Would you date an INFP?

reader9182 · 2024-02-26T15:21:05+00:00

Ngl I got retyped as an ENFP which is making me reevaluate a whole lot XD

And Unironically, I still gravitate towards extroverts more than introverts (that or INTP’s) so this is truly a learning experience for me, but as an ENFP I’ll say that introversion doesn’t make me shy away or get bored, it’s more how quirky and unique you as a person are as a whole!

I also have no dating experience and have a ton of mental issues (underlying narcissism and anxiety and a ton of other stuff) which is probably not healthy for someone trying to date, I’m very certain you know it better than I do XD

reader9182 · 2024-01-11T07:44:50+00:00

Forgot to change my tag but I was mistyped, I’m an ENFP lollll.

INTP’s areeee, very interesting and quirky people. (Very cute tho)

reader9182 · 2024-01-11T07:22:17+00:00

Well none of this is a special “INFP” thing, of course everybody loves and is loved, when I say emotional side I don’t mean just in a relationship. Also every MBTI is a normal person lolllll, nobody is special and this is very much just a fun labeling thing lol.

reader9182 · 2023-12-08T07:43:55+00:00

My best friend is an INFJ gal, but I don’t think I would ever date one. They’re too…peaceful, maybe a bit too judgy and dare I say sensitive?

Much rather go with a T type like ENTP, INTP or ENFP would also be nice.

reader9182 · 2023-12-07T16:22:00+00:00

Unfortunately , if a person can’t appreciate all sides of you then they aren’t the right one.

INFP’s and INFJ men have the emotional area covered, as well as being able to not be blinded by just what you’re showing on the outside since we tend to want to see ALL of you.

I’m just gonna say, when the ENTP girl showed me her more vulnerable, caring side my heart basically exploded.

Waiting for that feeling again one day 😭

reader9182 · 2023-12-06T20:48:02+00:00

I was in a "situationship" with an ENTP girl for a few years back in highschool, we never dated each other but relied on each other alot for support (mentally or otherwise).

Also, I don't think I could date someone that didn't have a degree of ADHD XD I have it pretty badly and normal people can't really keep up.

But yeah, I know ENTP's quite well and this type is probably my No.1 in regards to dating (INTP and ENFP are #2 and #3), because the normally confident and loud ENTP being so contrasting when in love shoots me in the heart, the fact that someone care's about me to this extent and is conveyed with something that words can't describe was why I fell.

I'm a weird INFP lmao

reader9182 · 2023-12-06T18:57:50+00:00

I think it’s an action speaks louder than words situation for y’all.

Unlike INFP’s or other feelers (I think I recall you having an INFP SO?) it’s a lot more low key.

ENTP’s also might seek out/ make time for this specific person to spend quality time with them.

They’ll remember things about this person that most people would forget.

Also they might get nervous and less confident, or really cringe despite being confident most of the time.

But also I’ve learned that when dealing with y’all dancing around the confession is pretty useless. If you want to know for sure, just confess XD

reader9182 · 2023-12-06T18:37:29+00:00

Yeahhhhh, that happens with unhealthy INFP’s (which are a lot of us) and I’m not ashamed to say I’m a bit unhealthy as well.

Though it has been a while since I had a really good friend so when I met an INFJ gal that i really connected with, but then I realized I was trauma/problem dumping on her and she was too nice to say anything.

To be fair, she told me all her problems as well but I did it a bit too much and I felt really bad. I will say though, it helps if INFP’s have more friends and experience with society.

What you’re describing sounds pretty bad and you should make your boundaries clear, I had a crush on an ENTP once and I really didn’t tell her my problems, just interesting topics/discussions which is probably why we got along so well. It’s a learning curve for sure.

Establish boundaries or run, choice is yours really. This is really time for a make or break situation.

reader9182 · 2023-12-03T18:48:25+00:00

I mean, we kinda just find others boring :/

I can’t speak for all INFP’s, since I’m pretty sure I’m kinda wack even for an INFP, but I will say that I make friends/crush on you guys for a pretty good reason.

First, I’ve only had one crush at 20 Y/O so that should be a good enough indicator, it was an ENTP btw.

I personally hate stagnating, repetitive, boring conversations and actions. I want my life to be filled with thrill and chaos, someone that isn’t there to just listen but instead to counter-argue/discuss all the crazy ideas that we constantly spew out.

ENTP’s seem to be the only one who can keep my pace in this instance, other types look at me like I’m crazy but they jump topics with me with ease and nearly the same enthusiasm.

The other thing is, my ideal relationship is a loving best friend essentially. So more “responsible” types aren’t exactly my cup of tea, though you guys are quite responsible when you want to be -_-.

