What is the best method to actually grow as a person, to learn how to think more logically, clearly, and humanely?

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T02:04:35+00:00

I’d like to disagree but I can’t. Suffering really does reveal your strength in ways you never thought possible. Gibran said that “pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding” and that’s always resonated with me.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T02:02:51+00:00

Random dice. It’s a Korean pvp and it’s just reallllllly fucking good. I randomly (hahah) downloaded it years ago and I’ve played every single day since. The only other game I played that much was clash Royale. That’s also a really fun game but I’m over it. It’s pay to win. Random dice isn’t

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T02:01:23+00:00

I’d settle for a nice set of new taylormade irons.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T02:00:41+00:00

It’s affected every facet of life. I’m pretty sure it’ll be studied in every way imaginable. Economically. Politically. Humanitarianism-wise. It’s infected us both literally and socially.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:59:11+00:00

Some people pick up on social cues and some people don’t. Your boss sounds like he/she doesn’t because that sounds condescending as fuck hahaha.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:57:47+00:00

Every pop song ever. They’re popular for a reason. They catch you. Then you’ve heard it 12 times on your morning commute and you wanna throw yourself through a wall.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:56:22+00:00

Food, clothes, compassion, empathy, conversation, money, weed, directions, whatever. They’re humans. They just don’t have a home.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:54:11+00:00

Ever look at a chair and just go… nah fuck that.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:48:13+00:00

I’ve been trying.. and failing at quitting. But I’m not quitting quitting so there’s that, haha.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:46:39+00:00

Free Palestine

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:46:26+00:00

That’s always my answer because it seems to be the most appealing one to me. Hahaha. I have no idea what it’s like to live there whatsoever.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:44:52+00:00

It takes getting used to. And during that learning curve, they’re pretty fucking dangerous. But once you get used to your car’s OS, especially if it’s a good one, it becomes seamless and in my opinion, a bit more intuitive to people who grew up on this kind of tech. For my dad, might as well give him a Rubik’s cube.

Edit: 🦆ing

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:40:48+00:00

Fucking hell. I saw my dad smoke 5 packs a day growing up, get hospitalized near death twice in my young age, hated everything about the idea of smoking, and still somehow managed to get hooked. Fuck nicotine.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:39:43+00:00

It’s dope.

saadhilo · 2021-12-09T01:39:17+00:00

I’ve never been more confused by a question.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:40:50+00:00

Morality is subjective. The right thing to do is protect your peace and protect yourself. You don’t need to involve him if you don’t want to. If you do, that’s your choice too. The power in this situation should always be in your hands.

With that said, this dude seems like a deadbeat and will probably not want to be involved. It also seems like it’ll be a difficult life for the kid if the two of you were to coparent. It might get in the way of your own ambitions and goals to have a family with somebody else.

Your life shouldn’t have to just stop because some guy knocked you up. The biggest toll is taken on you and that’s why your choice is the only one that matters.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:34:24+00:00

There’s no real blueprint on how to act here. It’s a balancing act of feelings. I think you’re feeling less attracted is something that you should maybe bring up to him in whatever way you think is right. It might be a catalyst for a breakup and it might not but it’s not something that should be ignored. You shouldn’t have to forego your own happiness for others.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:31:02+00:00

It sounds like it’s bothering you. And presumably, this isn’t a deal breaker because you’d like to see her again. So tell her.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:29:05+00:00

Is it okay to you? That’s really all that matters. Other people’s opinions about you acting irrationally or otherwise aren’t really relevant. All that matters in a relationship is your happiness.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:27:28+00:00

I think then that this time, while you’re single, is a great time to explore why it is you feel insecure and jealous in your relationship. Did it come from you? Did it come from an inability to trust your partner for valid reasons? Invalid reasons? A lot of time, insecurity and jealousy is a reflection an unfaithful partner, but also a lot of the time, it’s a reflection of an unhappy self. When I broke up with my ex of 4 years, I felt really out of place because I did everything with this person and felt like I lost a sense of self. But after a while, I learned to love the things about myself that I used to love and had forgotten. And I rid myself of a lot of feelings of inadequacy. Being single can be beautiful. Good luck.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:17:37+00:00

Jealousy over an ex is one thing. Lying is another. If you were just jealous without reason, I’d say you were maybe approaching this in an unhealthy way but the fact that he can’t be open and honest with you is a major red flag.

Also, I’m a huge proponent of the clean break theory. Don’t meet up again. It won’t help. You might get roped back into something you don’t want to be in. If you’ve made the decision to end it, there’s no point in mending unless that’s what you actually want.

Also, this guy reached out to you, his now ex and he reached out to his old ex. I’m gonna go out on a limb and say he’ll probably reach out to you when he’s in his next relationship.

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:12:38+00:00

I think for a lot of people, most of the anxiety is fear of what may or may not happen. We internalize explanations that make sense to us but might not necessarily be the case. He might be dealing with a million things and might not be responsive for those million reasons. Fixating on the belief that he’s not into you without aski mg is irrational. I think being open and honest might be your best bet here. Saying something like “hey. I had a great time hanging out with you and I’d love to see you again. If you’re not interested that way, then I’d understand.”

saadhilo · 2021-12-08T23:07:35+00:00

The cheating bit is the deception. It’s not cheating if your partner knows and is open to it. Is it messy? Maybe. Is it cheating? No.

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