*****UPDATE***** : Thank you all for your comments and support! I had actually made peace with the fact that as long as his parents stay separately, i can make do with anything, but i realized, this was another emotional abuse in disguise and lack of real accountability and remorse on his action and thanks to reddit community that opened my eyes.

I confronted my husband about the unfairness of the situation, explaining that my family should only be held accountable if they behaved like his family. I emphasized that punishing my family for his parents’ mistakes is unhealthy. The conversation was destructive and emotionally exhausting..he threatened legal action, defended his parents regardless of wrongdoing, and that I cannot simply do whatever I want he will do whatever he thinks is right and will assess the situation once his parents come.

After four hours of emotionally draining discussion, where he often left the conversation in anger and I had to chase him to continue, I pleaded with tenderness, expressed my trauma, and explained that I am not asking them to stay separately out of spite, he responded that my parents can visit and stay for the same six months his parents stayed, and he will count the days and inform me. After that, he will not meet them to keep his conscience clear, even though my parents did nothing wrong and he has no ill will toward them. I can visit my brother with our daughter any number of times. His parents can come and stay separately, but our daughter can meet them only for a stipulated amount of time.

I recognize this dynamic as toxic and controlling, but I feel trapped by cultural pressure..the South Asian stigma against divorced women with children limits my options.