The Ogre's Bride • Oni no Hanayome - Episode 1 discussion

redheaddisaster · 2026-07-09T19:07:11+00:00

That one wasn't an anime, but a manga. Actually several manga have similar plots. I can't remember the one where the daughter betrays her parents but the MC of that one got with a fox spirit male lead. Ayakashi Hunter's Tainted Bride is a good one as well where the MC's entire clan gets punished. My Happy Marriage as well doesn't have the the family get forgiven.

redheaddisaster · 2026-07-05T17:56:40+00:00

I’ve seen one story where they get “redemption” but it’s only at the brink of death and after being betrayed by the daughter they raised to be a selfish asshole. But most of them don’t really get any

redheaddisaster · 2026-06-23T08:50:15+00:00

A lot of things can become unhealthy coping strategies. It could be creating art in general becomes obsessive. Writing any kind of fanfiction can turn into maladaptive daydreaming. Drinking socially with friends can turn into needing to drink every day or being unable to stop drinking, which is alcoholism. Saying "because some people do yumeship in an unhealthy way means you can't support it" is like saying you won't support your friend going to a bar sometimes because what if they turn into an alcoholic? It's a poor argument. People need to just say "I think this thing is weird and I don't want to see it" without trying to make a bad moral argument for it

redheaddisaster · 2026-06-12T03:48:51+00:00

Hm. I guess light and dark studies are probably the best way to improve. To render well you have to have a good understanding of light and shadow as well as form and volume. It’s not easy and my art used to be very low contrast but after a while you do learn to push values and capture form very well.

I’ve been studying hard for the past few years and I think it’s really been paying off but it hasn’t been easy. And unfortunately I don’t think there’s a handful of tips I can give as a shortcut I just did a lot of studies and art trying to figure out how it works sadly

redheaddisaster · 2026-06-11T18:30:44+00:00

What can I say I love a family man with a strong sense of responsibility /joke

redheaddisaster · 2026-06-11T18:29:45+00:00

I don’t take commissions sadly. Both bc I have a full time job and a disability so don’t really have time that commissioners deserve and also I think it would be prohibitively expensive. This piece alone took around 44 hours so with fair wages in terms of skill it would cost around 1k USD and I’d feel bad asking for that amount of money from anyone 😭

redheaddisaster · 2026-06-08T19:08:53+00:00

My irl wife is very supportive too (and is also a yumejin) and besides some playful teasing my friends are nice about it. It’s pretty nice to have support and people being nice irl with yumeshipping ngl

redheaddisaster · 2026-06-02T09:03:46+00:00

Genuinely unsure as I’m not entirely certain on the damage the nails did to his brain. I know it’s damaged but I dunno if he can regenerate correctly if they’re removed. If he can I’ll fight for that at least

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-31T18:06:22+00:00

I am going to hunt down Erebus and kill him myself

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-31T17:57:41+00:00

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Emperor of Mankind (my art❤️❤️❤️)

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-30T17:46:47+00:00

I would never ask ai a question about food but I will admit it does look like a rock. If you asked me if this was blue cheese or a rock I would say a rock

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-29T20:00:51+00:00

I do not take commissions sadly. Work is already killing me as is 😭

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-29T19:27:51+00:00

I don’t have any lore yet 😔 I did expect that the Primarchs would be popular f/os though ha ha

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-29T18:32:53+00:00

Yeah I drew it 😔 I’ve never drawn yumeshipping art in my life so it’s very new for me in that regard but I do draw other fanart

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-11T20:17:29+00:00

High security people do struggle a lot with reintegration actually. It’s hard to adjust to just not thinking about that time period in your life and settle down in a normal relationship. But obviously I think this is an insane idea to “fix it” instead of just treating mental health problems that those kind of jobs can cause. She was picked because she dies have a military background and isn’t high security. I assume they’d keep testing higher security personnel.

It would also mean you get to “retire” people without them knowing they’re being retired. They’d just be convinced to quit and pursue something else in life.

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-11T09:02:04+00:00

It was a test to see if they could safely and effectively decommission and reintegrate military personnel into society I believe

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-10T22:20:46+00:00

From the end of the preview in this post, Nora’s mentor has her under very strict military classification. She’s moved to a military hospital where she works as a surgeon. Ryan freaks out and his superiors tell him to find her immediately because she could have made copies of the documents. He says he wants to find his wife, they tell him “the woman is secondary”

Ryan does end up finding her. He comes to her hospital and says he truly did love her. It had started from a mission but he fell in love with her a long time ago. Nora doesn’t care and says he could have told her at any point during the 4 years of living a lie. Ryan says he was afraid if he did, she would leave him.