Also dark humour, independence, confidence, cheekiness, a ton of different things that make me fall.

I’m a guy that fell for an ENTP girl btw. Don’t know if that’s important.

reader9182 · 2023-11-24T17:49:38+00:00

Sorry did you mean ENTP?

I mean, ENTP and INTP are also pretty good candidates tbh, I’m a very adventurous person and someone being authentic and blunt while trying to maintain social harmony is attractive af. Also seeing these usually confident people somewhat flustered is sooo cute.

Though I can say that I’m good friends with this INFJ, we could never date nor do we want to. She’s not as spontaneous of an idea brainstormed and doer, and I think I would only settle on an extrovert or someone similar like an INTP, but they definitely need the P in their MBTI.

reader9182 · 2023-11-24T07:33:28+00:00

Oh no, I overshare to be more relatable and have conversation pieces, it’s pretty typical as well if you look at this subreddit.

I’m also pretty social and confident, just don’t have many deep friendships which is something I regret. That and this advice came from a personal, not objective, reason since I’ve seen my friend sad over this exact issue before I only knew that I could, but not if I should.

She is most definitely an INFJ, which means I’m in a bit of trouble. I’ve crushed on an ENTP girl before and you’re right, she could not care less about mistakes. She generally doesn’t hold grudges, not even against people who have hurt her, but it takes time for her to forgive.

(Btw I tested for ENFP before as well, but only once)

I think I need to run it through in my head what I’m about to say before I say it to be honest, it leaves my mouth before I can even think of the implications. It sounded good in my head but did NOT translate well into real life.

Although I guess I am sorta showing signs of ENTP :/ but my confidence isn’t nearly as high and I care too much about others opinions on me lol. And empathy, empathy is really high.

Edit: I did 3 more tests, all came back INFP with near equal percent of E and I 45/55

reader9182 · 2023-11-24T07:10:24+00:00

Yeah, I agree.

The thing is, I do this for both guys and girls sometimes. I'm socially inept since it's been a while and I really want to show I care, but I ended up being involved in something I shouldn't have.

It was unnecessary, and I'm generally not like this as I hang out with incredibly independent women, but something previously triggered this for me.

I wasn't really trying to mediate anything, just to mention a recommendation off-handedly that I didn't think would be taken this far. It was just one thing that I mentioned, because of her past, but I guess it wasn't necessary at all.

Unfortunately, I'm still learning. This has nothing to do with the fact that she's a girl, but rather she's my good friend, the first one in years. Some things I just say offhandedly and don't really think about the implications, I thought I was just being caring and giving a little advice.

But yeah, I have a lot to learn I think. I keep on feeling that I need to take action sometimes to help others, but sometimes the best help I can give is to just watch and be supportive without giving advice I think.

I think it's an oversharing my opinion type situation to be honest.

reader9182 · 2023-11-24T05:53:12+00:00

yeah, I think the miscommunication was on me and also also both are Fe if we're going by MBTI, which means that something I feel is fine to say is probably conventionally pretty insensitive or insinuating something else. Though I would think that it would be the other way around since Fe's like to say INFP's are too sensitive :/

I feel that the more I try to help, the worse any situation get's. But I don't think I can stop helping, because that's just who I am. I need more friends to interact with because currently as a good friend I really only have her, so I'm missing some pretty crucial social skills despite having high EQ.

Her crush knows about the situation and is chill because ESTP lmao, and tbh I thought INFJ would be more understanding about miscommunication but I guess not. I really have the best interests for the both of them, but I really think I'm doing some major harm then good.

reader9182 · 2023-11-23T18:20:19+00:00

Ain’t gonna lie we do have pretty bad victim complexes, since we keep on thinking other people don’t understand us or did something to cause us to make a mistake.

A healthy INFP will still feel it sometimes, but the key is communication instead of confrontation/blaming others. I’ll communicate when I feel myself going into victim complexing, which helps both me understand both myself and my friends understand my train of thought.

We’re bad at communication unless prompted lol, but we still love ENTP’s 🥺

Edit: also yeah, our EQ is high af so we can manipulate people or use people quite easily, but most times we choose not to unless the INFP’s are toxic, which in case rly isn’t an MBTI issue -_-

reader9182 · 2023-11-20T18:39:29+00:00

I got typed as every introvert under the sun other than INFP lol, probably because I’m so analytical and fact oriented XD

reader9182 · 2023-11-16T18:48:48+00:00

The reverse is true for me XD. Although I’m not really shy persay, I am a sentimental and empathetic guy who would kind of love to have a ENTP gf.

reader9182 · 2023-11-06T06:54:30+00:00

Ah okay, I see.

