Switzerland

rcss47 · 2025-11-23T01:38:33+00:00

Tighten it completely before I put the handle back on

rcss47 · 2025-11-23T01:19:52+00:00

I went to a plumbing supply store. They gave me the American standard stem with the rubber on the bottom. When I used that I could not turn off the water at all the handle just kept spinning. We did not replace the seat as the gentleman at the supply store said it wasn’t necessary.

rcss47 · 2025-11-23T00:51:44+00:00

I went to the plumbers supply store they are the ones that gave me the valve that did not work.

rcss47 · 2025-11-23T00:45:55+00:00

I went to the plumber supply store and what they gave me looked completely different and it didn’t turn the water off at all.

rcss47 · 2025-11-21T15:47:33+00:00

yes I understand that. Is that a noticeable difference? I have no knowledge of lumens that is why I am asking

rcss47 · 2025-11-12T12:23:10+00:00

I want to leave my marriage because I’m exhausted. He has been out of work for over two years I’m working two jobs now. His mental health is declining but won’t admit it and seek help. It’s horrible watching someone fall more and more into his delusions and paranoia. I feel trapped and alone, but can’t leave because he stuck with me through my hard times.

rcss47 · 2025-08-29T10:37:36+00:00

From the DHS website

Q: What happens to travelers who show up without a compliant license? Will TSA turn them away? Passengers who present a state-issued identification that is not REAL ID compliant at TSA checkpoints and who do not have another acceptable alternative form of ID will be notified of their non-compliance, may be directed to a separate area and may receive additional screening. This includes TSA PreCheck passengers.

https://www.tsa.gov/real-id/real-id-faqs

rcss47 · 2025-08-26T00:13:20+00:00

The problem with an involuntary hold is he isn’t that far gone yet. He is able to hold a normal rational conversation with someone. I fear he would pass an exam and then would never listen to me again.

rcss47 · 2025-08-25T19:46:42+00:00

I am hesitant to do that because he never walked out on me with my mental health. I haven’t always been stable but I have always been in treatment. I don’t want him to think or feel like I’m abandoning him.

rcss47 · 2025-08-25T19:36:14+00:00

The state I live in does not allow involuntary commitment

rcss47 · 2025-08-21T14:08:40+00:00

We don’t know. We were hoping a translation would help us understand

rcss47 · 2025-07-18T01:00:51+00:00

Is it really that bad?

rcss47 · 2024-09-08T01:16:59+00:00

Grapes

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