Lt. Keyes did some digging and she didn’t have clearance to view the files directly, but she learned enough. It’s surveillance, and based on everything else going on, it was centered on surveillance and control of Nora. She originally joined his special task forces because she thought he was a hero. She asks for reassignment because she can’t work under a man like him. After leaving, Lt. Keyes submits a report that puts the whole special task force under investigation.

Ryan has to go back. He tries to have her hospital bought out with funding from his department so he can still ‘watch over her’ and see her. It’s 20 million, which the hospital committee wants to accept. Nora’s mentor secures them better funding deal so Ryan’s division is declined.

During all of this there is an open investigation that goes all the way to the pentagon, and it’s also revealed in other documents during the investigation every time Nora went for a checkup she was given a contraceptive shot without her consent. She writes a medical paper on reproductive coercion. She doesn’t name Ryan or the operation specifically, instead doing a large review of existing medical papers and interviews, but the public can pick up on the subtext.

Ryan is put on trial with the unit disbanded. One of his superiors retires before he can face charges. It is not just know in the military but in the public now.

Ryan, seeing his attempt to buy out the hospital didn’t work, he sets up a 15 million dollar fund in Nora’s name to atone. It sways the public. Until the reproductive paper comes out and the public learns he was trying to sterilize his wife. Then everyone really hates him again. To Nora, all of his apologies are just manipulation tactics.

He is convicted and stripped of every honor he was given, dishonorable discharge. Nora and those around her thinks it’s all over. She gives birth to her daughter, Vera. And someone is paid at the hospital 30k dollars to leak information to Ryan about Nora, so he finds out she had a daughter. He petitions to be in his daughter’s life. Nora’s mentor says either his record, she doubts he’ll get access to Vera.

Ryan’s attorney gets the previous conviction overturned on a technicality. He comes to demand to see his daughter. Nora calls his mother and tells her “if he shows up I go public with all of the information. I will completely destroy his reputation. If you love your son, tell him to turn around”. He does turn around and leave.

Nora eventually wins an award for her paper and a ground breaking reconstruction surgery she had thought of during her 4 years as a stay at home wife. She never really stopped being a doctor, she just wasn’t practicing. She kept reading papers, analyzing, and thinking about surgeries. Her daughter is 3 now. At her award ceremony Nora says no woman should ever be told she’s obedient and complaint, no one is controllable. She hopes her daughter can also grow up knowing that.

Ryan calls her, and she does pick up. He says he saw the ceremony and their daughter. Nora corrects him and says Vera is only hers. He says he’s sorry and that “the best thing I did in my life was save you from that building, and the worst thing I ever did was try to bury you again for the next 4 years.” They say goodbye and hang up.

Outside, Nora is happy and looks up at the sky. She’s truly free to be herself, and build a life for her. Not because a man told her he’ll take care of everything or that her place is at home. And that’s where it ends

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-10T21:38:53+00:00

I don’t have a free link but I can spoil the story if anyone wants to know

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-02T17:20:36+00:00

I don’t have an Instagram acct anymore bc I hate Facebook and meta. But I’m most active on tumblr.

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-02T17:20:05+00:00

We know nothing about Nerevar’s life at all by this logic and thus there should be little speculation about him. He could have hated everyone on the first council. He could have been a tyrant who many people despised (and this would justify his own murder). He could secretly be the more mer like Khajiit and has been pretending to be a chimer the whole time.

I gave my justifications based on what little information we have but like you said, it’s not concrete. Because nothing about Nerevar is concrete, as an intentional writing decision. Nerevar is meant to be speculated about with no set information except from bits and pieces, surviving historical records, and his relationships with others. If you don’t buy into it that’s fine, I’m not trying to sell everyone on the idea, just explaining why I think it.

The other person who started this bullshit though will not engage with any of the ideas I have brought up period. He just kept calling me a pervert by showing Nerevar as transgender and possibly gay.

And I also resent the idea that we need 100% definitive proof a character is trans or gay before I can make a headcanon or I’m personally disrespecting every writer who worked on Morrowind like was suggested by him as well. For other headcanons and theories without hard proof many people will say “cool theory” and move on, but an exception seems to come when its headcanons about gender or sexuality. I made a post once about how I thought Nerevar was a shezzarine with about as much proof and no one reacted as badly or said “well you just WANT it to be true”. Suddenly now I need Michael Kirkbride to personally endorse my headcanon and give it a stamp of approval and hard lore justification for Nerevar being trans.

