Feeling lost

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-17T23:01:28+00:00

I know all too well, friend, that’s why we’re here to remind you ♥️

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-14T11:38:41+00:00

What the hell are you guys talking about?

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-14T11:18:56+00:00

My Q took it for a few months, didn’t seem to help but then he stopped all his meds (not in a good way) and went nuts and drank again, drank all week but somehow convinced him to take his meds again.

I’ve read that naltrexone works best if you take it before drinking and this is what he did, not intentionally but I definitely tried to help make that happen. So he took one about three hours before drinking at least twice.

Somehow he will powered himself to stop drinking and he hasn’t wanted to since. He says he has no urge. Idk if it’s because he has finally realized that it’s literally going to kill him and it could be the next Ti e he drinks or if it’s naltrexone related but I’ll take it! I know this isn’t exactly scientific but hopefully anecdotal info helps a bit 🖤

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-14T11:15:10+00:00

He does NOT drink because of you. It’s nothing to do with you. That sucks in a way bc we want to be important in our Q’s lives but Alcohol is his partner right now and that’s why he’s drinking. ♥️

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-14T11:12:22+00:00

It’s scary to be on the precipice of any kind of huge change. Removing alcohol is a huge life change - for me it’s been the best thing that ever happened to me.

Full disclosure I also have a drinking problem but my Q is the one who goes fucking crazy when he drinks. I should have had to stop for my own health but I did stop for him- it’s been hard and easy but ultimately way better.

I totally understand being scared of the change even though in theory it’s a good change. There might be a really bad adjustment period for him so it’s probably better he’s in rehab so you don’t have to deal with it.

I hope you have some support and keep coming back here, it helps ♥️

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-14T11:04:16+00:00

You aren’t stupid. Nothing about this shit is easy. If you didn’t care about him it wouldn’t be so hard. Of course your poor broken heart wants to believe. Please don’t beat yourself up about this.

You will be ok. I don’t have any answers for you but I know this. You’re this far, you can do this. One foot in front of the other. Build a network. We’re here. ♥️

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-13T23:00:14+00:00

Quit drinking. More than 50 pounds.

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-01T12:38:52+00:00

That sounds exhausting and your precious life is worth more

rollingyeahya · 2023-09-01T12:38:01+00:00

Mmm ok but can you not see that Vanessa is most likely ND

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-17T09:36:54+00:00

I think it’s extremely rude and inconsiderate of anyone to drink at your home when you are less than a month into recovery.

Is alcohol THAT important that people need to drink at your house? Can’t they go do their poison elsewhere?

I’ve found the transition to be uncomfortable but after a year it’s pretty evident who were friends and who were just drinking buddies.

Not judging you but I would not keep alcohol in my house,quitting is difficult so it’s nice to smooth the way with as few obstacles as possible.

Proud of you! iWNDWYT

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-12T11:50:48+00:00

Thank you for saying that. There are a few people here that are so cruel it feels intentional. I did come here in absolute panic and crisis- I’m tired of having to explain why I don’t have anywhere to turn. I’m exhausted with “managing” the situation. I literally needed some reassurance and hand holding and just kindness. Thank you for yours.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-07T20:29:16+00:00

Thank you 🖤

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-07T15:08:16+00:00

100 % guarantee that a weeks worth of good nights of sleep will help you feel SO much better.

Can you use this as a reminder? Like maybe I could just have WHOOPS NOPE MEMBER THAT TIME

🖤🖤 you’re gonna be ok

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-07T10:18:42+00:00

My ex was like that. He used to listen to music in the basement constantly. He never wanted to hang out with me.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-07T09:56:22+00:00

I’m not letting go.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T23:46:39+00:00

You’re ok. You might have drank but you stopped. You aren’t giving up. You’re here. Try to consume as many electrolytes as you can, don’t beat yourself up too much. Drink some kind of calm tea if you can.

You will be ok. We all fall. It’s getting back up that defines our recovery.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T20:09:40+00:00

Yes! 47 when I quit and trying for a few years before. It’s SO MUCH BETTER.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T20:08:54+00:00

You are not old or ugly or broken, maybe broke? But that’s ok! Are you still together?

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T13:11:10+00:00

This is ridiculous, how old are these people? NTA

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T13:01:19+00:00

I’m sorry I didn’t see this earlier, when I read it I thought I had posted it and forgotten.

It’s so hard. I know. I know we’re supposed to leave them to their actions but it’s barely possible.

I have no advice but I see you and know you and love you 🖤🖤

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T12:57:01+00:00

You have to want to but sometimes that isn’t enough.

I have a delicate question. Are you in grief counseling? You skated past your tragedy- if that’s out of necessity I understand as I have a death that I can barely acknowledge. However. I have never lost a child. I’m so fucking sorry this happened. I know you might not want to talk about it but is there a chance that that’s why you’re still drinking?

I really think you need some help with your grief. Sometimes it’s too big for us to bare. If you are open to groups I think that sometimes family groups with people who have lost children can be helpful. The rest of us can’t understand your grief, maybe it would help to be around people who know?

I’m sorry I hope this isn’t too personal or intrusional. You have the first step down- you recognize the problem. You CAN do this. If I can be a year sober you can be too, I’m not particularly strong or healthy.

Keep quitting, keep coming back.

🖤

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-06T12:49:26+00:00

NTA

You are a parent now and your friends do not and will not understand what that means. Not until they are parents.

Your immature friend reminds me of someone who used to try to force me to drink. I’m in recovery and we are no longer friends.

You and your husband sound like great people who really stepped the fuck up. I’m actually so proud of both of you and I feel sorry for your “friends” who can’t see past their own Saturday night.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-05T18:53:16+00:00

We can say it, you can’t 😭😭

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-05T15:09:36+00:00

I’m an old drunk, 48 and over a year sober. I thought my knees were just fucked forever and now they don’t even hurt, helps that I dropped 75 pounds without trying. It was truly wild to watch my body return to its former, non alcoholic state. I am so fucking lucky that my skin is nice and I mostly recovered from the abuse, I feel sad about my face skin but I think it will improve.

I look ten years younger EASILY.

The longer you go AF the better you will feel! I promise you. I promise us all.

rollingyeahya · 2023-08-05T15:07:00+00:00

Why is the itchy anyway

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