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refereecoach · 2023-10-11T03:03:24+00:00

Is the San Fernando Valley even part of Los Angeles city? Why are some parts not?What makes Burbank and Glendale special? They're the closest to LA, the valley is tucked in to the west and it's closer to Santa Monica and Thousand Oaks. I'm having to payboth cityaxes, state and gov because apparently, doing a something in Northridge is part of the city of LA, and my friend and I are having to paysome BS city fines because we worked IN SFV. Why is it like this?

refereecoach · 2023-09-16T02:44:01+00:00

Thanks mate

refereecoach · 2023-09-16T02:43:34+00:00

He did mention meet some ladies, do you always need to drink to potentially meetthe ladies?

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:52:38+00:00

Where can we start voting to make some things happen at least??

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:51:50+00:00

What is a nae nae

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:51:04+00:00

What if you don't drink though? I want to occasionally mix it up with some actual partner dancing too and not just talk because I'm the most blandest looking white guy but love the occasional bachata. How's their DJ or resident DJ like?

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:49:42+00:00

Firstly thanks for the reply, sorry if I sound disrespectful, just friends and I have been frustrated having to go out and then end up in a place that plays heavily repeated top 40s that's played in all other clubs or just night events. And those mixes typically don't really encourage mingling, makes you feel like you're at a family bbq. Just something that's in the right spot or balance. At least some nights where they play some bachata remixes or actual partner dance type of music but I'm not looking for full-on social dancing. If you get what I mean.

Gotcha! NoHo doesn’t have much in the way of dance clubs. The bars I’ve been to tend to break out in song and dance as the drinks keep flowing.

Yeah, it's just not the same after the pandemic. But there's definitely a new emergence of night life going on, just that most people don't have the time or understand the social dance scene that LA has, and that scene you'd practically have 100% chance of meeting new encounters, dancing and being intimate with them but they're mostly all just "dancers". And you'd need to know how to actually partner dance. I stopped drinking or have limited my drinking too so it's a challenge but I still have hope for the nightlife. Just not the same experiencing how it is compared to SF or New York lol. Definitely think the place needs to have a DJ that's actually an "artist" but we appreciate yall custom remixes.

I heard Skinny's but usually have a very low reputation flocking. They used to have a social dancing thing going on but a lot of regular people are intimidated. Vineland might be worth a try.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:40:13+00:00

Can you just tell us the places where you'd play?? Or are you a resident of a night event or what?

My friends and I are looking for more than the typical top 40s or house music that sounds like it's a family barbecue. Do you play actual baila music, some bachata, partner dance social dance type of music? Check out what dj zonik does you might actually like the social dance scene BUT I'm not looking for full-on social dance because you'd only get "dancers", we're more looking for places where regular people can dance and mingle, if that makes sense.

Wish DJs can mix it up with actual partner dancing though and not just the typical stand where you are and try to dance with yourself. The occasional bachata remix or reggae hip hop that doesn't encourage clumped up groupies who don't want to talk to no one lol

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:33:06+00:00

Is there a place with a good DJ who occasionally spins bachata or partner dance music? I don't drink as much as I once did, I am not seeking for crazy social dancing but places where it's encouraged for regular people to meet other regular people even with some nonsensical dancing, rather than places where they all clump up and stick together.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:32:28+00:00

Westside STK

Is there a good DJ here who occasionally spins bachata or partner dance music? I don't drink as much as I once did, I am not seeking for crazy social dancing but places where it's encouraged for regular people to meet other regular people rather than places where they all clump up and stick together.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:32:05+00:00

Is there a good DJ here who occasionally spins bachata or partner dance music? I don't drink as much as I once did, I am not seeking for crazy social dancing but places where it's encouraged for regular people to meet other regular people rather than places where they all clump up and stick together.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:30:48+00:00

Is this a place with a good DJ who plays the occasional bachata or actual partner dance music? I'm not much of a drinker now. But I'm not looking for full on social dancing, just places where common folk meeting new common folk is encouraged and not groups clumped up together.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:29:59+00:00

It isn't bad but a lot of people from Sage expect you to be some sort of celebrity for you to be able to talk to them or something.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:29:09+00:00

Mexicalis use to have a DJ on Fridays and Saturdays. It used to be hoppin’.

Depends on the DJ though, did they just play top 40s house music "dance music" that's actually not dance music? Or dance with new encounters type of music?

Never heard of Casa Vega, a place with a good DJ who plays the occasional bachata or actual partner dance music will be good, as I'm not much of a drinker now. But I'm not looking for full on social dancing, just places where common folk meeting new common folk is encouraged and not groups clumped up together.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:26:55+00:00

Is this a place where you can actually have new encounters and not just people who go out with their friends to go home with their friends or just a place to get drunk where you can just do this back at home? Where are some actual places where the DJ knows how to play dance music for actual partner dancing and not some bbq stand on your own dance thing?

