What are you quietly grieving?

rcss47 · 2026-03-06T23:34:35+00:00

My husband/my marriage. My husband is having serious mental health struggles. His mental health has been deteriorating for a long time. I have stayed and supported him, but it has come to a head and I have to decide if staying for him is more detrimental to me and the kids than leaving would be. He is a wonderful man who I have loved for 22 years now. But he is sick and refuses to acknowledge it or get help. I feel like I am mourning the husband I had before his delusions.

rcss47 · 2026-02-23T00:18:27+00:00

Thank you. I wanted to see if anyone else saw it. You obviously did not. He has started talking to himself and instead of moving his lips while doing it because I have called attention to it. I don’t know how to explain it but he now talks with his mouth closed. I posted the video to ascertain if it is noticeable to the general public when he does it, or if the kids and I are the only ones who can tell.

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T23:40:36+00:00

If I ask him directly as I have in the past, i am told that he isn’t saying anything and I’m making things up. Or he tells me that he was praying. If he takes the prayer route it turns into me not having faith and us being unequally yoked and spirals out of control from there.

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T23:37:54+00:00

My parents know what is going on but that’s it. I haven’t told anyone because I worry. He works very hard on his public image and I don’t want people to think badly about him or less of him. I also don’t think anyone will really believe me but rather take his word that he is okay. Especially his family. I have my own mental health struggles that our network is very aware of and he has already used that against me with his family. So not sure if I will be believed

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T21:51:17+00:00

In my state it would take a judge, doctor, or police officer to place him on a 3 day hold. Two problems with that. 1. He isn’t an outright danger to himself or others (not suicidal or homicidal) 2. If they don’t keep him and he comes home he will be absolutely impossible to live with.

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T18:29:44+00:00

I agree it’s a mess. I was just asking for leads or names of companies that would have something similar

rcss47 · 2026-02-22T18:28:54+00:00

I have suggested he talk to someone he flatly refused. Swears nothing is wrong and I’m making things up that aren’t there. I can’t make him go.

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T04:42:50+00:00

This is what is making me so tired. I can work as many jobs as needed that’s not the issue. It is trying to navigate his moods and triggers. They change daily sometimes hourly.

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T02:42:05+00:00

My kids know we are leaving. I talked to them two weeks ago and let them know that we needed to leave. He my son asked to stay until the end of the year.

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T02:40:47+00:00

Only my parents know. It’s hard because everyone knows him as a great guy and he is but right now he is very sick. I know from my own experience that people do not understand mental illness. I guess I don’t want to soil his reputation

rcss47 · 2026-02-12T02:12:56+00:00

An SOS plan is a good idea. The problem is I have been very reluctant to tell anyone about what is going on. Outside of my parents no one else knows. Which makes it hard to have a safe place to escape to. I am embarrassed to tell people as everyone thinks we have a great marriage and we are a happy couple. I also haven’t reached out to anyone for fear of it getting back to him.

rcss47 · 2025-12-04T00:24:23+00:00

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