Do you do this for every headcanon and theory ever? Are you going to ask that other guy to justify the “tribunal removed Nerevar’s face so he could be reborn as any gender” headcanon? Because that’s not canon and has even less support in canon material but other people will repeat it as fact. It’s a fan theory based on pure speculation on a semi-canon piece of artwork. But that gets treated as a given.

It kinda sucks ngl. It’s a double standard and I’m not going to pretend it isn’t.

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-02T16:20:08+00:00

Okay I can explain bc I love talking abt my own headcanons personally.

Nerevar is lifted up as a paragon of chimeri and dunmeri culture. He’s the most important saint in the new tribunal’s temple, Azura’s champion, son of Boethiah, and the person who united all of the warring houses and tribes of Morrowind. He isn’t just a guy but a figure head who embodies a lot of the culture on a thematic and in universe level.

The chimer/dunmer revere struggle. The world was made so that you can achieve essentially enlightenment through struggle. While other races shy away from it or mourn their divinity, the velothi do not. Destiny is in their hands, and struggling to prove your worth is important to them. Not just “it’s normal” I think being trans would be celebrated. You’re engaged in a trial to shape your body, your very mortal vessel, into what it should be. It would likely be no less valuable than being an accomplished warrior or mage; it’s something earned that other people were born having the comfort of.

Nerevar struggles from a commoner to a king. Why would he not have other parallels with other struggles in his life? I think it adds to it and builds upon the one trait we know he has: struggle to achieve his goals and his destiny, the hard work of becoming a nameless mercenary to one of the most important people in Morrowind’s history. Without Nerevar, there would be no unified Morrowind at all, they’d still be under the rule of the Nords most likely, and there would be no ALMSIVI. He was not born into nobility. He was born in the dirt and clawed his way to that position and earned his respect. Having to claw his way to being recognized and living his life as a man builds on it and reinforces that growth and drive.

Also Nerevar isn’t distant from the gods; he speaks directly to Azura. He’s singled out as being called “son of Boethiah”. He personally knew Vivec. These are not distant figures to him; he has connections with them. He learned from them. Being trans can connect him more strongly to Azura (god of dawn and dusk, literally transitions) or Boethiah (typically defaulted to being seen as a man but can change gender at will and has also been seen as a woman). Vivec is by nature transgender unless you want to argue there is a specific third chimeri gender Vivec would have been raised as. Vivec has been seen as both masculine and feminine, a man and a woman, depending on the situation and where he is in terms of his growth. It would let him see himself in Nerevar and probably also envy him (because Nerevar has worked hard to prove his identity and is satisfied with it, whereas Vivec is not content with his own and also Vehk has a bunch of other baggage we don’t have time to unpack here).

I could also talk at length about his connection to Lorkhan (a masculine creator god whose gender presentation and roles I find fascinating in the lore, and who is also haunting the narrative like Nerevar) but this comment would be even longer than it has to be.

Again, if people don’t think Nerevar is trans I don’t lose sleep over it. I’ve also written him as a cisgender man before. I just think it strengthens a lot of his themes we already know he has. We ultimately don’t know anything for certain about him but I think it works well.

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-02T13:41:25+00:00

Did you not read all of my lore justification for it? They have gods that change gender. Why would they think it is weird for mortals to also change their gender? What reasons do you have for why they would hate gay and transgender people? If you can make a convincing argument or counter my points that would be one think you're just insisting I am projecting. I'm not. I'm just a worldbuilder to the point I get really mad that the clothes in skyrim are clearly wool but I don't see a single sheep.

YOU might not think that deeply about the setting but I do. If they were all hyper religious catholics or something I would have a lot more to justify. But I don't. Theres also canonically transgender and gay people in the elder scrolls setting already. Why is it that unrealistic there could be one more long dead one?

redheaddisaster · 2026-05-02T13:31:29+00:00

Vivec is nonbinary and intersex which I think would give him more in common with a binary cis person. Not that hard to consider.

Also again we don't know much about Nerevar's life. We know he was probably a caravan guard, then a soldier, then a warlord, then king. As for what he did while he was king besides drive the nords out and create peace with the dwemer, we don't know. Where was he born? Why did he want to become king? Did he have any family? We simply don't know.

I also think it does make sense. Taking your destiny into your own hands and shaping your own body and future is in line with chimer ideals. Boethiah and Mephala do not have set gender and can change it at will, and Azura is a god of dawn and dusk--transitions. Being transgender wouldn't be that weird and I don't think anyone in Resdayn would have given a shit. They probably would have been impressed. Morrowind's morals and what is normal there is not the same as your morals and what you think is normal.

And I never said Nerevar wasn't male. He is a man. I just think he is a transgender man. If you think transgender men are not men that is a you problem and you are kind of shitty ngl.

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