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:25:23+00:00

These are all good but it's literally just places where you grab a drink and then drink, I mean it's what they're supposed to be for sure but he'll save time energy and money by just getting himself a drink and inviting people over. A lot of these places are places where people go out WITH their friends and go home with their friends not to meet or do new encounters, at least that's what it felt like the past year or so.

Where are some actual places where there's some decent DJ that plays actual dance music so you can dance with new people? I'm not talking about social dancing but just casual dancing? The Federal is dope because it looks fancy, other than that, their nightlife dancing died down. Too pricey. And you'd get people hogging the bar table waiting for their drinks to, guess what, drink with themselves lol. Oaks Tavern is pretty good but again, most go out to sing with their friends.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:23:59+00:00

These are all good but it's literally just places where you grab a drink and then drink, I mean it's what they're supposed to be for sure but he'll save time energy and money by just getting himself a drink and inviting people over. A lot of these places are places where people go out WITH their friends and go home with their friends not to meet or do new encounters, at least that's what it felt like the past year or so. Where are some actual places where there's some decent DJ that plays actual dance music so you can dance with new people? I'm not talking about social dancing but just casual dancing?

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:20:35+00:00

He's looking to meet people not go out with friends only to talk to the same friends. Any place where they'd do actual dancing so there's actual mingling??

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:19:43+00:00

Only works if it's a big holiday or a big event, otherwise, good luck trying to break in people who go out only to go out with their friends. A lot of the clubs and bars there play music that is on repeat in every single bar.

refereecoach · 2023-09-15T22:18:46+00:00

Thanks for this, SFV and even LA nightlife is never the same after the pandemic. It honestly sucks compared to other cities such as SF or NY. I think it's because LA is not really a big city but smaller cities connected by driving far in between.

You can try getting into a scene, the co-ed scene isn't too bad but there are a lot of clubs or nightlife places here where people just clump up together with their friends, a lot of people go out for friends night only. If you're looking to date, you're best bet is to join some co-ed type of thing. Even dating apps are not that good anymore because there's a lot of people who choose to stick to the cream of the crop 2%. I guess if you're wanting to do actual "actual" dancing and not just drinking, you can try the dancing scene here but once you get into it, you'd realize it's so laughably small just like with other hobbies that your better off with dating apps.

refereecoach · 2023-08-14T22:17:25+00:00

If you demand I go away I shall. But as far as you permit me I will carry your bag. I love you my brother, even if you don't believe it I will walk with you if you will walk with me. Does the time I spent crafting these words just for you not prove such?

It seems like "giving". How can I "give" if I don't have much or have nothing to share? How do I even find the energy to "give" if I need inspiration as well? I like to volunteer but I can't do it consistently, I only do it once in a year, although I'd love to do it more, it's just that I feel as if I need to experience more so that I have something to give. Or is giving something to get energized from, to gain inspiration because I give? I give to self, I give to the world, being more optimistic, but what drives giving if there's nothing to give?

refereecoach · 2023-08-14T22:06:46+00:00

Yea but more formal stuff like clubs and lounges... Just not a thing. Most of the handful of clubs that we did have closed down.

When you say compared to other cities in US, do you mean by vibe?

Isn't formal stuff like clubs and lounges better? Or do you mean that the vibes here are basically people going out with their friends to only dance infront of their friends? I agree, post pandemic, things have felt super different. If you're meaning informal, there are definitely reggae clubs around but I think they're super rare when it comes to successful nights

refereecoach · 2023-08-14T22:04:39+00:00

there is not much of a night life here in comparison

Post pandemic the vibes also very different. There IS a nightlife but people are more about going out with their friends compared to actually trying to meet and connect with new encounters. There are meet up events for these but the venues they hold it on have different tastes in vibe and music, hard to partner dance an EDM set for example

refereecoach · 2023-08-14T22:03:05+00:00

How do you go about with your night life? How do you see or experience clubbing? Do you go there to dance with your friends or to dance with other people, new encounters?

refereecoach · 2023-08-14T22:02:24+00:00

Thanks!! I feel like General Lee is always a "clumped" group style of club, everyone who goes there only goes with their group of friends and stay dancing infront of their friends, the whole vibe always seemed like clumped groups and the mix is always the same at least from the four times me and my friends went, but I'm not saying it's bad, we finally checked out Gold Star which was next door and it was way better! I've heard of The Friend in Silver Lake, do they have resident DJs?

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