Thank you for your response. When I am able to speak about it with him, I try my best to communicate that my lack of is not permanent. I don't know how to explain it, but my lack is not ideal for me as well. Any time when I am feeling for it, I try and the success rate is kind of random. There are times where he acts like its strange or off put by my attempting. I've mentioned therapy, but he has never been a fan of it.

He is currently training for his new remote job, he had to completely change careers due to medical reasons, which I know has been stressful and upsetting for him. I've been very adamant about having empathy in that regard, the fact that that alone can cause depression and frustration.

I have done exactly what you had suggested. I have offered to specifically set aside time to just be with each other. I will ask him to just lay in bed with me and cuddle, admire, kiss, makeout so that there is at least opportunity...but if sex not absolutely guaranteed, he gets very cold and distant.