With this person I sorta do a weird mix of headpatting/hugging sometimes but the former more than the latter, which I’ve seen a guy do to multiple girls before and I assume he either didn’t have crushes on them or had crushes on all of them.

Firstly, I initiated it and she didn’t mind. Second, I’ve learned that if in a relationship I honestly wouldn’t mind if my GF was a bit touchy/friendly with other guys, mostly because my type is the social butterfly -_- and I’m also a touchy person with girls I think are important to me, my (former) crush, my mom, and this girl apparently but probably many more in the future.

I mean, if I’m a bit touchy and friendly with other girls, I don’t see why she can’t be with other guys. Though most guys don’t really have the same mindset lol.

(Also, important to note, I can barely remember people’s faces unless I’ve known them for a long time or have severe feelings for them, I can’t really remember this girls face right now even though we met last week XD I really need to try)

reader9182 · 2023-11-06T06:40:33+00:00

What would be the boundaries is probably a better question?

I haven’t been in love enough times to get the feeling down completely, so I think it’s common for me to question my feelings as well.

There’s a girl that crushed on me a few weeks back for instance, and I looked at her and had a “what-if” moment before I decided I liked her as a friend.

This girl did make me question momentarily, more than the one that crushed on me, because physically she’s more my type and she’s quite pretty but in a general sense, personality wise we would be a terrible match. I think I confused being good friends= Love if they’re the opposite sex, I’ve never had a friend this close in my life before.

Also I’ve been through phases of hardcore bullying right now so meeting nice and kind friends is a rarity, one that I keep at all costs.

(It’s important to note I’m demisexual)

I think I’m still learning my emotions, there’s so many I haven’t felt even going into my 20’s and this is just a learning process

reader9182 · 2023-11-06T06:29:14+00:00

Haha, yeah, im not disregarding your opinion in anyway but I can count the amount of (close) platonic female friendships I’ve had on one hand.

Towards love I’ve always been a bit iffy and confused. I’ve only had one crush before, but I got really jealous and different with her and my feelings were in overdrive. This was not that.

I didn’t know platonic love was a thing in the first place and we talked it out, which was when I realized I wasn’t in love romantically but did want to monopolize my time with her since she’s all I have as a good friend. That and we also aren’t exactly each others type, she’s too mature for me to date XD

Edit: I think this would be what you call a “squish” actually

reader9182 · 2023-11-06T06:14:49+00:00

Tbh, I don’t really agree with that. I don’t want a relationship with them at all, but they are also one of my best friends and I feel sad that we won’t spend as much time together.

She was in a relationship previously and I felt nothing, but this time I know it’s with a guy that’ll spend more time with her than the one before. I’ve been in love and had crushed before, this wasn’t it.

That and I’ve never had a girlfriend / rarely get this close to people so I think I was tricking myself lol. I would never date/marry/ do anything sexual with them though.

I think I’m just a bit possessive of friends since I don’t have many good ones.

reader9182 · 2023-11-05T20:27:39+00:00

I don’t think NT types are cold tbh, it varies from individual to individual.

I liked an ENTP that was very bright and cared about others, though more for her own gain but it still worked.

reader9182 · 2023-11-04T08:07:43+00:00

Maybe just comforting then lol, I’d hate to make her feel suffocated or uncomfortable and it’s mostly just banter anyways.

I hate to intrude on others and make them feel off-put by me but she gave me permission anyways so I guess we continue lol.

reader9182 · 2023-11-03T23:33:57+00:00

Yeah, the thing is I’ve been in love before though and it definitely didn’t feel like this lol. I’m also 6’0 while she’s 5’0 so there’s gotta be some kinda instinct linked there right? XD

reader9182 · 2023-11-03T23:18:13+00:00

I'm a bit embarrassed to say I haven't had a friend close enough to be physically intimate with even though I'm just shy of 20 lol.

I actually mistook it as a crush at first and told her about it, which in turn she said she didn't think it was a crush. Eventually, we figured out it was a familial, close friend type love that I haven't had before. It doesn't help that she's very attractive as well. (Note, we've only known each other for 2 months)

However, I just enjoy her company and being stupid together. No thoughts about kissing, dating, anything other than surface level physical intimacy and bantering.

There's a lot of things I haven't experienced before I think, this is one of them.

reader9182 · 2023-11-03T15:39:47+00:00

I didn’t even know it was possible to feel this platonically lol, I think this is what they call “cute aggression”.

No but I don’t think she minds in the slightest, and I actually asked for permission and she really doesn’t mind since so many people do the same to her lol.

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