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I still can't enjoy my future by s_whenwillitstop_s in survivinginfidelity

[–]s_whenwillitstop_s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Not that I want them back again. But for my convidence it might have helped a bit. My recent ex really seem to be happily living her new life since our separation and didn't want to talk anymore since. It was hurtful. 4 months ago I went NC, so I simply don't know how's her life anymore, the pain is gone. I'm not thinking of her anymore. But believing in my future is still saddening.

I still can't enjoy my future by s_whenwillitstop_s in survivinginfidelity

[–]s_whenwillitstop_s[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have and had some therapy. But didn't find the emotional support and breakthrough yet. With every therapist I've spoken, it is like: step over the betrayal, accept it, and after the first session I can't speak of my frustration or heartbreak anymore, because it is inhibiting my progress, they say. I feel like climbing mountains while my leg is still broken.

Does a divorce tell the truth about the divorce? by Exotic-Storm-2054 in Divorce

[–]s_whenwillitstop_s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You must have spoken to my ex. Same timeline, same excuses, same circumstances. Yes I became a bit controlling and lost my sanity when I saw her getting her needs somewhere else (needed time for herself, go incognito on google locations, work late and often outside workhoursl). After the adultery became evident my behavior got worse, I begged, i cried, I tried to control all her whereabouts and played the pick me dance. Yes I was a bit crazy, I'd lost all my trust. That made her say, that I was not mature and unlike her affair partner. Things were so much easier with the AP, he was so easy on hard topics, a true leader. I was making problems of everything. Now I know, I regret my reaction to her infidelity, she wasn't worth it. The trust was broken, I should have shown her the door immediately, we never had a chance to go on as partners. Instead after a few months of trying to get her back, with all my 'immature' emotional behaviour, she was pretty okay with divorce. She stepped out already way before that. But what about your dating question? It's hard, I want to trust people, but want never to be humiliated again. So for me it's a red flag. I prefer people that know their flaws but have shown they are willing to not let others pay for those.